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Do Children really get bored in nursery?

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Receptionprep · 29/03/2026 17:08

I have seen it said on here that kids will get bored at reception if they already know stuff?

Is this really true?

I have a nearly 4yo and he’s going to be young in the year (end of April birthday).

I have been trying to get him ready for school and he really enjoys it. But now worried have we taught too much - bearing in mind we still have 6 months to go? If we continue at this current pace he will be streets ahead.

What do teachers and parents think? Is it really a thing?

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Jk987 · 29/03/2026 22:17

He might know how to read basic words but he won’t know about sounds, anomalies, phonics. That will be new to him.

as others have said, there’s waaay more to reception than letters and numbers. They do PE, library time, topics such as dinosaurs/planets, learning rules such as queuing, sitting on their carpet spots.

Receptionprep · 29/03/2026 22:05

MissingSockDetective · 29/03/2026 20:12

Are you experienced in teaching phonics? Many parents seen to teach them incorrectly, which can cause issues later on when they have to unlearn the wrong things and relearn the correct ones. I'd carry on but in a more relaxed way.

No, but I did get the read write inc pack and learnt the speed sets on YouTube so I think I am doing them correctly.

Havent figured out how to get him to blend sounds yet, but if I give him the letters he can make the word.

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Mammyloveswine · 29/03/2026 18:20

The early learning goals are not behind a paywall (early years lead here!)they are freely available online. “Knowing numbers” does not meet the early learning goal for maths, it’s more complex than than! But the point of reception is to learn through play and play based learning! With respect op, you are not a teacher so you don’t have the knowledge underpinning the early years foundation stage that his teacher will, which is very heavily research based! Your son will be fine!

Thank you, yes I am confident now he will be fine. I am over my wobble with the state provision and actually really happy he’s going there now. He has learned lots there.

So yes basically no my panic is over but he still wants to keep learning and absolutely not going to say no to that so now I have got myself in a bit of a pickle because as others say I don’t want to do it wrong.

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Notashamed13 · 29/03/2026 20:17

I'm jealous, my dd has struggled throughout her whole short school life (currently year 5) not for want of trying..... she has zero retention, lives for break, lunch and hometime - if your child is receptive to learning at home then grab it with open arms. Fwiw I knew something was "wrong" in reception so follow your gut.

MissingSockDetective · 29/03/2026 20:12

Are you experienced in teaching phonics? Many parents seen to teach them incorrectly, which can cause issues later on when they have to unlearn the wrong things and relearn the correct ones. I'd carry on but in a more relaxed way.

Newmumatlast · 29/03/2026 20:12

tnorfotkcab · 29/03/2026 20:07

So many people think they know the sounds...but they have no clue and go "cuh" "ah* "tuh" ...cat. Etc

This is the other thing. Sometimes doing too much at home then makes it harder for the child having to unlearn what they have been taught which doesn't gel with how the school teaches that particular thing. My child flew through learning to read and is a better reader than I was at their age despite me having already been able to read before school and being ahead because they have learnt the school method with their peers but got the hang of the rules quick and was still able to fly ahead. I'm glad I didnt do too much at home and focused on creative stuff like drawing and just being able to be a kid and play

Newmumatlast · 29/03/2026 20:09

I have a bright child and purposefully didn't teach them things I knew school would like reading as my own experience as a child was yes, I did get bored and had to do other activities/worksheets. My child therefore had something to learn at school but was still ahead, actually, and still gets bored and does other things.

I also do not think end of April is particularly young in year to feel you need to do prep work to be school ready.

tnorfotkcab · 29/03/2026 20:07

tnorfotkcab · 29/03/2026 20:04

Do you even know how to deliver Phonics?

