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Are other full-time working families finding there is nothing left?

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fatface001 · 31/03/2026 08:40

Alarm went off at 5:30 this morning, then an hour stood on a packed train into London for the commute. We are a normal family: one child and two full-time jobs. I’ve always enjoyed working and have always worked hard, and I don’t mind that at all — but I do expect that full-time work should still mean there’s something left at the end of the month for a normal life.

But that really doesn’t feel like the case anymore.

There’s nothing left at the end of the month. Everything has been stripped back, all non-essentials have gone, and even basic things around the house are being put off or done ourselves because there isn’t spare money for trades. It’s just constant cutting back.

What’s hard is that we’re both working really long hours and doing everything we’re “supposed” to do, but it still feels like we’re going backwards rather than getting ahead.

When I hear talk about “those with the broadest shoulders” contributing more, I honestly don’t recognise it anymore in real life. It doesn’t feel like anyone in our position has anything left to give — it feels like the pressure is entirely on ordinary working households just to stand still.

I’m not looking for luxuries — just the sense that working still gives you a bit of breathing room. Right now it doesn’t feel like that at all.

Is anyone else feeling the same?

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womendeserveequalhumanrights · 31/03/2026 12:49

Whilst it's great cutting your own hair (3 out of 4 people in this house do it) if everyone does it, that's a lot of small businesses going bust and a lot less tax to the taxman.

Anyway, agree with others that say it's mad that people working full-time jobs need UC, employers should pay more. The state should not be stepping in to prop up crappy wages. Something is fundamentally broken when that is the case.

We have family in the US - in the last 20 years there's been a HUGE divergence in quality of life in people on the exact same jobs (e.g nurse). Pay is massively higher in the US for the same job.

LookUpnotDown · 31/03/2026 12:48

Suncatch · 31/03/2026 12:41

Why don't billionaires pay a SINGLE PENNY in tax? Are people barely scraping by to blame? Or is it filthy rich, ruthless and morally bankrupt oligarchs? Where does the blame lie @Lameelephant ?

Is it them forinners? It is, innit!

The fact that middle earners are now feeling the pinch is a pivotal moment. Some may have been looking down as they were told to, blaming those on benefits etc. Now they are experiencing it first hand and they won’t accept it as they know it shouldn’t be the case. Things are going to change.

Ilovemsrachel · 31/03/2026 12:48

goldingoose · 31/03/2026 11:51

You are angry at billionaires? Please explain in what way they are "making mugs of all of us". @Ilovemsrachel

Have you not read a newspaper recently?

Suncatch · 31/03/2026 12:44

goldingoose · 31/03/2026 12:40

Well you'd better hope "the billionaires" don't all leave the UK, cos then your tax bills will certainly go up.

Jealousy is not a virtue. @angelos02

You seriously don't think that people with billions to their name have got to where they are through work ethic? That they don't exploit the masses? Don't make me laugh! 😭

witheringrowan · 31/03/2026 12:43

And I'm sure your well thought out proposal will be the one that works. It's not as if multiple governments and economists across many geographies have tried and failed to do this previously.

The OECD in 2018: "Net wealth taxes have frequently failed to meet their redistributive goals. The revenues collected from net wealth taxes have also, with a few exceptions, been very low. "

LookUpnotDown · 31/03/2026 12:42

goldingoose · 31/03/2026 12:40

Well you'd better hope "the billionaires" don't all leave the UK, cos then your tax bills will certainly go up.

Jealousy is not a virtue. @angelos02

They won’t all leave. That line keeps getting repeated to crush the idea. Some might, not many. Let’s face it you can up and leave as an individual it’s harder to take your assets with you.

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 12:42

And anyone with half decent hair maintenance will agree it is not comparatively expensive.

Suncatch · 31/03/2026 12:41

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 11:53

Absolutely, for the simple reason that you are being taxed extremely heavily to fund non working/low earning families.

Why don't billionaires pay a SINGLE PENNY in tax? Are people barely scraping by to blame? Or is it filthy rich, ruthless and morally bankrupt oligarchs? Where does the blame lie @Lameelephant ?

Is it them forinners? It is, innit!

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 12:41

IlovePhilMitchell · 31/03/2026 12:39

£150 is expensive for hair. If you’re skint you get a basic chop or do it yourself.

If you're a two full-time professional income household that needs to "do it yourself" the economy is screwed, though.

goldingoose · 31/03/2026 12:40

angelos02 · 31/03/2026 12:00

I'd imagine it is because tax payers are paying for a proportion of their payroll - via working tax credits. Just a guess. Not paying inheritance tax. Spending their money on paying a tiny proportion of tax on the money generated for them by others. We are going back in time. The poor are staying poor and the middle are getting poorer in real terms. If you can't see what is being done to us, I give up.

Well you'd better hope "the billionaires" don't all leave the UK, cos then your tax bills will certainly go up.

Jealousy is not a virtue. @angelos02

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 12:39

TheAmusedQuail · 31/03/2026 12:10

Why? Because if we look at the world, the majority of the population would envy just that? I'm happy to have a secure roof over my head. I'm happy not to worry about paying my bills. Many on this thread can't. My parents couldn't. I know that is a luxury.

Since when has having an expensive car, a pricey holiday, £150 hair & £40 nails or a ridiculously over priced coffee been the standard to aim for? It sounds like conspicuous consumption to me, AKA a waste of money. 1 or 2 on that list occasionally is great. But expecting a full-time job (unless you're a lawyer or a stockbroker) to pay for all that has more or less always been unrealistic.

Why? Because quite obviously we need people to work. Taxes on work and every other little thing Labour attempt to slip in need to come down dramatically and immediately, funded by reductions in benefits.

IlovePhilMitchell · 31/03/2026 12:39

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 12:35

£150 is not expensive for hair, as an aside.

