Was my request reasonable or was he right to storm off?

Thats fine if he doesn’t mind you doing that - but OP’s DH sounds like he’s at the end of his tether and it’s possibly not the first time she has treated him like a toddler

And even if his hands were clean as possible, they were going to get dirty again once he was dealing with crabs, nets, more bait etc.

Presumably he was wanting a fun day out with his family - I can imagine the OP would have something to say if he had a quick drink!

I would have taken wipes and hand sanitiser and offered DH a squirt in that situation.

He would have rolled his eyes that I’m neurotic and then done it to please me and because it doesn’t hurt him.

the problem here isn’t the interaction itself but the fact you and your DH aren’t getting along.

tl:dr it isn’t about the bacon.

Fishermen spend all day touching all kinds of ‘undesirable’ bait…including maggots, live worms (red worms, nightcrawlers), minnows, leeches, and crickets…to name but a few! Both my dad and brothers dish regularly and as a child I’d occasionally go with them. Do you think fishermen nip off to the pub everytime they cast their line OP?

You are being utterly ridiculous here (as are the rest of the posters saying you were right!) Christ alive! 🤯😵‍💫

You've missed the posts up thread about raw bacon being the same as deli meats. 😵‍💫

I would have just told you no, stop being neurotic. I imagine that you would have then been in a passive aggressive superior huff and ruined the crabbing vibe for everyone, but please continue to bask in your self righteousness because he muttered at you whilst obeying your silly command.

I know what you mean OP. I'd always wash my hands in the crab bucket of water and have a little pack of wipes. Touching raw meat makes me shudder. We did once try smelly cheese for crabbing and did ok.

Right, but the question of whether or not it's safe to eat raw bacon isn't a matter of opinion, it's a matter of fact. Saying 'in my opinion it's safe to eat raw bacon' is like saying 'in my opinion cancer is good for you', or 'in my opinion heroin isn't addictive'. It's just verifiably untrue.

Can’t you carry some hand gel ? He could’ve rinsed them in the sea. Obviously he could’ve then washed them later on before eating etc with soap. Presumably a few mins later he would be back handling the net again and crabs etc hopefully! So I can’t see the point of washing his hands in between. As long as he’s not sucking on his fingers! Tbh after beach and sea water you all need to wash your hands before ingesting anything or touching mouth!

I didn't want to traumatize the OP too much at once.

How often do crabs and raw bacon feature in your sex life...?

Dude wasn't eating it, he was trying to feed it to crabs.

He was unreasonable to storm off, @Unsurree, but given that he and dd were crabbing, your request was unreasonable too - their hands were going to get dirty so it would be pointless for him to wash his hands.

If only it was just fish poo.

How do people not know: no, don't eat raw bacon. It is not the same as prosciutto etc 🤦‍♀️

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/amp/entry/the-horrifying-reason-why-you-should-never-eat-undercooked-bacon_uk_65f42f74e4b08b384f1afab3/

If you don't want her exposed, don't take her crab fishing using raw bacon as bait in shit filled UK waters.

I would have thought you over the top too, but simply said no to your demand. Why weren't you baiting the nets and going off to the pub to wash your hands instead of enjoying the experience with your 3 year old?

Eww. The comments on here tell you all that you need to know about the disgusting hygiene standards some people have. I'd never dream of handling raw meat without immediately cleaning it off. Absolutely vile.

That being said, randomly sending him to the pub was a bit shit. You should have probably been prepared with some wipes or sanitiser.

What a pair you make.
As an aside, my dad used to eat raw bacon. I don’t think that was what killed him.

Surely you'd just take care and give hands and the equipment a good wash at the end. Otherwise, you'd need to wash your hands each time you reloaded or found a crab etc.

It’s just risk mitigation that’s all :) I’d also expect everyone to wash their hands after faffing with the activity too.
Providing OP didn’t ask in a horrible way, even if the husband didn’t agree that it was necessary, to make OP comfortable he could have just done it without beefing. Everyone’s day goes nicer then doesn’t it - no domestic and a risk reduction! Just a nice way to show their feelings have been considered.

Laugh reaction needs to come back.

Plus, the whole exercise was about dipping a bucket into the sea, which is full of fish poo. And then hauling it out and poking crabs, which scavenge dead stuff from the bottom of the fish-poo-filled sea.

There's a cognitive dissonance going on here.

Everytime the bag comes up he's on close contact with the sea water and raw meat. None of this makes sense. Using the pub toilet is also a piss take. If you're that bothered, take wipes. Clearly he isn't bothered and doesn't appreciate being mothered.

Sex round at yours must be fun

If that kid is over protected like this, s/he will get every bug going on the planet Earth. I'm telling ya, build up their immunity FGS.

I think I'm sympathetic to DH. I'd storm off too.

Bring some anti covid juice or hand wipes every time you go out from now on, or else!