So many people think they know the sounds...but they have no clue and go "cuh" "ah* "tuh" ...cat. Etc

tnorfotkcab · 29/03/2026 20:06

If he's only doing short hours at nursery.... How much peer interaction is he getting?

tnorfotkcab · 29/03/2026 20:04

Receptionprep · 29/03/2026 18:12

Quite embarrassing to say it started because he moved from a private nursery (feeder to a top prep). And we kept in touch with his friends. They were all doing phonics and maths and xyz and he wasn’t doing anything at the state nursery (attached to a primary). So I had a mini panic and started doing it myself in a fun game way. He then loved it so we kept on. Then he wanted to learn numbers so we got some number blocks and started that.

Then he got a whiteboard for Xmas so he wanted to do teacher games.

Basically it escalated to mini home school and our work is quite flexible so he does short hours and he is at home a lot so there’s time for play and these activities.

So it didn’t start child led if honest but I just sat down to ask this question and then he just presented the read write inc pack to me and that’s where I have been for the last 20 minutes is doing phonics again!

Do you even know how to deliver Phonics?

marcyhermit · 29/03/2026 19:23

Independence, social skills, being able to play without adult input/direction, listening and attention much more important at this stage than knowing lots of numbers.

chateauneufdupapa · 29/03/2026 19:18

OP I think it is great what you’ve been doing

Endofyear · 29/03/2026 18:44

I learned to read at 3 and honestly, I was a bit bored at infant school, it was a long time ago now and not many children were reading before they started school. I used to have to go over to the junior school to get reading books and I remember being really nervous 😩 I was quite a dreamy child and spent a lot of time playing in the wendy house and dressing up box! Hopefully things have moved on a bit since then and your son's school will be able to set work for him that challenges him!

Mammyloveswine · 29/03/2026 18:20

The early learning goals are not behind a paywall (early years lead here!)they are freely available online. “Knowing numbers” does not meet the early learning goal for maths, it’s more complex than than! But the point of reception is to learn through play and play based learning! With respect op, you are not a teacher so you don’t have the knowledge underpinning the early years foundation stage that his teacher will, which is very heavily research based! Your son will be fine!

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 29/03/2026 18:15

It’s nonsense. Which child gets bored with playing?!! Nurseries are used to catering for differences in abilities. If your child is getting bored then the nursery is not doing their job properly.

ThatFairy · 29/03/2026 18:14

I can only remember as far back as primary 3 being really bored and pretending to accidentally do the primary 4 work in the mixed class

Receptionprep · 29/03/2026 18:14

Zippidydoodah · 29/03/2026 17:31

Can he play with others?

Can he go to the toilet independently (including wiping)?

Can he get changed independently?

Can he put his own coat/shoes on?

And yes he can do all these things although the wiping needs some work!

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Receptionprep · 29/03/2026 18:12

mikado1 · 29/03/2026 17:31

Is this a child led thing or what started you out in covering these things outside of day to day counting, talking about time, looking at numbers on doors of houses etc?
I'm a teacher and didn't do any formal work with my dc pre-school or pre preschool. I woukd have if they'd asked but I knew this woukd be done at school and knew the benefit of all the other more important things at the preschool age. I chose a preschool that also didn't cover anything formally, no worksheets, phonics etc. School life is long enough and play is so important. Of course I read to them all the time, we did jigsaws and painting etc etc. I can promise you it never held them back and they were absolutely flying once formal learning started and they were hungry for it.
I will also say, (Ireland) not all preschools or parents will be 'teaching' these things correctly and schools then have to undo bad habits (capital letters and phonics especially!!)

Quite embarrassing to say it started because he moved from a private nursery (feeder to a top prep). And we kept in touch with his friends. They were all doing phonics and maths and xyz and he wasn’t doing anything at the state nursery (attached to a primary). So I had a mini panic and started doing it myself in a fun game way. He then loved it so we kept on. Then he wanted to learn numbers so we got some number blocks and started that.

Then he got a whiteboard for Xmas so he wanted to do teacher games.

Basically it escalated to mini home school and our work is quite flexible so he does short hours and he is at home a lot so there’s time for play and these activities.

So it didn’t start child led if honest but I just sat down to ask this question and then he just presented the read write inc pack to me and that’s where I have been for the last 20 minutes is doing phonics again!