More importantly, if people can't afford to buy even small nice things then the safe environment you've enjoyed your whole life is going to deteriorate as they start to take them by force or fraud instead. Most people are not content with sitting looking at their mortgaged up walls all month.

£150 is expensive for hair. If you’re skint you get a basic chop or do it yourself.

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 12:39

TheAmusedQuail · 31/03/2026 12:37

£150 is two weeks food for my household. So it IS a lot.

Small nice things are a fiver or under. Not a 5K holiday or a 25K new car. Those are luxuries. As are hair dos that cost more than £150!

It's a lot cheaper than a standard cut and colour in any city salon. Mine is c. £200 (not in the south East). I would be miserable with ugly hair.

I don't really care what you think is reasonable and nor will anyone else. Some people get a thrill from self denial but most do not.

BrieAndChilli · 31/03/2026 12:39

Last month is cost me £85 to fill up my car - yesterday it cost £105!!!
We both work full time - DH on a pretty good wage and me on average, 3 teenagers and an mortgage on an ex-council house (extended but still nothing fancy and nowhere near as expensive as the new build rabbit hutches popping up everywhere) yet I feel we have less disposable income than when we were renting and the kids were small.

I am really worried about the economy - if we all have to stop buying 'luxuries' and I don't mean designer handbags, I mean a cup of coffee or cinema ticket, then a lot of businesses will fold due to a mix of increased costs from 'fuel increases' and decline in customers. Less jobs available and more people needing to claim benefits - where is this money going to come from?

Dontasksillyquestions · 31/03/2026 12:37

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 09:26

You are just beholden to whichever government is in charge instead which comes with its own stress.

I much preferred the stress that came with working, I hate having to rely on the government.

We are all beholden to whichever government comes in though. They’re the ones who decide if tax or NI go up plus a myriad of other decisions which affect interest rates, food prices and everything else.

It’s quite scary to think that if DH or I lost our job, we wouldn’t be able to afford our mortgage and bills on one income.

Differentforgirls · 31/03/2026 12:37

Summerhut2025 · 31/03/2026 12:17

85% off their child care costs too.

Don’t you all get free hours? People who aren’t working don’t need childcare so I’m struggling to see what you mean.

TheAmusedQuail · 31/03/2026 12:37

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 12:35

£150 is not expensive for hair, as an aside.

More importantly, if people can't afford to buy even small nice things then the safe environment you've enjoyed your whole life is going to deteriorate as they start to take them by force or fraud instead. Most people are not content with sitting looking at their mortgaged up walls all month.

£150 is two weeks food for my household. So it IS a lot.

Small nice things are a fiver or under. Not a 5K holiday or a 25K new car. Those are luxuries. As are hair dos that cost more than £150!

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 12:36

And the police are going to be happily bought off so THEY can afford some nice things too.

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 12:35

TheAmusedQuail · 31/03/2026 12:10

Why? Because if we look at the world, the majority of the population would envy just that? I'm happy to have a secure roof over my head. I'm happy not to worry about paying my bills. Many on this thread can't. My parents couldn't. I know that is a luxury.

Since when has having an expensive car, a pricey holiday, £150 hair & £40 nails or a ridiculously over priced coffee been the standard to aim for? It sounds like conspicuous consumption to me, AKA a waste of money. 1 or 2 on that list occasionally is great. But expecting a full-time job (unless you're a lawyer or a stockbroker) to pay for all that has more or less always been unrealistic.

£150 is not expensive for hair, as an aside.

More importantly, if people can't afford to buy even small nice things then the safe environment you've enjoyed your whole life is going to deteriorate as they start to take them by force or fraud instead. Most people are not content with sitting looking at their mortgaged up walls all month.

tiptoethrutulips · 31/03/2026 12:35

StripedTee · 31/03/2026 11:23

Presumably you only work full-time during term though? So realistically you're part-time if you average your working hours (and therefore salary) across the full year. I don't think it's surprising in that case that you can't provide for a family of 5 without state support.

That 'part-time' as you call it for school staff is still 37 hours per week during term time, hardly 'part-time'. Quite a derogatory 'point' you're trying to score there. Our school couldn't cope without our dedicated support staff. Seriously.

And the ability to not have to find paid childcare during the half and term breaks also needs to be weighed into that 'averaging out' as you call it.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 31/03/2026 12:34

Don't get free school meals, don't get free prescriptions although I should as I have a serious eye condition in one eye, don't get council tax reduction.

LookUpnotDown · 31/03/2026 12:34

witheringrowan · 31/03/2026 12:30

60% of income tax comes from the top 10% of earns. 30% comes from the top 1%. You might want to look up the Laffer Curve.

There needs to be a new wealth tax. 1-2% on those with over 10 million in assets

TerrazzoChips · 31/03/2026 12:33

I earn £80k, solo mum, one child in nursery. Mortgage is £1500 a month for a VERY ordinary home which needs new windows, a new kitchen and new bathroom. It is crippling right now. I am hoping it gets better when I remortgage and have no childcare but I’m not sure. I haven’t had a haircut in over 3 years. I get my eyebrows threaded in Superdrug and that’s my luxury. I hate how I look but everything is so expensive I’ve lost weight at least as I don’t have an evening meal in the week.

Homer28 · 31/03/2026 12:32

Another one in the what is your income and outgoings camp? There can be such a big difference depending on childcare costs etc which hopefully are temporary.

Pistachiocake · 31/03/2026 12:32

It used to be you could have extra money by sacrificing time, or choose to not have 2 FT working parents, meaning you effectively got more free time, as the one who didn't work FT got the housework done, so weekends and evenings could be more relaxing.
Now, only a lucky few get to choose. Most people have little time or money.