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Are other full-time working families finding there is nothing left?

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fatface001 · 31/03/2026 08:40

Alarm went off at 5:30 this morning, then an hour stood on a packed train into London for the commute. We are a normal family: one child and two full-time jobs. I’ve always enjoyed working and have always worked hard, and I don’t mind that at all — but I do expect that full-time work should still mean there’s something left at the end of the month for a normal life.

But that really doesn’t feel like the case anymore.

There’s nothing left at the end of the month. Everything has been stripped back, all non-essentials have gone, and even basic things around the house are being put off or done ourselves because there isn’t spare money for trades. It’s just constant cutting back.

What’s hard is that we’re both working really long hours and doing everything we’re “supposed” to do, but it still feels like we’re going backwards rather than getting ahead.

When I hear talk about “those with the broadest shoulders” contributing more, I honestly don’t recognise it anymore in real life. It doesn’t feel like anyone in our position has anything left to give — it feels like the pressure is entirely on ordinary working households just to stand still.

I’m not looking for luxuries — just the sense that working still gives you a bit of breathing room. Right now it doesn’t feel like that at all.

Is anyone else feeling the same?

OP posts:
Kirbert2 · 01/04/2026 08:16

Summerhut2025 · 01/04/2026 08:14

Most working families these days can’t manage to save the £6,000 unfortunately 😭

Neither can most people on benefits.

Boudy · 01/04/2026 08:15

@MidnightMeltdown ..I know there are people on mumsnet who have said this and I also know a couple of families where I live who rely soley on benefits with no intention of working. However,I have worked with many people in various sectors who work damn hard and due to not being paid enough for a full time role which can include nights,split shifts etc( are in receipt of UC). Once again we really should stop the bashing. But I don't expect that will happen.

Lameelephant · 01/04/2026 08:15

glitterpaperchain · 01/04/2026 08:02

100%. If working full time isn't enough to get by and means they need to be topped up with benefits, there essentially the taxpayer is subsidising the employer. But the business makes enough profits to pay dividends out, which aren't taxed anywhere near as much as wages. All these people rushing to blame benefit claimants when the real issue is greedy businesses.

Let’s introduce more taxation and legislation on these ‘greedy’ businesses and individuals, see if we can push the unemployment rate into the double figures.

Summerhut2025 · 01/04/2026 08:14

Solutionssought2026 · 31/03/2026 20:36

It is only a few thousand pounds. They can’t keep £16,000 in an account without penalty.
They can keep £6000, which is effectively two months wages which everybody should have in theory.

Most working families these days can’t manage to save the £6,000 unfortunately 😭

glitterpaperchain · 01/04/2026 08:02

Boudy · 31/03/2026 22:38

Business can't or won't pay people a decent wage hence UC.People employed in the NHS,charities,multi nationals etc etc. Also SMEs. It is like a massive ponzi scheme. Some businesses would collapse if they had to pay a decent wage. Others have to pay their share holders etc and are propped up by the tax payer who pays for UC. Also people in receipt of UC pay tax and N.I.

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100%. If working full time isn't enough to get by and means they need to be topped up with benefits, there essentially the taxpayer is subsidising the employer. But the business makes enough profits to pay dividends out, which aren't taxed anywhere near as much as wages. All these people rushing to blame benefit claimants when the real issue is greedy businesses.

SweetnsourNZ · 01/04/2026 08:00

midgetastic · 31/03/2026 09:32

People working in the 80s lost their homes - it did affect more than you were aware of. It’s why governments have been so careful to avoid that

And the lack of jobs -25% unemployment rate in many areas especially in the north. It tore communities apart and many are just starting to show signs of recovery.

people on big bucks today are spending it on homes usually. Theirs and the nursery

people are struggling because of the rapid downward change.

I remember watching that on the news in New Zealand. People in the UK walking away from houses they had bought and then couldn't afford when interest rates skyrocketed. Remember watching some people smashing them up. Also really bad unemployment in people that would normally be gainfully employed. Was bad here, but worse over thereI think.

Lameelephant · 01/04/2026 07:59

Differentforgirls · 01/04/2026 07:26

Why would it be uncomfortable for me?

Feelings of shame and inadequacy can be uncomfortable.

BraOffPjsOn · 01/04/2026 07:50

Is it those with very high mortgages or rent plus nursery fees that have suddenly felt the cost of living the most?

I’d be interested to hear outgoings for those who earn 70/80k+ as that a lot more than we earn and we are comfortable.
We have a mortgage in the south east although not a huge one but are looking to upsize.

