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New bf cat sit down- would this annoy you?

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Preert · 31/03/2026 15:47

I’ve met a nice bloke. But he’s one of those people that can’t chill even for 5 mins: he’s always walking to get a coffee, picking the paper. The secondary I am out of something he has his coat and shoes on. It just really unsettles me as mad as that sounds. I am grateful he is wanting to get things in for me. But he’s in and out the house at least 5x a day.

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Steeleydan · 31/03/2026 19:32

lovegoodcoffee · 31/03/2026 16:49

And I came here for a post about a sit down with a cat ....

So did I!!

CaptainMyCaptain · 31/03/2026 19:31

lovegoodcoffee · 31/03/2026 16:49

And I came here for a post about a sit down with a cat ....

Me too

likelysuspect · 31/03/2026 19:30

The cat always gets on just as you think 'I better get up and use the loo'

Nope, not for a while now.

YourShyLion · 31/03/2026 19:28

Aww I was looking forward to hearing about the cat

FitAt50 · 31/03/2026 19:28

I wonder if he is posting somewhere about his new girlfriend who can't compose a basic sentence 😜

Bombombomtralala · 31/03/2026 19:27

My cat always sits with his back to me which is incredibly rude.

Usernamenotfound1 · 31/03/2026 19:26

RedWineCupcakes · 31/03/2026 16:53

I was here for the cat too.

The cat wins every time.

Maybe that is the answer. Get him a cat so he can't keep getting up.

Yeah cat privileges. If the cat is sat on you you can not move and everyone else must fetch anything you need as the cat must not be disturbed.

Gazelda · 31/03/2026 19:25

Oh OP. You must be feline silly now.

RonnieCharter · 31/03/2026 19:24

OP it’s GREAT to have children with these types of people! He’ll be so active and involved. As long as you’re given your time to rest etc, just know an active person it going to get shit done.

5128gap · 31/03/2026 19:20

Whosthetabbynow · 31/03/2026 16:50

Yeh! I thought “ooo wonder why the cat can’t sit down”

Same. I came for tips because my cat can't sit down. Up on my knee, kneading, turning, bum in my face, turn again, rubbing my face with his face, more kneading, grooming, turning kneading...then jumps off to lie on an envelope on the table.
My partner meanwhile barely stands up. So this thread has nothing to do with my life, and I'll get my coat.

EmpressaurusKitty · 31/03/2026 19:16

You’d find life a lot more peaceful if it was just you & the cat, OP.

honeylulu · 31/03/2026 19:10

I thought it was going to be a post about you having to sit on the floor at your boyfriend's house because the Cat gets first dibs on the sofa. 😂

Anyway, my husband does the constant busyness/popping in and out thing. I try not to notice it but it irritates me sometimes because he'll pop out to buy a paper, come back, decide to do a small DIY job, pop out to B&Q without planning what he needs, come back, realise he hasn't measured up properly, back to B&Q, then oh look it's time for lunch, pop to tesco express ... I have long suspected it's a way of (a) being too busy to look after the kids on his own (though they're older now and he still does it, maybe out of habit) and (b) stopping me from making any fixed plans (he has a horror of preplanned stuff and wants to be "spontaneous" which ironically means he never actually does anything except pop in and out of the house making a small job last the whole day - I just plan stuff with my friends now).

Don't know if any of that sounds familiar. He might just be very energetic and needs to be up and about all the time.

Nofeckingway · 31/03/2026 19:10

You mean there is no cat involved whatsoever? What kind of clickbait is this .
LTB

StudyinBlue · 31/03/2026 19:09

I thought the cat was breastfed and sat down 😂😂😂 I thought it was some weird drunk thread.

Sammy900 · 31/03/2026 19:03

I wondered why the new bf was being annoying by making the cat sit down

Planner2026 · 31/03/2026 19:00

Also came to stick up for the cat. Sorry OP

likelysuspect · 31/03/2026 18:58

lovegoodcoffee · 31/03/2026 16:49

And I came here for a post about a sit down with a cat ....

Absolutely this.

What a fucking let down

Im off to the corner shop for some cat food anyway.

BatFeminist · 31/03/2026 18:57

My brother was like this when he was in recovery from alcoholism. This may not have any relevance, but a bit of chill time with a partner is a nicr thing

EmpressaurusKitty · 31/03/2026 18:54

I bet it’s an AI title & the AI hallucinated the cat.

Here’s my cat pondering the mystery while sitting on her cat tree.

New bf cat sit down- would this annoy you?
Huckleberries · 31/03/2026 18:53

Poor OP 😂

Actual answer

Is it the hyperactivity that's bothering you or the fact that he's going out when you're there? Live together? What do you mean the second you're out of something He put his coat and shoes on?

I would struggle to live with somebody hyperactive but I also think it would do me good because I'm getting quite lazy

Is it that you want him to sit down with you more? I need more of an explanation apart from the cat.

But getting a cat who won't shift from his lap is definitely an answer

pinkyredrose · 31/03/2026 18:53

lovegoodcoffee · 31/03/2026 16:49

And I came here for a post about a sit down with a cat ....

Me too!

LBFseBrom · 31/03/2026 18:51

lovegoodcoffee · 31/03/2026 16:49

And I came here for a post about a sit down with a cat ....

Yes, I thought it was about a cat, possibly doing a sit-down protest at the op.

GinaandGin · 31/03/2026 18:50

It would annoy me
I can't have hyper,always on the go people who always have to be doing
Sit the f down and relax.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 31/03/2026 18:43

Sitting down with two cats...

New bf cat sit down- would this annoy you?
SonsRfab · 31/03/2026 18:24

lovegoodcoffee · 31/03/2026 16:49

And I came here for a post about a sit down with a cat ....

Me too 😅

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