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AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 21:30

My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

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BertieBotts · 31/03/2026 22:27

You are watching too many online safety videos.

Bashing mini eggs up with a rolling pin is borderline unhinged and a bit sad. I am imagining heartbroken DC who just want a whole egg! (That was a reply, not the OP, but they also had a 7yo).

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Does Everyone on Reddit Have OCD?

The worst thing for people with OCD is other people who don’t know they have OCD

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BringBackCatsEyes · 31/03/2026 22:27

Telling someone how much they cost would cause anyone to choke!

Happytaytos · 31/03/2026 22:26

With grapes I'd be teaching her to bite too. At 7 she's going to be going more and more places to eat out of your sight. She's more likely to choke at a friend's if she doesn't know to bite a grape and is given them whole.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:26

echt · 31/03/2026 22:16

Obviously your mum should do as you've asked, but what caught my attention was all the bloody food. Is every visit by her predicated on sweets and chocolate? Or are these egg examples? If the former, that's what I'd be paying attention to.

She does always provide a lot of treats (once sometimes twice a week). That’s food and also gifts which is excessive IMO.

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Dalmationday · 31/03/2026 22:25

Above 3-4 yo should be fine! My 5 yo would eat them

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:24

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 31/03/2026 22:22

You’re obviously over anxious as a smartie is nowhere near the size or shape of a mini egg.

Smarties are fine (I’m not that anxious). It was the smarties branded eggs, which are basically mini eggs by a different name.

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:23

Happytaytos · 31/03/2026 22:17

Your mum should listen, no matter how batshit she thinks you are.

But at 7yo she should know to bite things like mini eggs, tomatoes, grape, banana rounds, sausage etc. Otherwise when do they become safe?

Don’t think I’ve ever been called batshit before 😂😂 I’m normally seen as quite reasonable!

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Amba1998 · 31/03/2026 22:23

Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 21:53

I’d not thought about marshmallows being risky before!

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The absolute devil. No one is backslapping a sticky tacky marshmallow from anyone’s airway

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 31/03/2026 22:22

You’re obviously over anxious as a smartie is nowhere near the size or shape of a mini egg.

Arcticbattle32 · 31/03/2026 22:22

My kids are older now but I always used to worry about mini eggs. You need to be very clear to her - no mini eggs. Perhaps they’re a risk, perhaps they’re not but ether way you are her mum so you make the rules.

Usernamenotfound1 · 31/03/2026 22:22

Yellowdaff25 · 31/03/2026 22:20

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable but I am absolutely terrified of mini eggs because you hear so many horror stories about them and I am generally very overly anxious about my children choking anyway😳

Where are you hearing all these “horror stories” about mini eggs?

this is honestly the first time I’ve heard of them being a choking hazard. I wouldn’t have even thought about it unless my kids were very young (under 5).

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Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 22:21

Thanks everyone. It’s interesting to see all of the perspectives.

To reply to the PP about what she said when I mentioned it - she said she makes sure she crunches them.

I think perhaps I need to be less uptight about allowing mini eggs (the microwave idea is a good one) but still think my mum should listen to me, even if she does think I’m excessively paranoid.

I do tend to still chop up grapes, partly habit, partly because I think why not reduce the risk? - but then I actually prefer them chopped up so I do this for myself too (not because I’m concerned about my own choking risk).

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Yellowdaff25 · 31/03/2026 22:20

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable but I am absolutely terrified of mini eggs because you hear so many horror stories about them and I am generally very overly anxious about my children choking anyway😳

PurpleThistle7 · 31/03/2026 22:20

Anyone should respect the parents and listen to their rules, even if they are a bit surprising to them. I think it’s bizarre your mum has found quite so many options for mini eggs - is she doing it on purpose? Personally I’d think a mini egg on its own is far less risky than one in or on something else as you can bite it right away, but there’s no need to purposefully do something to make a parent anxious. Is this the only time she’s like this or is your mum generally dismissive of your parenting choices?

RodeoClown · 31/03/2026 22:19

echt · 31/03/2026 22:16

Obviously your mum should do as you've asked, but what caught my attention was all the bloody food. Is every visit by her predicated on sweets and chocolate? Or are these egg examples? If the former, that's what I'd be paying attention to.

I know! Why is she having all of these mini eggs? It’s not even Easter for a start.

Happytaytos · 31/03/2026 22:17

Your mum should listen, no matter how batshit she thinks you are.

But at 7yo she should know to bite things like mini eggs, tomatoes, grape, banana rounds, sausage etc. Otherwise when do they become safe?

VickyEadieofThigh · 31/03/2026 22:16

Heynow87 · 31/03/2026 21:50

My DD (age 7) is prone to choking til the point of vomiting and it terrifies me every time! So I agree, no mini eggs, hot dogs cut lengthways, grapes and cherry tomatoes are quartered and marshmallows are toasted until completely gooey.

I burnt my mouth quite badly on a toasted marshmallow - doesn't that concern you if you're toasting them to such a degree?

echt · 31/03/2026 22:16

Obviously your mum should do as you've asked, but what caught my attention was all the bloody food. Is every visit by her predicated on sweets and chocolate? Or are these egg examples? If the former, that's what I'd be paying attention to.

likelysuspect · 31/03/2026 22:16

Isittimeformynapyet · 31/03/2026 22:07

Not confused here.

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Well she asks two questions in one, so one answer might not apply to both parts of the questions.

Which is why you dont pay attention to the poll if you do that.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 31/03/2026 22:15

Gall10 · 31/03/2026 22:06

People can choke at any age….should all solid food be banned and everyone exist on a liquid diet?

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Whilst I don't think the OP is BU to be annoyed at having her wishes dismissed I'd love to know what age her DD will be deemed safe to eat Mini Eggs. 12? 32? 78?

WaltzingWaters · 31/03/2026 22:14

Housemovehopeful2024 · 31/03/2026 21:53

I’d not thought about marshmallows being risky before!

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Marshmallows are the worst for potential choking. The stickiness means they get stuck, and they also expand with saliva, so it’s difficult to remove them with the usual methods.

YANBU. Choking makes me nervous. But at the same time you can’t restrict these things forever. at 7 I’d say to begin letting her have them if she eats them sensibly.

Nuffpills · 31/03/2026 22:13

Your Mum should listen to you !
I will not allow my granddaughter grapes,mini eggs ,cherry tomatoes if she is with me . She is aged 6 . I choked on a grape in my 20s and my work colleague had to give me abdominal thrust. It was absolutely terrifying and I have been quite traumatised by it . Luckily I had just qualified as a nurse so I was surrounded by knowledgeable people.

Orangy · 31/03/2026 22:10

Some spectacular missing of the point on this thread.

Your thoughts about the safety or otherwise of mini eggs isn’t the issue.

The issue is OP has given an instruction to another adult not give her child a particular type of food. Despite this, the other adult has ignored that instruction.

It’s disrespectful and arrogant of the other adult, and OP isn’t unreasonable.

Moonlightdust · 31/03/2026 22:09

Gall10 · 31/03/2026 22:06

People can choke at any age….should all solid food be banned and everyone exist on a liquid diet?

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Quite. I think this is absurd.

Isittimeformynapyet · 31/03/2026 22:07

Namechangerage · 31/03/2026 21:56

Well you phrased it confusingly. Is YANBU “mini eggs are a hazard” or is it “in any event your mum should listen to you” because most people are just voting YABU if they do not agree Mini eggs are a hazard…

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Not confused here.