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3 year old and 10 month old in bunk beds?

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someonesmum7 · 29/03/2026 17:05

We live in a 2 bed and currently our baby is 6 months and in our 3 year olds old cotbed it’s beside my side of the bed up against the wall and I have to climb into bed at the bottom.

DD will be 3 next month and by time we are thinking of doing this DS will be 10-11 months.

DD currently in a single house bed, she had a 4x4 kallax unit, chest of drawers and wardrobe. We can get rid of chest of drawers but need kallax for toy/spare bedsheets etc storage, no room in any other part of the house. Realistically we cannot fit 2 single beds in unless one is pushed under the window which I don’t like.

The only thing we can think of is getting a very low bunk, the one with a floor bed on the bottom for DS and the thick 2 or 3 stairs up to the bed on top (some of these even open up for extra storage). DD doesn’t ever get out of bed she just shouts for one of us however I know this could change. We will add additional safety rail to top to make it higher and also one to the bottom to stop baby rolling out.

Bed will also not be anywhere near the window.

Again, I’m not talking about the high bunk beds with ladders. I’ll attach photos of what we are thinking. Yay or nay?

TIA

3 year old and 10 month old in bunk beds?
3 year old and 10 month old in bunk beds?
3 year old and 10 month old in bunk beds?
3 year old and 10 month old in bunk beds?
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SherbetDipDap · 30/03/2026 12:53

We did this when your youngest was just over 1, and our eldest was 3. we just didn’t have a choice really. Youngest was on the floor bed bunk, eldest on the top bunk. Nice shallow steps. Did I often find the little one asleep on the floor? Yes. But other than that, they were both absolutely fine.

We’ve just moved and eldest is obviously far too used to having rails as he keeps falling out of his single bed 🤣

user1492757084 · 30/03/2026 12:47

If your baby's cot has taller legs maybe you could keep a low trundle bed or matress (1/2 of it) under the cot during the day and slide it out for three year old at night.

user1492757084 · 30/03/2026 12:40

Can you fit two cots into the room?
The three year old could have the side down and the baby could have his sides up.

Lourdes12 · 30/03/2026 12:29

I had this one, it’s great. My one year old at the bottom and 3 year old at the top. We put a bed guard in at the bottom one

https://www.strictlybedsandbunks.co.uk/product/wiltshire-heavy-duty-low-solid-pine-bunk-bed/

Frozensun · 30/03/2026 12:18

I see that you could only fit 2 beds if one is up against the window. I’m assuming you’d prefer not to, because the child could climb to the window. If that’s the case, what about a Montessori style floor bed? You can get styles where they have a barrier (sort of like a cot) all the way around, so bub will still be safe.

SwirlingAroundSleep · 30/03/2026 11:46

gey a high sleeper for the older child and place a cot underneath. Something like this: https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7648434?&utm_custom6=PLA&deeplink=true&gclsrc=aw.ds&&cmpid=GS001&_$ja=tsid:59157%7Cacid:844-913-7556%7Ccid:20358693262%7Cagid:%7Ctid:%7Ccrid:%7Cnw:x%7Crnd:10041749326826506088%7Cdvc:m%7Cadp:%7Cmt:%7Cloc:9194217&utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=20358693262&utm_term=7648434&utm_content=shopping&utm_custom1=&utm_custom2=844-913-7556&GPDP=true&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19672037693&gbraid=0AAAAAD9II9lcxV9YQC61cj6tQNZh54X6F&gclid=CjwKCAjwvqjOBhAGEiwAngeQndEXTzgDq_EMP0hgE3cSmUT23eBQcL8pzkI2KygOKoJbaf8RHWvGnhoCFcgQAvD_BwE

or something specifically with a cot underneath that’s built in:
https://arthauss.co.uk/products/wooden-bunk-bed-cris-with-cot-bed?variant=32751684255821&currency=GBP&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=google%2Bshopping&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20773533008&gbraid=0AAAAADrffqdDscGCtcGDCg_DTtTZnBFY6&gclid=CjwKCAjwvqjOBhAGEiwAngeQnbBvQXZDCtj8nI3qQ8MQtxz-Xpoy0Ip7_ynB37YQcXIrjgTjjDYajRoCQX4QAvD_BwE

Wooden Bunk Bed Cris with Cot Bed

Give your kids the bed of their dreams now! This bunk bed look and feels amazing! Made of the finest wood, will keep your kids safe, comfortable and happy!

https://arthauss.co.uk/products/wooden-bunk-bed-cris-with-cot-bed?variant=32751684255821&currency=GBP&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=google%2Bshopping&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20773533008&gbraid=0AAAAADrffqdDscGCtcGDCg_DTtTZnBFY6&gclid=CjwKCAjwvqjOBhAGEiwAngeQnbBvQXZDCtj8nI3qQ8MQtxz-Xpoy0Ip7_ynB37YQcXIrjgTjjDYajRoCQX4QAvD_BwE

StrawberrySquash · 30/03/2026 11:34

What about a low trundle bed? Could go under the window at night and be put away in the day.

