You shouldn’t have to hide them OP, it’s true.
I guess there’s a happy medium between “out on the side” (which sort of gives “fair game” vibes) and hidden. So put somewhere where everyone know that means it’s yours/ not to be taken without asking, but not exactly squirrelled away in secret either. People should be able to restrain themselves, but perhaps to visiting family “on the side”
looks like it means “put out for guests”. To be extremely charitable 🤔
There’s a tricky dynamic in this house as my DS believes in the seafood diet (see food and eat it) when it comes to treats, where as DD wants to make things last a really long time. And I mean really long. She’s got sweets and chocolate from her birthday in October, and from Christmas, for context.
So that works fine when it’s in her room, but when it’s in the general snack drawer or on the kitchen side, and she thinks it should be left alone as “hers” , it makes DS go insane with chocolate craving. But why should she hide it away? But then, why should it be put right in the way of most temptation?
I have recently moved a specific chocolate that she had left in the snack drawer from Christmas to a more discrete place as it was getting into the realms of taunting by this point. “I just haven’t fancied it yet, but I will at some point” is her view.
It’s a very hard line to walk!
Edit - DD is 17 and NT
DS is 12 and has ADHD
Probably relevant!