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Six year old trans girl ‘tries to cut off her penis’ after Guide ban

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JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:14

Quite a disturbing article in this morning’s Observer regarding the impact of the Guides’ ban on trans girls following the Supreme Court ruling.

It reports on the experience of one six year old trans girl named Emily after hearing she could no longer attend Rainbows:

Emily’s parents decided to be honest with their daughter about the situation, and explained that she was no longer able to take part in Rainbows because she was trans. A few hours later Curt said they found her “sobbing in her room” and were “shocked” to find her holding a pair of plastic scissors to her penis.

AIBU to find this a distressing consequence of campaign by anti-trans activists or is it a natural result of allowing such young children to change their gender identity?

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

The organisation is battling a backlash over new rules that will exclude trans girls from the organisation

https://observer.co.uk/news/national/article/girlguiding-facing-mass-exodus-after-setting-deadline-for-trans-girls-to-quit

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maudelovesharold · 29/03/2026 11:42

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

We’re talking about a distressed 6 year old boy here. And yes, the parents have navigated what seem to be fairly serious issues, whether theirs or his, appallingly badly. That’s why he’s distressed.

Twitchie · 29/03/2026 11:42

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:33

The article is clear that this girl’s friends are all now boycotting Rainbows due to how she has been treated.

Oh well, they tend to be oversubscribed. Other children will take their places.

TwistedWonder · 29/03/2026 11:41

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

He’s 6. If he wanted to identify as a dinosaur or a cat should the world be expected to pander to those delusions too?

chasegirl · 29/03/2026 11:41

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:32

The article is clear that this girl’s friends are all now boycotting Rainbows due to how she has been treated.

Those spaces will get filled easily with other girls, there is always a waiting list for Rainbows and Brownies

Shallotsaresmallonions · 29/03/2026 11:41

This is his parents fault for letting a 6 year old think that he can change his sex.

strangerthings2475 · 29/03/2026 11:41

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:38

The article is clear that it’s the girl’s friends themselves who have left in solidarity.

It's not surprising that you think six year olds capable of organising a boycott.

You seem to think six year olds are capable of determining their own gender.

PoppinjayPolly · 29/03/2026 11:41

BunsBoots · 29/03/2026 11:32

“Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?”

6 year old little girls do not have a penis.

Absolutely, what would the solution be if all the little girls at rainbows said “if males keep coming here I’m going to harm myself” ?

oh yes, they get told “too bad, how sad, you won’t be missed BIGOTS!!”

Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 11:41

Poor lad. It's not his fault the adults in his life have put him in this position.

His parents should never have let him think he could actually be a girl. It's not Girlguiding they should be angry with but themselves for their decision, as supposedly responsible adults, to lie to their child and trans him.

And he isn't banned because he's trans, girls who think they are boys can join. He's banned because he's not a girl.

But of course they'll blame the world and their dog before reflecting on their part in his distress.

LifeIsShambolic · 29/03/2026 11:41

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

Perhaps the majority of people are not prepared to participate in his delusion?

SylvanMoon · 29/03/2026 11:40

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

6-year old "girls" don't have penises to cut off

lifeisgoodrightnow · 29/03/2026 11:40

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:33

The article is clear that this girl’s friends are all now boycotting Rainbows due to how she has been treated.

That’s got nothing to do with the actual girls who need single sex safe places and you know it.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 29/03/2026 11:40

TMFF · 29/03/2026 11:37

The parents probably caused the delusion.

It sounds like they're the ones with mental health problems.

Probably desperately wanted a girl.

Desperately wanted to be cool and special more like.

loislovesstewie · 29/03/2026 11:39

No girl has a penis. The parents should have supported their son to accept that it's OK to be different but being different doesn't make a boy into a girl. If he wants to play with a doll and wear pink he's still a boy.

TwistedWonder · 29/03/2026 11:39

ProfessorRedshoeblueshoe · 29/03/2026 11:38

Absolute bollocks.

Saved me typing the same response.

He’d a boy - end of.