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COUNCAT14 · 29/03/2026 17:54

April born really isn’t that young in the school year.

It would be very rare for a 4YO to be at the early learning goals in all areas consistently before even starting reception. I would also say to be mindful about what you teach and how, as schools may teach in certain forms, which could confuse him needing to unlearn and relearn in different ways, often actually setting him back.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/68c024cb8c6d992f23edd79c/Early_years_foundation_stage_statutory_framework_-_for_group_and_school-based_providers.pdf.pdf
pages 12-16 set out what children will need to learn by end of Reception.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/64e6002a20ae890014f26cbc/DfE_Development_Matters_Report_Sep2023.pdf
this is some guidance to break the early years goals down. It is important for children to develop through each stage and not jump to the end goal so gain the foundation knowledge and skills to achieve the ELG successfully and the knowledge to be embedded.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/68c024cb8c6d992f23edd79c/Early_years_foundation_stage_statutory_framework_-_for_group_and_school-based_providers.pdf.pdf

Dontlletmedownbruce · 29/03/2026 17:50

I don't think they should be bored but also if they are advanced in one area they should be given advanced curriculum in that area. The teachers should spot it. My ds2 had advanced reading, DS1 had advanced sums. DD went with the flow.

I run a pre school room (not in UK so curriculum may differ a little). As the year comes to a close we observe where work is needed. Independence skills is our main priority. Can they open and close a lunchbox, zip their bags open and closed, put on coats, gloves, hats and scarves without assistance, get a tissue, blow their nose and put in it the bin. Also can they listen without interrupting, sit still for short periods, stand in queue, follow a two or three part instruction specific to them, follow a group instruction, stay on task without a reminder. Can they choose a toy without adult support, approach other children, assert themselves by saying no when needed, resolve conflict without seeking an adult, initiate conversation, take turns back and forth and maintaining eye contact, tidy up properly, take responsibility for their own things, approach an adult when necessary, answer a direct question, answer an open ended question, share thoughts and ideas, speak in a small group, speak in a large group. There are many more but this is just a few examples. These skill are much more important and fundamental than numbers or letters. Chances are a child advanced in an academic area may be a bit behind on others.

LottieMary · 29/03/2026 17:49

Receptionprep · 29/03/2026 17:19

So do you mean don’t worry and just crack on?

Is there a national curriculum somewhere where these things are set out.

When I was looking at the learning goals for eyf these were all behind paywalls.

They’re on the gov.uk website.

early learning goals go to the end of reception then ks1 is y1 and 2. My sons there and is learning to read, number bonds and foundations of knowledge but way way beyond all
of that too. He had a good time at nursery but he’s flourishing at school.

CharlotteSometimeslikesanafternoonnap · 29/03/2026 17:39

My mum taught me loads before I started school and when I went I was bored, but I wasn't a kid who liked playing. Once they figured that out, they encouraged me in different ways. When DD started, I'd also done lots with her, but she was fine because she loved the social side and wanted to play all day. I'm a teacher and we rarely have children who genuinely 'know it all', there's always something they need to practice and they are extended as appropriate to their needs.

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 29/03/2026 17:37

He'll be fine plus he's not that young in the year. Think of all the summer birthdays.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 29/03/2026 17:34

My dd was young in her year but very precocious. She was already a fluent reader by the start of reception, could do lots of basic maths and had quite a wide ranging general knowledge due to an exceptional memory. She wasn't in the slightest bit bored in reception - quite the contrary, she loved it!

superchick · 29/03/2026 17:34

Reception is about more than maths and english. He'll be playing in pairs and small and large groups, socialising, sharing, listening, taking turns, waiting, speaking up, helping others, learning from peers, sports, learning about the world. He won't be bored even if he's learned some things already. There's not a lot of benefits of racing ahead at that age.

If you want to teach him stuff look at real world learning as well as maths and spelling - counting, money, geography, wildlife, animals, using public transport, tying laces, cleaning and tidying, local history etc.

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