Was my request reasonable or was he right to storm off?

Well I've learned something from this thread. I had no idea that you used bacon for crabbing.

Hand sanitizer is a reasonable compromise with the difficult and huffy husband, but hand washing is definitively better. Sanitizer kills salmonella and listeria, but grease and residue from raw meat can shield the bacteria. Hand washing is much more effective at removing the risk.

I honestly don't think I have particularly high standards of hygiene but I'm taken aback by how ignorant so many posters are re. food safety and hand washing. Particularly when it involves a three year old, given that younger children are at much greater risk from salmonella and listeria than adults. Salmonella can be fatal to small children. For the sake of spending a couple of minutes popping into the pub to wash hands, I'd expect more adults not to take the risk of poisoning their kids.

An adult should be better regulated than to storm off muttering, but yes, I think it's a bit OTT to ask he goes to a pub to wash his hands. Before eating, yes, and after leaving the activity, yes, but not during.

Bacon for crabbing. Lucky crabs. I can't afford bacon for myself to eat!

But to be clear though. You are his wife not his mother.

Did you ask him to wash his hands when you were finished crab fishing or in the middle? Surely he'd have to touch the crabs and the net? So yabu for asking him to wash his hands in the middle of crab fishing.

It's not the most hygienic activity, maybe crab fishing is not for you.

But storming off and all is not good under any circumstances.

Thats why I carry a little bottle of hand sanitizer. I’d have used that and done a proper hand wash later.

Hes a grown man and I feel like he can decide himself when he washes his own hands during crabbing. Being sent off like a child would have annoyed me too.

I’m pretty sure raw bacon, even through technically ‘cured’ isn’t dried, like prosciutto, etc, so has salmonella risk, so I don’t think YB completely U, but I guess taking hand sanitiser might help, especially as you might end away from taps/hot water.

This!

Honestly, at home I'd wash my hands but whilst at the seaside crabbing? My hands would get a quick rinse in the seawater and a proper wash later raw bacon or not!

Its not exactly a hygienic activity. Fun. But not hygienic.

If DD is crabbing then shes exposed to raw sewage the minute she pulls that net out of the water.
Washing your hands to get rid of the unhygienic thing while tinkering about in the really unhygienic thing is a bit nuts.
Sanitary wipes are a godsend.

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Carry some hand sanitizer. He sounds like he struggles with hygiene.

Who's idea was it to get the bacon for crabbing? I guess he felt like he was a grown adult and it was up to him to wash his hands or not. It is unlikely that your dd would be licking his hand. Might have been better to offer hand sanitiser or wipes rather than ordering him over to the pub. Not nice for your dd to see her Dad storm off.

You say that this is one of other incidents? Can you give examples?

I'd have washed them in sea and used sanitiser. Well actually I'd have gone to the pub so I could order a cheeky pint!

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Bacon should be cooked before eating, and therefore hands should be washed after touching raw bacon. Even though it has been cured and possibly smoked, it's not fully cooked and is capable of carrying salmonella, listeria and other bacteria.

Standard supermarket bacon is not the same as something like prosciutto, which is not raw in the way bacon is. It has been heavily salted and left to cure in controlled conditions for months, a process which is hostile to harmful bacteria. Bacon is cured, but still moist and uncooked, and not aged for long enough to eliminate bacterial risk.

Sounds a bit pointless in the middle of crab fishing - surely he would be touching the crab or the bait again very shortly? A thorough wash at the end sounds more sensible..

Maybe he’d have liked to enjoy his little girl doing an activity with him without being lectured? It sounds like he just got her set-up, and he was marched off to the pub toilets like a bold schoolchild?

Given he was touching crab buckets/nets, sand, sea water, crabs etc, a bit of bacon fat on his hands wasn’t going to kill anyone.

Enjoying time with his child and washing hands after everyone was done with crabbing was surely the way to go?

Ready to eat meat products like ham and treated and packaged differently to meat that will be cooked. Bacon is not ready to eat, and will contain higher levels of bacteria that can be cooked off than a ready to eat ham slice.

I hope he stormed off sideways 🦀 🦀 🦀

Hi pub landlord, is it OK if i pop to wash my hands, the dw sent me.

Surely more awful to catch crabs?

This - you’re crabbing I presume in UK waters. Pulling the line back from UK seas and handling everything that’s been in the water.

Honestly raw bacon is the least of your worries; have all of you been to wash your hands between each handling of the lines, nets, buckets?!?!?!?

Why didn't you bring sanitizing wipes if it bothers you more than it does him?

What if there had been no pub opposite or if the staff were fed up of it being used as a public toilet?