I’ll start by saying that I love my son and my husband very much. But they are driving me nuts.
My son is 21, an only child and lives away at university at the moment. Soon to be home from May, but also home for Easter for three weeks atm.
I find him being home very disruptive to the calm I’ve been getting used to. The bathroom is always littered with shavings, toothpaste on the sink, the loo not always flushed or bleached. The kitchen is used through the night. I get up to crumbs everywhere and chocolate spread smears hardened in the sink. His bedroom is full of litter, cans and empty packets, clothes etc. He orders from Deliveroo at all hours. And whilst I can tolerate his messy bedroom for the time he’s here, I can’t tolerate it spilling out into other rooms. He’s also very techy and so his bedroom is full of computer related stuff and wires. I hate it. Other than his messiness he’s a good kid.
Anyway. He took my husband shopping (at husbands expense) this past weekend and convinced my husband to buy the new Apple Laptop (he needed a new one anyway). They went to get it - great, but apparently they had none of what he wanted in stock. So my son took him on a tour of the tech shops to buy;
the apple mini
a mismatched black monitor
a mismatched grey mouse
a white keyboard with purple buttons
a garish huge mouse mat
a clunky looking microphone
and all I new about it was when I walked past my peacefully decorated little office and saw a desk covered in all colours, wires sticking out from everywhere and lights blinking. I challenged husband and he says ‘oh but DS said this was the best, or I needed this spec etc’. It looks so ugly and cluttered.
AIBU - it’s their home too. But I just feel like what’s the point in me trying to keep a nice home when everyone else who lives here isn’t bothered about how it looks.
When DS goes back to uni he takes all his stuff. Half of it is there right now and yet his bedroom is crammed and looks like a bombs gone off. I’m dreading him being back for good, despite loving him so much.