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Are other full-time working families finding there is nothing left?

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fatface001 · 31/03/2026 08:40

Alarm went off at 5:30 this morning, then an hour stood on a packed train into London for the commute. We are a normal family: one child and two full-time jobs. I’ve always enjoyed working and have always worked hard, and I don’t mind that at all — but I do expect that full-time work should still mean there’s something left at the end of the month for a normal life.

But that really doesn’t feel like the case anymore.

There’s nothing left at the end of the month. Everything has been stripped back, all non-essentials have gone, and even basic things around the house are being put off or done ourselves because there isn’t spare money for trades. It’s just constant cutting back.

What’s hard is that we’re both working really long hours and doing everything we’re “supposed” to do, but it still feels like we’re going backwards rather than getting ahead.

When I hear talk about “those with the broadest shoulders” contributing more, I honestly don’t recognise it anymore in real life. It doesn’t feel like anyone in our position has anything left to give — it feels like the pressure is entirely on ordinary working households just to stand still.

I’m not looking for luxuries — just the sense that working still gives you a bit of breathing room. Right now it doesn’t feel like that at all.

Is anyone else feeling the same?

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Wynter25 · 31/03/2026 15:57

Summerhut2025 · 31/03/2026 14:10

I know, but "up to 16k" you can still receive them, you aren't poor if you have thousands saved in the bank, therefore you shouldn't need bailing out by the tax payer. The thresholds are so wrong.

Ive got a good amount of savings. Im not going to stop getting it. Ive got 3 kids to raise. Get no help from the dad.

Summerhut2025 · 31/03/2026 15:56

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 15:27

How is 16k up to a year of a buffer?!
16k would only cover most families on here's expenses for up to 6 months by the sounds of it.

People dont try to be on UC, its usually down to something awful happening like a sudden redundancy, death, relationship breakup or serious accident.

Anyone could be one day or week or month away from any of those things.

Its easy to be judgey when you are on the other side of the fence. But no one plans to be on UC believe me. Its not like the old tax credits system!

Yes I know and understand why people are on UC. But if they have their own money, they should be using that first instead of the states.

The NHS is on it's knees, people are dying in corridors but we can't give anymore more money to help that, it's more important we give it to Shirley down the road as she's a low earner and needs her wage topped up even though she has 15k in the bank! But we have to let her keep that 15k in the bank rather than saving the person in hospital just in case her washing machine or car breaks down, ah poor Shirley.

I'm not benefit bashing people here, I understand most people on benefits do not have a penny in savings and if they need benefits, they need benefits. My point is we should not be giving it to people who can clearly pay their own bills with the money they have in the bank. The threshold is way too high and that money should be spent saving lives, not allowing people to have a "buffer" in case they have a little life emergency. That is my point.

Soontobesingles · 31/03/2026 15:56

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 15:43

My response was to a pp claiming that people on benefits ARE winning.

'I think the only groups winning here at the moment are the super wealthy or benefit people who don’t work'

I read that ‘winning’ as - not destitute as would be the case if we didn’t have a social safety net. In that sense, not working and having a similar standard of living to someone on £30-40k plus is ‘winning’.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 31/03/2026 15:53

EmmaOvary · 31/03/2026 15:47

LOL at the idea that someone on benefits might not worry about putting food on the table.

Imagine the worry of having to pay all your bills and housing costs alongside the worry of refundancy. Makes benefits and social housing seem like luxury living. Guaranteed monthly income and low to no housing costs.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 31/03/2026 15:51

midgetastic · 31/03/2026 09:32

People working in the 80s lost their homes - it did affect more than you were aware of. It’s why governments have been so careful to avoid that

And the lack of jobs -25% unemployment rate in many areas especially in the north. It tore communities apart and many are just starting to show signs of recovery.

people on big bucks today are spending it on homes usually. Theirs and the nursery

people are struggling because of the rapid downward change.

I was a teen in the 80s and clearly remember negative equity. The difference was that in the 80s you could lose your house and stand a chance of getting social housing instead or rent. Now mortgages are cheaper than renting. So masses of people losing their houses is going to be an absolute crisis.

EmmaOvary · 31/03/2026 15:47

hattie43 · 31/03/2026 09:16

That’s as may be financially but you don’t have the stress of putting food on the table , worrying about how to fund yet more council tax etc or losing your income / job . I’m not saying it’s an easy life but it doesn’t have the unpredictability of paying for yourself.

LOL at the idea that someone on benefits might not worry about putting food on the table.

SomethingFun · 31/03/2026 15:46

I don’t want people on benefits to suffer, everyone who can work should be working and there should be work that pays well enough that benefits are only there for those who cannot work and are therefore more generous. I don’t think this is a particularly right wing viewpoint, I consider myself socialist. It isn’t good for people to only work 15 hours or not at all because they lose more than they can earn.

