AIBU to ask my mum to stop WhatsApping baby photos?

Hmmm… I’ve just become a Grandma. Ds and Dil have asked that my grandchild isn’t on social media (and I absolutely respect that), but they totally understand that family members want to see photos , I mean that’s just normal isn’t it?

I assumed OP was just doing it to be controlling. I can’t see any harm whatsoever.

I agree that a child’s privacy is important but you need to weigh up whether sending family members some baby pics is actually risky and damaging compared to alienating people. We have a cousin who wouldn’t let anybody hold her baby/take photos/had strict rules that everybody had to follow regarding care & gifts. What actually happened was the child was alienated from the family. (I will add that we are a normal family, not dangerous or strange 😅) all the other cousins’ children grew up playing together and forming close bonds which she missed out on. In fact it’s easy to forget she exists!

I'm not sure I understand why you would have an issue with the child's Grandmother sharing photos of her grandchild with individual family and friends. I can understand why you wouldn't want her to share pictures to be viewed by all and sundry on Facebook etc. but presumably a WhatsApp is going to people that she (and you) know?

Obviously it's your baby and therefore your rules but I am struggling to understand why this would be an issue.

I agree with this. Unless you have serious concerns about her friends, it all seems a bit sad. In all probability they are likely to be not all that bothered about photos of what they see as a random baby, but it probably gives your mum pleasure to do this. Of course that doesn't trump your needs either but you need to try to identify exactly what your concerns are before you turn this into a hill to die on

I don't think of private WhatsApp as the same as social media. I'm all for privacy for kids but surely a grandmother can share a couple photos of her grandchild with friends? Thats so strange to me, I've never heard anyone complain about that.

But she might not view sharing with family on private what’s app groups the same as social media?

can she email the photos is that ok?

or should she print and post them ?

don’t share electronically if you don’t want her to share electronically

I wouldn’t send her any photos from now on .
FAFO as the young ones say .

Use one time view in WhatsApp when sending her pictures? And if she is funny about it, then she doesn't get photos in exchange for ignoring your boundaries.

Just stop sending her pics that she might forward.
Stop her taking pics when you’re not around.

Repeat repeat, you do NOT want baby photos shared.

It's your child. Your rules.

Your DM is showing total disrespect to you by not listening to you.

You need to tell your DM that you don't want her to do this. And if she still ignores what you say then you need to stop letting your DM having photos of your child.