KilkennyCats · 30/03/2026 11:31

saycheeese · 29/03/2026 20:10

We did it at 4 and 18 months but got our then 4yo an ikea kura bed (a low loft bed) and put the Cotbed under it . It worked really well and when DDs were 5.5 and 2.5 we got a normal bunk bed instead. The youngest has never attempted the ladder which really surprised me.

Glad it worked out for you, but those beds are only recommended from age 6 up.

Nugg · 29/03/2026 20:40

Buy a cheap cot and dismantle the cot bed until
He is old enough

sittingonabeach · 29/03/2026 20:17

What is your plan when they are older?

RandomMess · 29/03/2026 20:14

We took the bottom rungs off the bunk beds so the younger ones couldn’t climb them

RandomMess · 29/03/2026 20:14

I reckon your DH could make a set of bunk cots.

saycheeese · 29/03/2026 20:10

We did it at 4 and 18 months but got our then 4yo an ikea kura bed (a low loft bed) and put the Cotbed under it . It worked really well and when DDs were 5.5 and 2.5 we got a normal bunk bed instead. The youngest has never attempted the ladder which really surprised me.

TootlingBy · 29/03/2026 20:07

Obaya Maya shelf in Dunelm has been reduced by £10 to £40 and might be of interest to you.

2children3dogs · 29/03/2026 19:56

Hi OP,

We are in a similar situation regarding housing. Hoping to upsize next year.

We put our daughter in the top bunk aged 3. I'm sure I'll get flamed, she is super sensible, its got high sides, stairs instead of a ladder. Never had an issue and shes 4 now. I should add my daughter is in aged 6-7 clothing as shes incredibly tall for her age so had to be in a bed.

We offered her the bottom bunk temporarily but she was adamant she wanted the top bunk.

Our son is 16 months and still in a cot with us but I'll be putting him in the bottom bunk with a bed guard in the next couple of months. Bottom bunk is a small double.
I was really worried about the sleep situation but you have to do what's right for your family.

In terms of the bed we bought, it's from sleepland beds- Harvard small double bunk. The service from them was incredible.

DalmationalAnthem · 29/03/2026 19:49

someonesmum7 · 29/03/2026 17:12

Thank you, DH is good at building stuff because of his job and thinks he could build a safety rail with a locked gate on it so DS physically couldn’t get out.

Stuff made for kids has to go through such strict testing and safety regulations, I don't think this would be a good idea

Also, a child locked in their bed- what if there's a fire? That's what I thought as soon as I read your reply

herbalteabag · 29/03/2026 19:46

I'm sure my youngest was in a toddler bed before 18 months, so I don't think you necessarily need to wait until he's 2. It had a small rail at the top, nothing anywhere else. It was better for him because he could climb out of cots and the toddler bed was near to the ground, like your idea.

Caspianberg · 29/03/2026 19:44

I wouldnt
I would make the window safe.
Put baby in that room in cot, put 3 year old in single with drawer storage underneath ie ikea hemnes as single. Those drawers are huge and can fit lots of clothing/ toys

Take clothes storage out if needed for now. But they don’t need hanging storage at that age, hand the odd Dress on behind door hook or in your wardrobe.

TootlingBy · 29/03/2026 19:37

I’d be tempted to use a divan single bed to store bedding and some clothes (to replace the Kallax).
We have a large wire shelf, rather like an old fridge shelf, which we bought years ago from Ikea and have used to dry clothes on hangers in the utility room. Something like this could perhaps take some of the items from the chest of drawers and wardrobe, be screwed and bolted very securely high up, giving you the space for two beds, neither of which is under the window. Alternatively have you considered over the door clothes hangers?
Can you post a diagram?

KilkennyCats · 29/03/2026 19:29

A 10 month old is far too young for a bed, and a three year old should not be in a top bunk (not until at least 6).
Please make your children‘s safety a higher priority than how you store their clothes Confused

Bombombomtralala · 29/03/2026 19:28

As pp said, if worried about the window then focus on making that safe.

Safer than bunk beds at such young ages.

Crwysmam · 29/03/2026 19:22

Have you considered just putting a grill on the window. Similar to a stair gate. It can be removed in an emergency but prevents children getting access to the windows. If your DH is DIY handy they could make something.
It would also mean you could safely open the window for ventilation.
Shutters ( plantation style) could also be an idea. They are a great alternative to curtains since they can be used as blackout. And you could attach a locking mechanism when they are small.

YourShyLion · 29/03/2026 19:20

Definitely not for either child.