I also think our timing has been lucky as we’ve finished the huge nursery fees (2 under 2) times and working very part time - which was miserable as we had nothing. So we’ve lived frugally for years and as we’ve earned more it’s easier not to spend on luxuries.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 01/04/2026 07:48

OneShyQuail · 01/04/2026 07:45

Il say it again, you have to earn over £980 a month if single, £1400 in a couple to get a UC top up on your wage. You cannot work only a few hours anymore

The system is flawed though, because if you work a few more hours, you might earn more money but yoir UC is deducted from more so people are no better off so they get trapped

Unless they can move from a 13k salary to a 23k which isn't an easy ask if you are in low wage work as thst means a totally different job

The couple rate has just gone up to nearly £1600.

OneShyQuail · 01/04/2026 07:45

MidnightMeltdown · 01/04/2026 02:09

This is not true. Only around a third of UC claimants are in work. Many of these will only be working a few hours a week (so that they don’t lose benefits). You see it on here all the time - people saying that they could increase their hours, but it not worth it due to loss of benefits. So basically they’d rather have extra days off and have other people work and pay for them.

Il say it again, you have to earn over £980 a month if single, £1400 in a couple to get a UC top up on your wage. You cannot work only a few hours anymore

The system is flawed though, because if you work a few more hours, you might earn more money but yoir UC is deducted from more so people are no better off so they get trapped

Unless they can move from a 13k salary to a 23k which isn't an easy ask if you are in low wage work as thst means a totally different job

hattie43 · 01/04/2026 07:38

dinbin · 01/04/2026 06:02

The thing is an ageing population is going to put pressure on the benefit spend since pensioner spending is the biggest cost. I would pause the triple lock but people won’t vote for it.

Pensioner spending is not the biggest cost in where my taxes are spent . HMRC breakdown confirms welfare comes top and a separate category further down for pensioners .
I do agree though the younger generation are screwed because there’s so few working now to build up pension savings and state pension maybe be severely curtailed to only the very needy .

hattie43 · 01/04/2026 07:34

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 13:27

What response were you going for in linking taxes with taking about ‘the genocide’? I assumed it was a parody of an unemployed left wing person

Has to be . No one else would be so stupid . Why should anyone billionaire or not express a view on everything. JKR did plenty in the fight for women’s rights.

Kirbert2 · 01/04/2026 07:34

TheBlueKoala · 01/04/2026 07:10

Maybe unpopular but I think PIP and DLA should be meanstested as well. You got millionaires receiving PIP/DLA they do not need. And don't get me started on anxiety eligibility- it should be vetted better and coherently. Those who need it should absolutely get it- those who don't shouldn't.

How many millionaires are going to the trouble of applying for PIP/DLA?

Differentforgirls · 01/04/2026 07:26

Lameelephant · 31/03/2026 14:00

It’s fine, I get it. It’s probably uncomfortable to admit to yourself. I’m afraid at some point though, people are in for a big shock when they have to start paying at least their own way and for their own children. It will either be the IMF after a loan or the next Government, but it’s an absolute certainty.

Why would it be uncomfortable for me?

TheBlueKoala · 01/04/2026 07:10

Maybe unpopular but I think PIP and DLA should be meanstested as well. You got millionaires receiving PIP/DLA they do not need. And don't get me started on anxiety eligibility- it should be vetted better and coherently. Those who need it should absolutely get it- those who don't shouldn't.

dinbin · 01/04/2026 06:16

It is the highest earners and the ones skipping tax etc with their clever accountants etc (which happens more than Ms Smith committing benefit fraud btw) that should bear the brunt of this

Who are we talking about here with regards to higher earners? Because higher earners on PAYE are paying a lot of tax, very much in line with other European countries. It’s the low and middle earners who pay less but as I have said a large barrier to changing this is high housing costs.

dinbin · 01/04/2026 06:11

Young family A. Couple kids. Both work. Rent. Unable to save due to cost of living crisis so survive pay cheque to pay cheque, less than £500 in bank paying tax to support family B. Family B, £500k equity in outright owned home (bought from inheritance), savings of £5k and on full means tested benefits?

I also think that care in the home should include house value (a charge in the home). It’s much more common than going into a care home but people get it regardless of housing wealth.

How on earth a 500k house would be run and maintained on a means tested benefit income is beyond me. The council tax would be a fortune for a start.

Why do you think that? CT isn’t based on current house prices….

