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To take up a bigger table than needed in a cafe?

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Egit · 30/03/2026 13:43

To try to use a bigger table in a cafe?

I know it’s not always possible, such as during busy times, and I would never ‘hog’ a larger table for myself.

But during quiet times… such as right now! I’m in a cafe on my own with 2 dogs and I’ve sat myself at a 4 seater table.

I actually hate 2 seater ones. They are just too small and I get claustrophobic with all the clutter of cutlery, condiments, sides of veg etc.

I like to spread out!

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beethecrackon24995 · 30/03/2026 15:48

I'm finding your posts rather entitled and frustrating OP.. Your inability to see outside the box. Frothing dog haters accusation because plenty don't much care for eating in a cafe with lots of mutts. My favourite cafe currently sat there now, is like Crufts. Lots of yappy small dogs belonging to females who think it's cute and encourage them to beg neighbouring table for food. I quite like some dogs, including the breed you mentioned that you have. Lovely non smelly dogs, however not everyone likes dogs. Their naked bottom holes are exposed don't you know.......the odd lick isn't pleasant to see whilst biting into a bacon butty

OtherS · 30/03/2026 15:48

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:21

Why?!… Dogs are so common place in cafes and pubs near me. I find this so weird!… There’s normally muddy boots, muddy arses from bikers and kids in muddy puddle suits. The least mess is usually the dogs!

Agree, this is so random! God knows where all these dog-haters live, round here they're welcome in almost all cafes and it's very unusual to find one that doesn't allow them. In fact, out of a quite absurd number of cafes in my last town (14 within 10 minutes walk), the only one that didn't allow dogs was Costa... and that was always near empty. The others were always packed. Maybe as I'm in AONB? So lots and lots of people stopping mid walk. Even see dogs in the bakery, the grocer, Boots, Waitrose etc. Makes life a lot easier if you don't have to go out twice. Certainly cafes here would lose far more custom banning them than they're losing allowing them. Which is presumably the case everywhere they're permitted; cafes are there to make money so if dogs were putting customers off, they wouldn't be there. That really is all there is to it.

As for taking a bigger table it's absolutely fine so long as it's not busy busy and you're not taking it away from other people. Especially with the dogs - some people might moan they were in the way if you were all trying to cram round a single!

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:48

Didimum · 30/03/2026 15:41

Someone isn't a dog hater to prefer them not to be around food service or for there to be multiple dogs per person. What an overreaction.

It’s not just from this thread. It’s past MN conversations around dogs.

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Allseeingallknowing · 30/03/2026 15:47

Reliablesource · 30/03/2026 15:45

I hate dogs in cafes and taking 2 dogs in is taking the piss. The entitlement that you think it’s ok to take 2 filthy mutts in where people are eating food.

Edited

Perhaps literally!

ParmaVioletTea · 30/03/2026 15:46

YeaVerily · 30/03/2026 15:37

My local Wetherspoons is in a historic building, which is stunning and full of students from the local well-off uni, families, groups, mums meeting, it's nice!

Same here, ours is a beautiful old building with a carpet especially made in Devon to depict the colour and shape of waves on the sea. Cost tens of 1000s.
Nice people in there too - a mix of couples and groups. Never noticed any drunks with missing teeth.

I suspwect we all go to the same 'Spoons! It is a gorgeous building.

viques · 30/03/2026 15:45

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:38

Did you not read my OP?

Yes.

I was just ruminating on a possible conversation if you tried to book a four top table in a restaurant for two people. Sorry if I have in some way offended you.

YeaVerily · 30/03/2026 15:45

Unusual for a Wetherspoons

You can't have been into many because that's just not true.
The only one I've been in that was a bit dodgy was inside a larger city station but I suspect whatever pub chain it was, it would have been filled with the same people.

Reliablesource · 30/03/2026 15:45

Egit · 30/03/2026 13:59

This is the decision of the owner of the cafe, not you.

I hate dogs in cafes and taking 2 dogs in is taking the piss. The entitlement that you think it’s ok to take 2 filthy mutts in where people are eating food.

Tiddlywinks63 · 30/03/2026 15:45

Egit · 30/03/2026 14:51

Well, I’m back home now. During the whole time I was there, no one needed a bigger table

Or they saw you and your dogs and decided to go elsewhere?

Loub1987 · 30/03/2026 15:43

Don’t want dogs around my food when I pay to go out. My kids don’t like them and wouldn’t want to go into a cafe with them there.

Take whatever table you want but leave your dogs outside.

BoogieTownTop · 30/03/2026 15:42

Didimum · 30/03/2026 15:41

Someone isn't a dog hater to prefer them not to be around food service or for there to be multiple dogs per person. What an overreaction.

But they are when all they can take from this post is that the OP had dogs and lambast her for it! It wasn’t the question,

But the dog haters on here cannot stop themselves derailing a thread, to moan about dogs.

GivesYourHosieryaFright · 30/03/2026 15:41

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:27

Oh yes!… the daffodils that are a bit wilted now, picked from their garden for that ‘rustic’ lake district feel

There is nothing wrong with daffodils in a café, but I wouldn't go in a cafe, restaurant or pub where smelly dogs and their entitled owners are welcome. No wonder the place wasn't busy.

