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Free cake in Tupperware “breach”

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Orangy · 31/03/2026 20:40

I work in an office and like any office, people bring in cakes for any old reason.

Most people eat their cake there and then at their desk, with a brew. However, one colleague takes a cake, puts it in a Tupperware container, and takes it home to eat at the weekend.

She does this because she’s very much into her her health and fitness (and looks great for it) and Saturday is her “cheat day”.

For some reason, some of our colleagues are utterly incensed about this practice of removing the cake in Tupperware. I can’t see the fuss myself, don’t care whether she eats it on the day or at the weekend, but some are acting like she’s breached some unwritten cardinal rule of office etiquette.

Surely my Tupperware colleague isn't being unreasonable?

PS - It’s not me. I eat on the day.

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Duckingpondlake · 05/04/2026 19:33

If I was Queen of the World I'd ban office cake. The bloody drama! Eating a soggy, horrible slice of cake whilst smiling and profusely thanking the baker. Finding a way to politely turn down a slice of cake from someone who I know allows her cats on the worktops. The PA comments when someone says they want to take cake home for their dc rather than eat at work. God I'm a fun sponge!

Flamingojune · 05/04/2026 18:28

Sounds like they have food issues

monkeymamma · 05/04/2026 18:10

I’d be really chuffed that the cake I’d brought was considered delicious enough for top billing on someone’s cheat day!

Thingsthatgo · 05/04/2026 18:07

In my work bringing in treats is generally intended to be fun and social. I work in a small business with about 8 people. My colleague brings in tiramisu that he makes for us, I think he would be insulted if I scraped it into a box to take home.
If I go to the trouble of making a batch of shortbread and everyone pops them in their bags, I don’t get the warm fuzzy feeling of everyone telling me how delicious they are! Even if I buy a cake for everyone it feels pretty tight to take a piece home.

Does Tupperware colleague ever bring in cakes to share?

tinyspiny · 05/04/2026 17:31

I wouldn’t be outraged or particularly bothered about her taking her cake home but I do think it’s a bit odd , if I didn’t want to eat the cake at the time I just wouldn’t have one .

rainbowunicorn · 05/04/2026 17:28

I just cant get over the fact that people pay attention to stuff like this. I work in an office. There's always cake, cookies, donuts etc getting brought in by somebody. I honestly couldn't tell you who eats it, who dosen't, who takes some home. It is stuck on the table in the communal area, sometimes it goes fast other times it is there a couple days. Some people must have sad lives if they can pay any attention to this.

Meteorite87 · 05/04/2026 17:17

countdowntonap · 31/03/2026 21:02

I love that she appreciates your baking enough to schedule it into her ‘cheat’ day, and believe she will enjoy that indulgence much more than just scoffing it down at work.

Yes and it's not as if she is taking 8 portions of baked treat away with her.

lap90 · 01/04/2026 13:51

I think your colleagues are being weird.

FookFookFook · 01/04/2026 13:49

I actually think this would annoy me! But I know that's unreasonable ... and im not sure why? It just seems against the 'spirit' of the cake being brought in. Which is ridiculous. I AM being unreasonable. But I remain annoyed 😆

WhatAMarvelousTune · 01/04/2026 13:48

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 31/03/2026 21:56

They’d hate me as I cut two pieces, wrap them in a napkin and take the cake home for my kids. It probably only works out that I do that twice a year but still, I’d bet they’d be frothing.

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I have food allergies so none of the office treat behaviour ever affect me personally, as I can’t eat it anyway. But I’d think you were a bit of a dick taking two slices for people who aren’t even there. It’s totally different to OP’s colleague who is taking one piece, the same as everyone else, and just eating it at a different time.

Goodmorningvinyasa · 01/04/2026 13:34

It could be worse, I once worked with someone who would stash bits of cake put out in the office into old crisp packets that I assume she had rinsed out and take them home that way. Never saw her eating any of it in the office.

Scruffysquirrels · 01/04/2026 13:34

Interesting that some would have Colin but avoid homemade.