Coffeeandbooks88 · 01/04/2026 06:11

MidnightMeltdown · 01/04/2026 02:09

This is not true. Only around a third of UC claimants are in work. Many of these will only be working a few hours a week (so that they don’t lose benefits). You see it on here all the time - people saying that they could increase their hours, but it not worth it due to loss of benefits. So basically they’d rather have extra days off and have other people work and pay for them.

This is out of date. The amount they have to earn if in a single claim is about 19 hours and I guess double that for a couple. I can get away with one shift a week because my husband earns over the AET but I am looking after my youngest.

dinbin · 01/04/2026 06:02

The thing is an ageing population is going to put pressure on the benefit spend since pensioner spending is the biggest cost. I would pause the triple lock but people won’t vote for it.

WaryCrow · 01/04/2026 05:39

It’s obscene how much wealth is in this country and how much has been sucked into fewer hands.

The top 50 families hold more wealth than the poorest 50% of the population. The top 50. (Equality Trust figures).

The Times Rich List has 156 billionaires on it, where there were once, pre 1980s, 2. Most of those were born into it or born into the company that gave them wealth, and take a look at the mismatch between their list of richest and the list of the UKs biggest taxpayers.

Im off to work in an underpaid and undervalued job in the NHS today and wonder some more about dropping my hours or handing my notice in as we’re expected to do ever more with ever less. It’s not worth it to me to break my health at 50 to keep the baby boomers going at 90. Who will you get to do it next? The money doesn’t gain me anything due to the insane property prices even of the poorest crap thrown up in Victorian times. Those billionaires are the cause of it all.

https://www.thetimes.com/sunday-times-rich-list

https://highpaycentre.org/sunday-times-rich-list-2025-our-reflections/

https://equalitytrust.org.uk/evidence-base/billionaire-britain-2025/

The Sunday Times Rich List 2025

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https://www.thetimes.com/sunday-times-rich-list

MidnightMeltdown · 01/04/2026 02:09

Boudy · 31/03/2026 22:33

@givemesteel many many people in receipt of UC also work full time.

This is not true. Only around a third of UC claimants are in work. Many of these will only be working a few hours a week (so that they don’t lose benefits). You see it on here all the time - people saying that they could increase their hours, but it not worth it due to loss of benefits. So basically they’d rather have extra days off and have other people work and pay for them.

BurntBroccoli · 01/04/2026 01:37

CloudPop · 31/03/2026 08:45

I agree with you. I am only paid very slightly more than I was 15 years ago, and clearly the cost of absolutely everything is substantially higher than it was 15 years ago. Salaries have stagnated whilst the cost of everything has gone through the roof. There are a lot of very wealthy people who have benefited enormously from this and somehow we’ve ended up enabling them to do so.

Yes this is me - salary not much more than it was 15 years ago but all the bills and food have gone up massively.

It’s only this year that our pay at work will go up 4% - previously it was well below inflation while the CEO’s wage has risen 80% over those 15 years.

youalright · 01/04/2026 00:19

Uptightmumma · 31/03/2026 23:34

The post isn’t about struggling it’s about working and not being able to have nice things! Treats etc without it being a struggle. If 2 people work full time then there should be cash to do nice things without having to penny pinch. It should not be costing £100 for a family to go on a day out. It should not be cost £135 to buy a football kit. It should not be costing me £50 a month so my 9 year old can play football in a team!

Working full time doesn't automatically equal being able to buy everything you want when you want and it never has. Most people wouldn't just buy their kids the new England football kit for £135 unless it was a Christmas present. If you think this is normal spending its not surprising you are disappointed in what spare money you have. You can say no to your kids you know.

Frannieisnthappy · 01/04/2026 00:16

PinkKimono · 31/03/2026 09:55

The Tories designed and introduced the UC system.

Anyway, those on UC have their benefits reduced by £4.35 per month for every £250 they have above £6k in savings.

You are angry at the wrong people.

Absolutely this.

I would also like to add that those on UC are not immune to food costing more, higher utilities etc.

And a high proportion of those receiving UC also work and pay tax and do not have free prescriptions, dentists etc etc.

Morepositivemum · 31/03/2026 23:55

CurlyhairedAssassin

Be careful with any card administration charges, expiry date etc.
Those one4all cards are a rip off if you don't spend them fairly quickly.

yes, that’s true I wouldn’t get one for all vouchers, I just get shop dependant ones, eg Tesco/ Aldi/ Boots and our local hairdresser/ beautician who has been around years- am in Ireland and all vouchers by law here have a 5 year expiration date now by law

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