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Are other full-time working families finding there is nothing left?

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fatface001 · 31/03/2026 08:40

Alarm went off at 5:30 this morning, then an hour stood on a packed train into London for the commute. We are a normal family: one child and two full-time jobs. I’ve always enjoyed working and have always worked hard, and I don’t mind that at all — but I do expect that full-time work should still mean there’s something left at the end of the month for a normal life.

But that really doesn’t feel like the case anymore.

There’s nothing left at the end of the month. Everything has been stripped back, all non-essentials have gone, and even basic things around the house are being put off or done ourselves because there isn’t spare money for trades. It’s just constant cutting back.

What’s hard is that we’re both working really long hours and doing everything we’re “supposed” to do, but it still feels like we’re going backwards rather than getting ahead.

When I hear talk about “those with the broadest shoulders” contributing more, I honestly don’t recognise it anymore in real life. It doesn’t feel like anyone in our position has anything left to give — it feels like the pressure is entirely on ordinary working households just to stand still.

I’m not looking for luxuries — just the sense that working still gives you a bit of breathing room. Right now it doesn’t feel like that at all.

Is anyone else feeling the same?

OP posts:
Katypp · 31/03/2026 17:41

dinbin · 31/03/2026 17:36

When I rule the world, I will tax every. single. person who has an income of more than (at present) £12,570, regardless where the income comes from.

Yes & scrap NI & just have 1 tax.

Agreed. One payment and everyone pays it. Simple.

dinbin · 31/03/2026 17:40

I know people keep saying it will get better than it was like this in the 80/90s but for my adult life it’s felt like a downward spiral and no end in sight

Its the lack of hope that is so depressing

dinbin · 31/03/2026 17:36

When I rule the world, I will tax every. single. person who has an income of more than (at present) £12,570, regardless where the income comes from.

Yes & scrap NI & just have 1 tax.

Kirbert2 · 31/03/2026 17:36

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 17:34

It’s fuelled by increase in taxes to increase benefits and the endless entitlement shown by the recipients in threads like these. It’s not going away until it is corrected.

What entitlement on this thread?

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 17:34

youalright · 31/03/2026 17:31

The level of resentment is fueled by the media which is fueled by politicians a few months ago it was all about pip now its all about uc give it a few months and it will be all about pensions

It’s fuelled by increase in taxes to increase benefits and the endless entitlement shown by the recipients in threads like these. It’s not going away until it is corrected.

Katypp · 31/03/2026 17:32

When I rule the world, I will tax every. single. person who has an income of more than (at present) £12,570, regardless where the income comes from.
Salaries, dividends, benefits, pensions, maintenance, disability benefits, UC, the lot.
My dh is now in a low-paid job after being made redundant last year. He's lucky to clear £1300 a month, yet he's taxed on that. I read upthread that the average UC claimant gets around the same as he does - yet it's not taxed. Can someone explain to me how that's fair? Work to earn your income and you are taxed. Don't work and you don't pay tax.
My friend claimed UC as a single parent to two children. So she got everything she was entitled to - plus £2000 a month maintenance from her high-earning ex. Did she pay any tax? She did not. So she had an income of around £4,500 a month and paid not one penny in tax. AI tells me this is the equivalent of around £75k pa salary - yet not taxed.
Posters on here are always keen to deride pensioners, but they are one of the few groups who DO still pay tax on their total income.
I would be interested to see if anyone could justify why everyone should not pay tax.

youalright · 31/03/2026 17:31

angelos02 · 31/03/2026 16:37

Maybe it passed me by but I don't remember this level of resentment towards those on benefits. I think it is fuelled by a feeling that there are an increasing number of people on benefits that do not need to be. Many people have mental health issues but continue working (myself included) and feel unfairly treated. I do know people that are unable to leave the house due to mental health but equally I know of people that lead a normal life while not working at all! The most galling thing is when people are already on benefits with no intention of working and then go on to have children! Who do they think is going to pay for them?! And no - I don't have children myself for the reason I'm not mentally resilient enough to have them.

The level of resentment is fueled by the media which is fueled by politicians a few months ago it was all about pip now its all about uc give it a few months and it will be all about pensions

cocoromo · 31/03/2026 17:31

I am 30s and feel I have spent most of my adult life (the last 15 years most definitely) lurching from one crisis to another. Things have been hard non stop - first austerity, then brexit then covid and now COL / energy crisis and the wars. I know people keep saying it will get better than it was like this in the 80/90s but for my adult life it’s felt like a downward spiral and no end in sight. I think we could manage the hard times better if there was light on the horizon but it just feels endless……
my husband and I both work full time and although we are not breadline I definitely think our quality of life should be much better for the hours and stress we put into our jobs. It’s really disheartening and I worry about my children’s future.

youalright · 31/03/2026 17:27

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 31/03/2026 15:53

Imagine the worry of having to pay all your bills and housing costs alongside the worry of refundancy. Makes benefits and social housing seem like luxury living. Guaranteed monthly income and low to no housing costs.