I'm a bit like Colleague, in that I'm careful not to eat too much junk and in a world where there's cake in the staff room nearly everyday, I have learned to be selective, I don't want cake everyday. I'd swerve Colin, but have a piece of something homemade if it looked good. I wouldn't take it home though.

truepenguin · 01/04/2026 12:53

It's interesting that she brings in a tupperware for the purpose of taking home a cake. Surely a cake should be 'how lovely' 'what a nice thought'. Perhaps the tupperware signals some kind of entitlement or expectation to your colleagues. A degree of pre-planning that detracts from what is intended to be a 'ta-da!' gesture.

Also, squirreling it away to eat out of sight suggests she is 'no better than she ought to be' as my granny would say (In this case, you are all fat pigs but I am not like you).

tamade · 01/04/2026 12:41

Presumably your colleagues think that the cake is some sort of bonding experience and the fitnesses colleague is entering into the spirit, which is fair enough. But I don’t think that they should have any problem with what you described.

Alicorn1707 · 01/04/2026 09:36

Orangy · 31/03/2026 22:18

Whilst we’re on this topic, if someone brings in a Colin the Caterpillar, who should get the chocolate face? First come first served?

whomever brought in the cake should always gets first dibs @Orangy

Who are these folks who'd deprive the purchaser of such a tasty morsel?

Heathens!!

StrawberrySquash · 01/04/2026 09:12

I can see a logic for the complainers; cake in the office is partly about the act of eating and sharing together, to take a bite and compliment the baker etc. It's not just functional. But I think that's outweighed by the reasonable adjustment logic of she has her treats at the weekend. Choosing that as a treat is a compliment. I'd make a similar argument for someone fasting during Ramadan. And I've certainly taken cake, put it on a plate and then eaten it later that afternoon.

365RubyRed · 01/04/2026 09:10

Bloody hell, there must be very little going on at your workplace! Who cares when she eats her bit of cake?

I wouldn't be too happy at the poster taking two bits of cake home for her kids though, especially if someone is missing out.

I'm always a bit iffy about home made cake personally just in case.

DripDripAprilshower · 01/04/2026 09:08

I’m going to take a guess that the people outraged by it are women, over 40 and fat.

ClairDeLaLune · 01/04/2026 09:03

Tupperware colleague is unreasonable. And weird. The whole point of bringing cakes into the office is to foster a nice team spirit by sharing food and eating a treat together, not supplying some tightwad with a snack for the weekend 🤷‍♀️

Simssars · 01/04/2026 08:47

Aaagh, there's a difference, Colin cake yum I'm in, home made no hygiene provenance cake, not so much. So if its premium Colin and she takes it and someone goes without cf, if she snaffles a slice that Sandra's grandkids have sneezed on knock yourself out wgaf.

JetFlight · 01/04/2026 08:37

That’s weird of your colleagues. It really doesn’t matter. My colleagues would have been thrilled that the cake was taken. They were all cake pushers and it didn’t matter if you wanted one or not, you got one along with a napkin.

ImaginationLand · 01/04/2026 08:35

Orangy · 01/04/2026 08:18

Yes, real Colin has a large solid white chocolate face and it is glorious, like God himself baked it (and then stuck the face on).

😂sounds better but I don’t like white chocolate😭

Orangy · 01/04/2026 08:18

ImaginationLand · 01/04/2026 08:14

I must be buying the wrong knockoff Colin, mine never has a chocolate face, it’s icing sugar and we always bin that bit. It used to be the bum that was the best bit but they’ve changed it again so it’s no longer the case. Is it only the real Colin that has the chocolate face?

Yes, real Colin has a large solid white chocolate face and it is glorious, like God himself baked it (and then stuck the face on).

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ImaginationLand · 01/04/2026 08:14

I must be buying the wrong knockoff Colin, mine never has a chocolate face, it’s icing sugar and we always bin that bit. It used to be the bum that was the best bit but they’ve changed it again so it’s no longer the case. Is it only the real Colin that has the chocolate face?

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 31/03/2026 23:06

bridgetreilly · 31/03/2026 22:13

If it’s taking one that’s left towards the end of the day, sure. If she goes into get first pick and then stashes it to take home, I would raise my eyebrows. But I couldn’t get incensed about it.

Weird, why should that make a difference? Just because she’s eating it later doesn’t mean she should get the scraps.

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