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AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 21:30

My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

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RedLightYellowLight · 31/03/2026 22:46

It’s the goi f against yoir wishes. You could tell her you don’t want her to eat strawberries as you don’t think she could eat Red food, and she shouldn’t be then giving her strawberries every visit.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:44

MsGreying · 31/03/2026 22:38

Does she know you think she'll choke?
I suspect you both need therapy.

Why are children so anxious?

She knows that certain foods are more of a choking risk than others, yes. I would think that’s quite a sensible thing for a child to be told. She doesn’t “know I think she’ll choke” as I don’t think she will. It’s a small risk that could eventuate.

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SemperIdem · 31/03/2026 22:44

You are being ott in my opinion but she is your child. Your mother should listen to you, if you were my friend/sister I would listen regardless of my personal opinion.

MrsMillyFluff · 31/03/2026 22:43

Usernamenotfound1 · 31/03/2026 22:39

Did you have 7 year olds at nursery?

nursery aged children I can understand (under 5). But the o/p’s dd is 7!

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Obviously not! But does a child's windpipe increase tenfold in two years?? I was 8 when I choked, I'll never forget it . Personally I'd rather be safe than sorry!!!

Hollyhobbi · 31/03/2026 22:39

When my youngest dd was about 6 she started choking on a piece of stringy cheese on a pizza! Thankfully it hadn’t gone the whole way down and I was able to just pull it out! People can choke on anything!

Usernamenotfound1 · 31/03/2026 22:39

MrsMillyFluff · 31/03/2026 22:35

As someone who choked on a black bullet as a child and nearly died, I think you need to have stern words with her, mini eggs are a dreadful choking risk. As an ex nursery chef this sends shudders up my spine. Mini eggs are the exact size (like whole grapes) to completely block the child's windpipe.

Did you have 7 year olds at nursery?

nursery aged children I can understand (under 5). But the o/p’s dd is 7!

inickedthisname · 31/03/2026 22:38

Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:36

Thanks for this and the other PP. I’ve not thought about it in this way before and perhaps do use a little too much cotton wool.

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I do still think your DM should do as you ask. It’s not her place to decide what’s safe for your kids.

MsGreying · 31/03/2026 22:38

Does she know you think she'll choke?
I suspect you both need therapy.

Why are children so anxious?

Happyjoe · 31/03/2026 22:37

You should ask your mum how did she feel when other people looking after her children when young repeatedly ignored parental wishes? It may make her listen.

And perhaps tell her that mini eggs are not your child's favourite, however buttons eggs are the ones she likes the most and if really want to spoil her grandchild then buttons all the way!

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:36

inickedthisname · 31/03/2026 22:33

I agree with this. Keeping her safe is more about teaching her how to keep herself safe at this age.

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Thanks for this and the other PP. I’ve not thought about it in this way before and perhaps do use a little too much cotton wool.

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MrsMillyFluff · 31/03/2026 22:35

As someone who choked on a black bullet as a child and nearly died, I think you need to have stern words with her, mini eggs are a dreadful choking risk. As an ex nursery chef this sends shudders up my spine. Mini eggs are the exact size (like whole grapes) to completely block the child's windpipe.

SunnyKoala · 31/03/2026 22:35

The stuff about choking always boggles my mind : lollipops, grapes, mini eggs.... Kids can eat anything as long as you weaned them on real food, not slop, and don't hover or interfere with their confidence or concentration.

And families can and should also kiss and cuddle babies!!

JustSawJohnny · 31/03/2026 22:34

Not even about the mini eggs, for me.

If you've repeatedly asked DM to not do something and she repeatedly does it - wholly unnecessarily too, I'd argue - you have a problem.

I had a thing about big grapes not being cut in half when DS was younger.

What other people thought about that was irrelevant.

Your kid. Your choice.

there are plenty of other easter chocolate options!

BoogieTownTop · 31/03/2026 22:34

Wallaroo21 · 31/03/2026 22:32

My 3 year old came out of nursery with a homemade cake with mini eggs on last week! I swiftly ate them for her of course.

As any good mother would!

Popoverblues · 31/03/2026 22:34

Usernamenotfound1 · 31/03/2026 22:04

She’s 7 though. Much bigger, the trachea will be bigger and mini eggs won’t be big enough to block the airway.

o/p is unreasonable not letting her dd have mini eggs due to a choking risk.

if she’s said to her mum not to give mini eggs then mum should respect that. If she’s said not to give them because of the choking risk specifically, then I can see why mum still gives them, because they aren’t a choking risk for a 7 year old.

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because they aren’t a choking risk for a 7 year old.

I worked in A&E for a long time. I promise you that isn't true.

inickedthisname · 31/03/2026 22:33

Happytaytos · 31/03/2026 22:26

With grapes I'd be teaching her to bite too. At 7 she's going to be going more and more places to eat out of your sight. She's more likely to choke at a friend's if she doesn't know to bite a grape and is given them whole.

I agree with this. Keeping her safe is more about teaching her how to keep herself safe at this age.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:33

Orangy · 31/03/2026 22:30

She could blend them into a paste.

Most sensible suggestion yet. My pestle and mortar doesn’t get enough use.

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Whataloadoffuss · 31/03/2026 22:32

Don't waste the mini eggs! Smash them with a rolling pin, and swirl into icecream!😋
God this thread has me thinking about my dc's hidden easter treats now that should not have to be replaced again.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:32

It may have been light hearted but I don’t have OCD. I have a friend who does and it’s pretty debilitating and quite different from being overly conscious of potential dangers for a KS1 child.

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Wallaroo21 · 31/03/2026 22:32

My 3 year old came out of nursery with a homemade cake with mini eggs on last week! I swiftly ate them for her of course.

Orangy · 31/03/2026 22:30

She could blend them into a paste.

rc22 · 31/03/2026 22:30

Appleandcidergravy · 31/03/2026 21:56

I would just get her to warm up the mini eggs for about 15seconds in the microwave if she does give them to her.... Middle is gooey and less if a choking hazard....
Also warm mini eggs are amazing!!! And I think they are a choking hazard even for adults ..

I was going to say crush them up a bit with a rolling pin and eat them in pieces rather than whole.

Pandasarethebest · 31/03/2026 22:29

I totally agree. I once nearly chocked on a mini egg as a teen (kinda inhaled it). It was scary plus my youngest nearly choked on ice cubes (real thing even though its ice.)

BoogieTownTop · 31/03/2026 22:28

Appleandcidergravy · 31/03/2026 21:56

I would just get her to warm up the mini eggs for about 15seconds in the microwave if she does give them to her.... Middle is gooey and less if a choking hazard....
Also warm mini eggs are amazing!!! And I think they are a choking hazard even for adults ..

I agree that OPs DM should do as she’s asked, however chocolate has no place in a microwave and should be served from the fridge!

Warm chocolate … no!

OnTheGoSlow · 31/03/2026 22:27

@Housemovehopeful2024 you could book your mum onto a first aid course. Suggest it, and if she’s not keen, she’ll soon stop giving them to her.

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