Are you having a laugh im on benefits and worry about all them things then on top of that have to worry about the government suddenly cutting benefits to the point i wouldn't be able to survive

Peony1985 · 31/03/2026 17:25

Mightneedencouraged · 31/03/2026 09:22

What I find funny about this (I assume you're laughing at the person cutting down on "luxuries", apologies if not)... If people don't go to the theatre the theatres close down. The actors and ticket sellers and popcorn queue people are out of work. The venue closes down and is another mothball on the grim high street. This is all a big problem for everyone even if you sneer at other people's restrictions.

The coffee guy on my local high street gets £5 a day from my husband and I because it's amazing, a nice pick me up and we like supporting a small business. I'd give up lunch before that coffee.

There is still plenty of money in my bit of the SE though - mostly retired but some still with businesses . I have a number if friends that go to the theatre on a monthly basis, big holidays, off doing stuff. They prop up our small town. Ours has numerous fresh flower shops, expensive coffee shops and several clothes boutiques

I think those with normal jobs, commutes and kids are feeling it whatever they are paid.

Hellohelga · 31/03/2026 17:24

Right wing click bait - op is long gone

Nogimachi · 31/03/2026 17:22

IlovePhilMitchell · 31/03/2026 15:13

You are saying you fully agree there’s nothing left… you must be putting alot into your pensions and savings if you say your mortgage is low and you can only afford a weekend in Chester on 200k+!!!!

Sorry but i don’t think you come into the category of having nothing left.

Ah sorry, I was not saying we have nothing left. But that even on what is on paper a good income life these days feels impossibly expensive and quite insecure.

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 17:17

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 16:46

I wouldnt rely on the ONS.

It doesnt tally with what I see.

I see children in poverty, families struggling to make ends meet, more so now less qualify for free school meals and prescriptions.

If you are low skilled you are stuck, not through lack of trying, but stuck because you haven't got the qualifications or experiences to make a huge jump in earnings to pull you out of benefits.

Life for these families is a struggle.

It is sad that families who have mid to high earners are now saying thdy struggle too

Not sure why ppl turn it into a competition. Those on benefits are struggling too and they have been for much longer. No idea why people hate on them.

Yes there are a minority that might be playing the system but it is so much harder to do now. It wasnt on tax credits. There are minorities that avoid tax and paying their way higher up the ladder too. Funny how less people direct their anger at them and come down on the ones who earn so little.

The ONS is generally considered more reliable than what random people on the internet see, but I take your point.

The anger isn’t at benefit claimants per se, it’s aimed at the attitude of entitlement and aggression in things like tax cliff edges towards those who actually fund their benefits. I understand it comes from a place of envy and shame, but it’s unacceptable. It doesn’t just stop with the net tax payers themselves, but Labour are now also seeking to limit children of net tax payers applying to universities, civil service and other public sector apprenticeships:graduate schemes. It’s utterly crazy.

dinbin · 31/03/2026 17:15

Allowing for inflation 67k is akin to 35k in the early 00s & yet many jobs have not increased salaries. Add in fiscal drag & it’s not a surprise so many feel poorer.

youalright · 31/03/2026 17:15

PersephonePomegranate · 31/03/2026 14:31

If they're renting (because theyre disabled and unable to work), the boiler and house repairs woll be paid for by the LL. Presumably most peole too disabled to work would also qualify for a motability car?

I work part time own my own home i don't have a motability car as I use my motability to get taxis as all my appointments are half way across the country and can't drive distances. So we bought a cheap runaround. Why on earth do you think disabled people wouldn't own their own homes a lot of disabled people have been working full time for decades before they become disabled or to disabled to work full time

PurpleReindeer2 · 31/03/2026 17:12

I'm fed up of working hard and feeling more poor each passing year. Less than inflation pay rises, the frozen tax thresholds, council tax increases of higher than any incresed pay, food bill increasing massively, petrol gone up huge amount, gas and electric up .....it just seems never ending. Feels like the average family is working hard and feels utterly deflated. How can it be right that we seem no better off for working a 40 hour week than those who don't?

RobinEllacotStrike · 31/03/2026 17:01

JustMarriedBecca · 31/03/2026 16:53

I think the point is that you're lucky to be home at 5.30pm. I work FT and if I'm in the office I am out from 7am to 7pm.

are you a single aprent? That would be logistically unmanageable for single parents - I couldnt find childcare beyond 6pm when I worked in London

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 31/03/2026 17:00

Summerhut2025 · 31/03/2026 16:33

I'm not angry, i'm saying the policy is wrong. The benefit bill could be massively reduced by that threshold not being in place.

If you don't have a job and something happens to your house or your car then it stays unfixed or broke until you do have a job quite frankly. Why is anyone thinking it's okay that they receive benefits when they have thousands of pounds in the bank. If you have money, you should not be going to the state for money, it's as simple as that.

The original post was asking people how they are managing with the cost of living and my point was that many people are struggling to save due to the cost of living that are working, yet the UK government allow people to have up to 16k in the bank who are on benefits, it's wrong. Maybe if they reduced it they would be able to increase the tax thresholds and then everyone who works would have more money.

I know many people in families with both adults working who don't have 16k in the bank, who are unable to save due to CoL so from that point of view, yes it seems very unfair.