Bunnycat101 · 29/03/2026 11:39

This is all just bollocks though isn’t it. If this child has been so terribly distressed (although I don’t believe it tbh) it’s totally on the parents for blowing it up and sending their boy to a girls group in the first place. I’m sure they could have said something like, rainbows has come to an end, it’s time for us to look at scouts. I find it hard to believe any child cares that passionately about rainbows or brownies or that all the 6 year olds are so up in arms they’re now boycotting it. These are all very adult sensibilities being put onto small children.

TwistedWonder · 29/03/2026 11:39

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

There are plenty of mixed sex groups this little boy could attend rather than force little girls to be taught from a young age that their role in life is to roll over and #bekind to male entitlement invading their spaces

hypnovic · 29/03/2026 11:39

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

Not as 6
At 6 it's dress up.

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:38

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 29/03/2026 11:37

Girls of Rainbow age dont "boycott", their parents do.

The article is clear that it’s the girl’s friends themselves who have left in solidarity.

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ProfessorRedshoeblueshoe · 29/03/2026 11:38

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

Absolute bollocks.

ainsleysanob · 29/03/2026 11:38

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

He wouldn’t need to ‘cut off his penis’ if he wasn’t a boy would he? Not that he did try to chop off his penis, you know his parents are lying about that don’t you? To push their agenda?

slantingsunbeams · 29/03/2026 11:38

Growing up as a 'trans girl' unavoidably means learning to accept a duality - the reality of male sex continuing to exist and being relevant in some circumstances, alongside a 'female' identity.

Parents who don't make this clear to their children from the start do them no favours at all. But then maybe if they did those children would push back more against the compete irrationality of what they're being told in general about their identity, and the parents wouldn't like that?

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 29/03/2026 11:38

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

He's a boy, do you make a habit of lying to small children?

likelysuspect · 29/03/2026 11:37

Twitchie · 29/03/2026 11:23

I wonder how the child’s parents broke the news to them about Rainbows. Was it:

’We’re not going to be coming back in September, how about Scouts?’

or was it

‘Evil society hates trans girls like you and you’re not allowed to come back because you have a penis’

Because if this is genuine, a 6yo (in year 1/2) trying to mutilate your own genitalia off is not a normal response to not going back to a club and something is seriously wrong here. How would a child even make that connection (that their penis is the problem)?

How can anyone try and blame the ‘anti-trans’ (feminists) for this? I don’t feel particularly strongly about transgender children in Rainbows/Brownies either way, but seriously, no.

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Yep

Theres another thread running at the moment about parental authority, nothing as indepth as pretending you're the opposite sex but theres an example on there of the over explaining and over burdening of information to young people. But apparently in that example on the other thread the 4 year old 'gets it'

I suspect that parents who waffle on and go into great explanations about things think that their child 'gets it' and oh they're so insightful and they understand lots of things.

But what you create when you put a load of information dumped on a very young child like 3, 4, 5 and so on, is that although on the surface you think they 'get it' but you're over burdening them with processing and digesting of things that are too multi layered and grown up in some ways. This is why childhood anxiety is through the roof.

I would wager this has happened to this child in his life before, leading to this nonsense that he thinks hes a girl 'you know she's really clear about her identity and what she feels'.

And now the information that he cannot attend a particular club anymore was couched in similar terms 'because we're completely honest with her'

Well dont be, you're a grown up and children need to be given information in an age appropriate manner. The club is closed for you now so lets join another one.

TMFF · 29/03/2026 11:37

ainsleysanob · 29/03/2026 11:35

Hopefully this will be a catalyst for the little boys parents to get him the help he needs for his mental health problems. Let’s face it, his parents have made matters worse by supporting his little fairytale instead of being proper parents and getting him the help he needs. But nah, it’s more fashionable to stick a dress on the poor lad and change his name to Emily.

The parents probably caused the delusion.

It sounds like they're the ones with mental health problems.

Probably desperately wanted a girl.

Thelnebriati · 29/03/2026 11:37

Interesting user name btw.