If you are working full time and stressed and tired and feel like you have nothing to show for it then it’s all a big pile of wank. It particularly sticks in the craw when people say you cannot possibly complain about the state of 2026 Britain because at least you’re not starving in a freezing hovel. No one should be starving in a freezing hovel and I don’t think that is where the bar should be set for a good life in the UK. There should be enough to go round and really we need some large scale study to understand where the money is actually going because I’m doubly pissed off that not only do I pay a shitload of tax, the people it’s supposedly going to don’t get enough to pay bills and eat.

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 15:43

Soontobesingles · 31/03/2026 15:41

Nobody is winning in current system - that’s the point!

My response was to a pp claiming that people on benefits ARE winning.

'I think the only groups winning here at the moment are the super wealthy or benefit people who don’t work'

Boomer55 · 31/03/2026 15:43

I think we’re all, regardless of circumstances, finding life hard at the moment. But it’s nothing new - we’ve had plenty of of Boom and Bust before in the UK.

It’ll pass. 👍

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 15:43

january1244 · 31/03/2026 15:23

@OneShyQuailwhere are you getting your figures from please? Because this isn’t true as far as the ONS goes reporting on this

My knowledge comes from my job. I am often helping/ working with families who qualify for UC. So I see the thresholds etc

Soontobesingles · 31/03/2026 15:41

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 15:40

As I have already said, I have never suggested that I expect anything else.

But I am absolutely not 'winning'.

Nobody is winning in current system - that’s the point!

2025M · 31/03/2026 15:41

I agree. Every week the food bill increases, all luxuries being stripped out.

No more eating out, looking at the price per 1kg or 100g to do comparisons with a fine tooth comb, which adds on 20mins to each shopping trip.

Scouring for free activities and buy one get one free entry.

Clothes until they are near see through before replacing 😬

Driving so sparingly because of fuel lately it's almost a military planning operation to tie in 5 journeys into one, using route planners to check if anything in the next month needed is on route. No buses anymore as service pulled so car only option.

These are very small things which are all adding up to a dull life.

I look back to 2012 London Olympics, not long out of university and the buzz in the UK. Now I think blimey life is so dull and getting excited by supermarket extra fruity hot cross buns being on offer is infinitely depressing.

Full time working household. One wage stagnated for years and nmw almost in touching distance. Other wage better due to having to travel an hour to a good paying job..

I always think it could be worse, looking around the world of course. But this isn't the UK I thought back in 2012 I would be living in. I wonder what the 20 year anniversary from that optimistic youth haze will be. 2032 will be here before we know it!

Soontobesingles · 31/03/2026 15:40

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 15:27

How is 16k up to a year of a buffer?!
16k would only cover most families on here's expenses for up to 6 months by the sounds of it.

People dont try to be on UC, its usually down to something awful happening like a sudden redundancy, death, relationship breakup or serious accident.

Anyone could be one day or week or month away from any of those things.

Its easy to be judgey when you are on the other side of the fence. But no one plans to be on UC believe me. Its not like the old tax credits system!

In general I support the idea of a welfare state that provides a baseline standard of living for everyone. In reality our current system is now 70 and in some parts almost 80 years past what it was originally designed for. Demographically, philosophically, infrastructurally the post war welfare state is not fit for purpose. We need visionary government with a realistic plan for how we move forward as a nation, because currently the tax income does not cover the spends on benefits alone and that isn’t a sustainable model.

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 15:40

Soontobesingles · 31/03/2026 15:37

Yes but you would expect that benefits = bare minimum. That’s as it should be. You would also expect people on top 10% earners nationally to be able to afford a standard above bare minimum. The concern is that if they can’t the system collapses as the good will that extends to people who need benefits is eroded and incentive to work isn’t there.

As I have already said, I have never suggested that I expect anything else.

But I am absolutely not 'winning'.

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 15:40

january1244 · 31/03/2026 15:23

@OneShyQuailwhere are you getting your figures from please? Because this isn’t true as far as the ONS goes reporting on this

What do you mean, my figures?

Someone working, getting a UC top up, is earning a low wage, despite working full time. The UC top up isnt massive. The point im making is, if you earn so little as to get a UC top up, you are not better off than someone working full time not qualifying for a UC top up.

Those talking about free school meals, free prescriptions, free dentists etc, to get those yoir household income needs to be UNDER £935 A Month.

To qualify for a UC top up when working, the working threshold is over £998 now, so if you are working to get any UC money you need to bring home over this amount first. £1400 for couples. Therefore anyone working does not qualify for free school meals and prescriptions any more.

The only people who get these are those classed as not well enough to work at all, and their household income is under £935 a month. Which im sure youll agree is pretty low and they by rights should be entitled to that help!

