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Can they get an adhd assessment wrong?

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ncaibu · 30/03/2026 22:39

I had an assessment for adhd recently, they concluded that I don't have adhd and that my symptoms/traits are a combination of past trauma and stress. I accepted this, but I keep wondering if there's the possibility they got it wrong. I'm not sure I depicted my reality thoroughly. I've been through a long term emotionally abusive relationship recently and didn't tell them that I was still caught up in it, the results of which meant I wasn't myself. One example is that it made me feel very depressed and completely dulled my spontaneity, impulsivity and obsessive urges. I based all my answers to their questions on how I felt at the time, which is not how I am usually. I was just very consumed by the effect the relationship had on me. Is it possible the outcome of the assessment was wrong? It's really playing on my mind.

Also, I believe part of their decision was due to factors from my childhood. They didn't have much info to go on, no school reports etc, but implied that I wouldn't have been able to read a book if I had ADHD (I was a big reader as a child), and that I wouldn't have been able to complete 2 big school projects I mentioned that I enjoyed.
Is this correct?

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Peclet · 30/03/2026 23:01

ncaibu · 30/03/2026 22:47

@PecletI didn't know I could go for a second opinion, would I request this through my GP?
On one hand, I was quite happy with the outcome. To me, it said my issues can be overcome - it's not inherently who I am.

I just keep wondering, that's all, as I definitely relate to everything I hear about adhd and those who have it. But I suppose I would if the traits are so similar.

youd probably have to go private

if you’ve suffered childhood trauma you maybe better of looking for talking therapy rather than an ADHD diagnosis. As if you have suffered the former and have a diagnosis for the latter you’d only ever be mitigating symptoms rather than getting to the root cause and unpicking that.

something to think about.

Letloose2024 · 30/03/2026 22:58

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GoBackToBooks · 30/03/2026 22:52

ncaibu · 30/03/2026 22:49

I don't necessarily want to be diagnosed with adhd. But if I did happen to have it, of course I'd want to know.

Why? What would it change?

ncaibu · 30/03/2026 22:49

GoBackToBooks · 30/03/2026 22:44

@ncaibu I don’t know if it’s correct or not. By why do you want to be diagnosed with having ADHD? Why is it so important to you?

I don't necessarily want to be diagnosed with adhd. But if I did happen to have it, of course I'd want to know.

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ncaibu · 30/03/2026 22:47

@PecletI didn't know I could go for a second opinion, would I request this through my GP?
On one hand, I was quite happy with the outcome. To me, it said my issues can be overcome - it's not inherently who I am.

I just keep wondering, that's all, as I definitely relate to everything I hear about adhd and those who have it. But I suppose I would if the traits are so similar.

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DaveGroh · 30/03/2026 22:46

GoBackToBooks · 30/03/2026 22:44

@ncaibu I don’t know if it’s correct or not. By why do you want to be diagnosed with having ADHD? Why is it so important to you?

It may help her understand herself abit better? Having something to say, oh this is why my brain does this/thinks like that etc can be comforting for some

GoBackToBooks · 30/03/2026 22:44

@ncaibu I don’t know if it’s correct or not. By why do you want to be diagnosed with having ADHD? Why is it so important to you?

Peclet · 30/03/2026 22:44

ADHD is often misdiagnosed when the real
underlying need is trauma, insecure attachment and/or adverse childhood experiences.

The symptoms or presentation of ADHD is v similar to that of a person who experienced significant stress at a critical time for prolonged periods of time.

things like
impulse control
executive function
making and sustaining healthy relationships
anxiety
depression

Go for a second opinion?