There needs to be seen to be fairness in the social contract, and most people don't think there is any more. This leads to dangerous ground.

dinbin · 31/03/2026 16:57

midgetastic · 31/03/2026 16:49

WW2 lasted 6 years, rationing another ?10?

The potato famine lasted ?7 years . that comes to mind as the rich had food and wouldn’t share. Something never change

@midgetastic we never recovered growth wise from the 08 crash, 08….

JustMarriedBecca · 31/03/2026 16:53

REDB99 · 31/03/2026 10:52

You have chosen to have 3 children! You’ve made choices! You could choose not to work but you have not made that choice.

A cleaner and takeaways because you’re too tired to clean and cook 😂 and this is somehow unjust!!

I’m a single parent, got in at 17:30 yesterday, cooked a roast chicken for me and my DD, tidied up while it was cooking and DD did some school work at the kitchen table. Tidied up after dinner. Sat down at 20:00. I could have moaned about being out of the house since 07:30 and got a takeaway because I was too tired to cook and I could pay for a cleaner because I’m too tired to clean but I don’t as I have made my choices and it’s no one else’s fault or responsibility as to what those choices are.

I think the point is that you're lucky to be home at 5.30pm. I work FT and if I'm in the office I am out from 7am to 7pm.

Julen7 · 31/03/2026 16:51

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 16:41

This is false. If you quit a job for no reason and refuse to work you are not entitled to anything
On UC you can only not work if your child is under 3.
You either need to be very poorly, caring for someone a lot, or have a qualifying disability to not work.

The old system tax credits was the last time people could just not work and also cheat the system as it was paid in basic guesswork over a year and then "checked" after the year.

UC is tied to yoir national insurance number so you cannot lie about how much you are earning or not earning and you cannot qualify for things like prescriptions or free school meals by lying.

You cannot choose to not work and get UC.

And each year the work threshold for couples and single people go up meaning you have to earn more to qualify for a top up

People get themselves on to LCWRA or carer’s element pretty readily though and then all work commitments switched off.

midgetastic · 31/03/2026 16:50

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 16:46

I wouldnt rely on the ONS.

It doesnt tally with what I see.

I see children in poverty, families struggling to make ends meet, more so now less qualify for free school meals and prescriptions.

If you are low skilled you are stuck, not through lack of trying, but stuck because you haven't got the qualifications or experiences to make a huge jump in earnings to pull you out of benefits.

Life for these families is a struggle.

It is sad that families who have mid to high earners are now saying thdy struggle too

Not sure why ppl turn it into a competition. Those on benefits are struggling too and they have been for much longer. No idea why people hate on them.

Yes there are a minority that might be playing the system but it is so much harder to do now. It wasnt on tax credits. There are minorities that avoid tax and paying their way higher up the ladder too. Funny how less people direct their anger at them and come down on the ones who earn so little.

It is foolish to ignore the ONS and focus only on what you see because you will tend towards o only see part of the story

although it is fair to raise in profile the real hardship at the lower end of everything

RobinEllacotStrike · 31/03/2026 16:49

frozendaisy · 31/03/2026 16:40

If you want to lower your tax bill, you salary sacrifice from your gross income (and employers contribute as well this varies on the generosity of their pension scheme but it’s a percentage of your salary) - you sacrifice some of your gross salary into the company pension scheme tax free so you are only taxed on the remainder salary. Up to £60k - meaning you can’t put in more per year tax free.

That pension pot increases and you can draw from it from the age of 57. You then might have to pay some tax as usual income tax.

But it’s a very useful way to save tax efficiently and when you save enough for your lifestyle you can retire on this income up to 10 years before state pension age. And then get your state pension additional.

yes I understand how pensions work.

I just dont understand where I can magic up this "up to £60K" to top up my pension with? I dont have enough income to be able to lavish my pension.

As for retiring at 57 what a joke.

midgetastic · 31/03/2026 16:49

dinbin · 31/03/2026 16:40

All I can say is, it doesn't last forever. The cloud will lift, just hang on in there

It’s been years though

WW2 lasted 6 years, rationing another ?10?

The potato famine lasted ?7 years . that comes to mind as the rich had food and wouldn’t share. Something never change

OneShyQuail · 31/03/2026 16:46

january1244 · 31/03/2026 16:39

I think you are quoting the wrong person re the savings. I’m not bothered about that at all but was just trying to clarify the figures from all of your assertions as they don’t meet what the ONS reports

I wouldnt rely on the ONS.

It doesnt tally with what I see.

I see children in poverty, families struggling to make ends meet, more so now less qualify for free school meals and prescriptions.

If you are low skilled you are stuck, not through lack of trying, but stuck because you haven't got the qualifications or experiences to make a huge jump in earnings to pull you out of benefits.

Life for these families is a struggle.

It is sad that families who have mid to high earners are now saying thdy struggle too

Not sure why ppl turn it into a competition. Those on benefits are struggling too and they have been for much longer. No idea why people hate on them.

Yes there are a minority that might be playing the system but it is so much harder to do now. It wasnt on tax credits. There are minorities that avoid tax and paying their way higher up the ladder too. Funny how less people direct their anger at them and come down on the ones who earn so little.