Soontobesingles · 31/03/2026 15:37

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 09:11

I'm on benefits and can't work. I can assure you that I'm not 'winning' either and also have nothing left once essentials, bills etc are paid for.

Yes but you would expect that benefits = bare minimum. That’s as it should be. You would also expect people on top 10% earners nationally to be able to afford a standard above bare minimum. The concern is that if they can’t the system collapses as the good will that extends to people who need benefits is eroded and incentive to work isn’t there.

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 15:33

Summerhut2025 · 31/03/2026 14:53

So just because they earn far less than someone like me I have to contribute to their UC when they actually have more money than someone like me in the bank. It beggars belief how crazy that sounds.
Someone can have £15,999.99 in the bank and I have to as a tax payer give them some of the money that I earn just because their monthly wage slip is less than mine.

Once they no longer have all those thousands in the bank and they can no longer afford to pay their bills, then yes, i'll be happy to give them some of my money for their UC. Before then, they should be on their own and use their own money to pay their own bills... just like the rest of us.

"Give them some of your money"
So patronising.
Just like people who say "i dont have children so why should my taxes go to schools" 🙄

If someone has £15,999 in the bank account they will be loosing quite a substantial amount off their UC award which isnt a lot in the first place. They will still be working (unless they are too ill to work).

Why not drop down to a much lower paid job and claim UC then?! If its so cushty!
Then youll be getting "your money" back!

RobinEllacotStrike · 31/03/2026 15:31

intrepidpanda · 31/03/2026 15:30

There are 55 billionaires in the UK. If you took every single penny off them it wouldn't cover the benefits bill for the year.

and they would then have no income to invest or pay taxes on.

intrepidpanda · 31/03/2026 15:30

There are 55 billionaires in the UK. If you took every single penny off them it wouldn't cover the benefits bill for the year.

Fundays12 · 31/03/2026 15:29

eggsandsourdough · 31/03/2026 14:39

The club covered the expense, shes doing amazing 😍

Fantastic 😁

RobinEllacotStrike · 31/03/2026 15:28

I've always lived as near as possible to where I worked.
If I lived somewhere there was no work I would move.
I always want/need to work - its all our duty to be self sufficient, work, pay taxes, some of which will be used to support the unemployed/sick/disabled in society etc - those who are vulnerable.

If there are no jobs around you, why don't you move? Its not sustainable to say "there's no work/transport where I live so I won't work". This wouldnt even be an option for me. Personal responsibilty seems to have left the building.

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 15:27

Summerhut2025 · 31/03/2026 14:23

If they have nearing £16,000 in the bank they have plenty of time to get back on their feet, they do not need to collect money from the tax payer to pay their bills, they have months upon months of a buffer there, possibly up to a year even. The threshold is way too high.

I understand some claimants won't have savings and that's fine, that is what the benefit system is then there for but giving money to people with potentially 6k, 8k, 10k, 15k etc already in the bank is madness. And they wonder why there is no money in the pot to sort out our NHS.

Wishing hard times on someone else just because they have an opinion on what their taxes shouldn't be spent on is hardly "understanding" on your part neither.

How is 16k up to a year of a buffer?!
16k would only cover most families on here's expenses for up to 6 months by the sounds of it.

People dont try to be on UC, its usually down to something awful happening like a sudden redundancy, death, relationship breakup or serious accident.

Anyone could be one day or week or month away from any of those things.

Its easy to be judgey when you are on the other side of the fence. But no one plans to be on UC believe me. Its not like the old tax credits system!

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 15:26

eggsandsourdough · 31/03/2026 15:18

I think this thread has derailed.

OP was asking whether full time working families have less and less breathing room... then we have people coming on saying well im worse off than you so how do you think i feel!!

Its not a race to the bottom, the point is that almost everyone has had to cut back on something in their life due to the uk crisis.

Edited

Except that isn't what happened.

It started when someone decided to bring up benefits when it wasn't even necessary. People are clearly going to respond to that.

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 15:24

PerfectPairofBoots · 31/03/2026 15:14

Not one person complaining about benefits has listed their income and outgoings, including pension contributions and savings, that's very telling, as it would actually give us something useful to debate, but we don't want that do we

I haven’t seen anyone list their address or a photo of their children either, I agree…very telling,

LakieLady · 31/03/2026 15:24

Violese · 31/03/2026 14:18

Why would they be living off benefits and not out working though? Benefits are not meant to be ‘lived off’. They’re a stop gap.

Because it's a rural district with pisspoor public transport and very limited employment opportunities, unless you live close to the centre of one of the towns or can drive, afford to run a car and pay for parking or get free parking at work.

Even where I live, on the edge of the biggest town, our buses only start at 9.05 am and stop before 6pm.