I appreciate the businesses that describe themselves as "dog friendly", or advertise that they provide "doggy treats", or a "doggy menu" 🤢🤢🤮. It's very helpful to know which places to avoid.

notacooldad · 30/03/2026 15:41

I'd be more pissed off you had ddogs than spare seats.
Maybe but it's the cafe owners discretion if they want dogs in or not.

My local Wetherspoons is in a historic building, which is stunning and full of students from the local well-off uni, families, groups, mums meeting, it's nice!
Same here, ours is a beautiful old building with a carpet especially made in Devon to depict the colour and shape of waves on the sea. Cost tens of 1000s.
Nice people in there too - a mix of couples and groups. Never noticed any drunks with missing teeth.

Unusual for a Wetherspoons
Not really, there's loads of really nice Wetherspoons about. My mum and her friends who are in the 80's go and they wouldn't be sen anywhere thst was rough.

Didimum · 30/03/2026 15:41

Egit · 30/03/2026 14:58

I know. It’s so weird!… I’ve never met any such reverent dog haters ever in really life!

Someone isn't a dog hater to prefer them not to be around food service or for there to be multiple dogs per person. What an overreaction.

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:40

Doseofreality · 30/03/2026 15:38

I’ve never seen any human cock their leg up and lick their bum hole either. No one wants to see a dog doing that, especially while eating. It’s grim!
And don’t get me started on dog drool 🤮🤮

I’ve never seen a dog cock it’s leg up in a cafe either.

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Egit · 30/03/2026 15:40

Myneighbourisanosyoldgit · 30/03/2026 15:36

So if they didn't lie under the table, where the heck were they?

Next to the table, behind my chair. I was next to the wall near the corner. So free space in the corner. Why does all this matter?!

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BoogieTownTop · 30/03/2026 15:39

YeaVerily · 30/03/2026 15:37

My local Wetherspoons is in a historic building, which is stunning and full of students from the local well-off uni, families, groups, mums meeting, it's nice!

Same here, ours is a beautiful old building with a carpet especially made in Devon to depict the colour and shape of waves on the sea. Cost tens of 1000s.
Nice people in there too - a mix of couples and groups. Never noticed any drunks with missing teeth.

Unusual for a Wetherspoons

Doseofreality · 30/03/2026 15:38

Myneighbourisanosyoldgit · 30/03/2026 15:35

Dogs aren't the last word in hygiene, they crap, piss and then sit on furniture. If a human did that naked most people would be saying how skanky.

I’ve never seen any human cock their leg up and lick their bum hole either. No one wants to see a dog doing that, especially while eating. It’s grim!
And don’t get me started on dog drool 🤮🤮

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:38

viques · 30/03/2026 15:27

So when you or your OH phone up to book a table how does the conversation go.

”Hello, I’d like to book a table for dinner on Thursday night please. About 7.30 if that’s possible”

”Certainly, how many people are in your party”

”Two”

”So that’s a table for two , on Thursday at 7.30”

”Well, actually, can you make it a table for four”

”But you said there are two people in the party”

”Yes , there are two of us, but we’d like a table for four”

” So only two people will be eating and paying, using a table that could seat four people and bring in double the revenue for us?”

”Yes.”

Did you not read my OP?

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YeaVerily · 30/03/2026 15:37

My local Wetherspoons is in a historic building, which is stunning and full of students from the local well-off uni, families, groups, mums meeting, it's nice!

Same here, ours is a beautiful old building with a carpet especially made in Devon to depict the colour and shape of waves on the sea. Cost tens of 1000s.
Nice people in there too - a mix of couples and groups. Never noticed any drunks with missing teeth.

Myneighbourisanosyoldgit · 30/03/2026 15:36

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:33

They didn’t lie under the table anyway.

So if they didn't lie under the table, where the heck were they?

Doseofreality · 30/03/2026 15:36

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:18

My dogs were on the floor… is they why people on here hate dogs in cafes so much? Because they think they shout at the table? 🙄

They are on the floor under, or very neat to, the table that you are sitting at. The same table designed for 4 people, not one person and two dogs.
You are taking up a bigger table because you need space for your dogs under or around it,

NotAnotherChickenNugget · 30/03/2026 15:35

I’m surprised by all the dog hate! I’d choose a table nearest to the dogs 😆
As for taking up a bigger table, as others have said, if it’s quiet why not, but the number of times i’ve been to places with my DH and 2 DC, where someone on their own or a couple are taking up a table for 4 (or more) when there are smaller tables free, it’s so inconsiderate.

Myneighbourisanosyoldgit · 30/03/2026 15:35

Egit · 30/03/2026 14:59

Yeah but it’s fully off smelly weirdos and drunks with no teeth! My dogs are more hygienic than Wetherspoons carpets, it’d be cruel to take my dog in to one

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Dogs aren't the last word in hygiene, they crap, piss and then sit on furniture. If a human did that naked most people would be saying how skanky.

Egit · 30/03/2026 15:34

DreamyJade · 30/03/2026 15:26

DH and I had to stand to drink our drinks in Costa last week because there were four tables for 4 taken by a single person (all working on laptops). Three of the four were men.

I was pissed off by them all, regardless of sex. It’s selfish to take a big table when loads of people are standing.

Id have just sat next to them

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