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AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 21:30

My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

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Blue44Lady · 04/04/2026 19:54

I choked on a malteaser when in my 40s!

Somersetlady · 04/04/2026 19:27

I wouldn’t be a fan of this, but more for the amount of shite she seems to be giving your child the mini eggs specifically aged seven!

As others have said, have you explained to her that this is a hard no for you?
If you have then it’s time to ask what else she might be doing against your wishes or what she might do in the future as your child goes through her teens?

Ginagogo · 04/04/2026 19:21

Giftspread · 31/03/2026 21:39

I think it said not gor under 4s on thr packet I scoffed recently, so I think you're being OTT. When are you going to allow whole grapes? On her wedding day?

What do you get out of being this rude? Being cautious over their child’s well being. What happened to parents supporting each other

T1Dmama · 03/04/2026 14:29

I think at 7 your child should know how to chew food properly!! If she doesn’t then it’s about time you had this discussion and tell her that large sweets, grapes etc need to be chewed and not swallowed whole!

However if you’re setting a rule or boundary, however daft it is - the grandparents should respect it!

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 22:31

Your mum childminds your kid for nothing and you are slagging her off all over the Internet over mini eggs. Well I'll tell you something. When my gran watched me and my brother so she could work, after school - she appreciated it. She didn't come with a list of conditions

Anyway who cares. I've got much better things to do right now

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 22:28

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 22:14

That's good for you. Maybe some parents would welcome the money. Also. You're quite right that I posted 9 times tonight - but most of the posts I made were in response to other people. Not you. I didn't realise there was a limit on how often you could post before someone chinned you and not other people who I posted

I cease to care with your snippy snippy posts

I almost lost my mum 8 years ago from an aggressive cancer. Hopefully you'll sort things out with yours even if your mum doesn't watch your kids again

Don't go in on me for saying things other people have said. I don't appreciate it. Unwatching.

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I’m sorry for your loss 💐

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Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 22:16

Don't post too much folks! You'll get the snippy folk out in abundance telling you you've dared post too much and you want people to bite. I don't post anything on here to get people to bite - hope that helps.

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 22:14

Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 22:03

All snittiness aside, I have to say, I have not ever come across this among any of my family or friends. My mum won’t even accept money to reimburse her for expenses and so I would be surprised if she wanted to make it a more commercial arrangement by paying for her services. I could ask, of course, which I admit I haven’t but I actually think she would be quite offended if I offered.

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That's good for you. Maybe some parents would welcome the money. Also. You're quite right that I posted 9 times tonight - but most of the posts I made were in response to other people. Not you. I didn't realise there was a limit on how often you could post before someone chinned you and not other people who I posted

I cease to care with your snippy snippy posts

I almost lost my mum 8 years ago from an aggressive cancer. Hopefully you'll sort things out with yours even if your mum doesn't watch your kids again

Don't go in on me for saying things other people have said. I don't appreciate it. Unwatching.

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 22:05

Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 22:04

Sorry, you’ve posted 9 times on this thread this evening alone and so I presumed you wanted me to bite.

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Sorry what?

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 22:04

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 21:58

Sorry what. Lots of people have said the same thing - don't bother picking my posts out.

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Sorry, you’ve posted 9 times on this thread this evening alone and so I presumed you wanted me to bite.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 22:03

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 21:25

That wasn't my point. You can be as snide as you like about my comment but some people do pay their parents if they are providing childcare. You mentioned the word childcare and having other options for it - so that's why I made the post I did

Some people would give their parents a contribution for providing childcare if they could afford it

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All snittiness aside, I have to say, I have not ever come across this among any of my family or friends. My mum won’t even accept money to reimburse her for expenses and so I would be surprised if she wanted to make it a more commercial arrangement by paying for her services. I could ask, of course, which I admit I haven’t but I actually think she would be quite offended if I offered.

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Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 21:58

Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 21:41

You don’t see why mini eggs are a particular risk? Is that really true?!

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Sorry what. Lots of people have said the same thing - don't bother picking my posts out.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 21:41

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 20:50

Well as I said before. The OP can tell her mum she no longer wants her to babysit. I know someone who had a daughter who choked to death on a piece of ham - it is really hard to eliminate every risk - that was my point

I also don't see why mini eggs are a particular risk

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You don’t see why mini eggs are a particular risk? Is that really true?!

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Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 21:27

Housemovehopeful2024 · 01/04/2026 12:24

Yes albeit entirely on her terms - she asks to do it and prompts me if she hasn’t had her to stay for a while. I have childcare options other than her, so I don’t lean on her heavily.

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Here we go. The word childcare. Sorry that I dared ask if you were paying your mum for providing childcare for your child. Hope that clarifies why I posted what I did

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 21:25

Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 21:18

She’s not ever invoiced me so no, I haven’t. I wasn’t aware people normally paid their parents to spend time with their grandchildren.

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That wasn't my point. You can be as snide as you like about my comment but some people do pay their parents if they are providing childcare. You mentioned the word childcare and having other options for it - so that's why I made the post I did

Some people would give their parents a contribution for providing childcare if they could afford it

FurForksSake · 02/04/2026 21:20

My husband nearly choked to death on Maltesers. The first twenty he put in his mouth were fine but the 21st suddenly occluded his airway completely. I can’t remember how he managed, I found it so funny it can’t have been too serious. But we do still talk about the near death experience caused by a competition to see how may Maltesers he could fit in his mouth.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 02/04/2026 21:18

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 18:29

Do you pay her for the childcare she provides? If you really aren't happy then you can say no - you aren't minding her again and ask someone else to do it.

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She’s not ever invoiced me so no, I haven’t. I wasn’t aware people normally paid their parents to spend time with their grandchildren.

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Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 21:08

sanityisamyth · 02/04/2026 21:04

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-67145463?app-referrer=deep-link

Very sad.

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Think that's a bit different - shoving as many in your mouth as you can - yes. Very sad

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 21:07

Popoverblues · 02/04/2026 20:54

She of course can do that, I'm sure she's well aware of that option. She wouldn't be unreasonable at all.

You seem to think that inability to remove every risk negates removing obvious ones.

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Is that right? Thanks for the unwanted psycho analysis. Where's the risk for a 7 year old eating a mini egg? Do you have a PhD in mini eggs?

Rhaenys · 02/04/2026 20:57

Popoverblues · 02/04/2026 20:52

That's factally inaccurate

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Which part of it?

Popoverblues · 02/04/2026 20:54

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 20:50

Well as I said before. The OP can tell her mum she no longer wants her to babysit. I know someone who had a daughter who choked to death on a piece of ham - it is really hard to eliminate every risk - that was my point

I also don't see why mini eggs are a particular risk

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She of course can do that, I'm sure she's well aware of that option. She wouldn't be unreasonable at all.

You seem to think that inability to remove every risk negates removing obvious ones.

Popoverblues · 02/04/2026 20:52

Rhaenys · 02/04/2026 20:51

At 7 years old you’re no more likely to choke on a mini egg than anything else as their windpipes are bigger. It’s an irrational anxiety at that point.

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That's factally inaccurate

Blueshoey484 · 02/04/2026 20:51

The child could be eating Maltesers. Any other small kind of chocolate. If she isn't swallowing them whole what is the risk from choking?

Rhaenys · 02/04/2026 20:51

Popoverblues · 02/04/2026 20:29

Choking creates dead children. Very quickly. All parents react much the same way when they get the news, whether or not they were 'non-anxious' parents previously.

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At 7 years old you’re no more likely to choke on a mini egg than anything else as their windpipes are bigger. It’s an irrational anxiety at that point.

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