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Six year old trans girl ‘tries to cut off her penis’ after Guide ban

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JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:14

Quite a disturbing article in this morning’s Observer regarding the impact of the Guides’ ban on trans girls following the Supreme Court ruling.

It reports on the experience of one six year old trans girl named Emily after hearing she could no longer attend Rainbows:

Emily’s parents decided to be honest with their daughter about the situation, and explained that she was no longer able to take part in Rainbows because she was trans. A few hours later Curt said they found her “sobbing in her room” and were “shocked” to find her holding a pair of plastic scissors to her penis.

AIBU to find this a distressing consequence of campaign by anti-trans activists or is it a natural result of allowing such young children to change their gender identity?

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

The organisation is battling a backlash over new rules that will exclude trans girls from the organisation

https://observer.co.uk/news/national/article/girlguiding-facing-mass-exodus-after-setting-deadline-for-trans-girls-to-quit

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Waitwhat23 · 29/03/2026 12:28

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

Girl Guiding use an exemption for Associations with a membership over 25 members to restrict membership to a single sex, as detailed in the EQA2010. This forms the basis of their membership, Charitable aims etc. They don't have to be single sex, they could go through the process of changing the organisation to a mixed sex one but they don't want to lose their USP. And as mentioned by pp's, there's already the Scouts. Where there is already boys and girls.

The SC clarified that, despite intense lobbying by activists, single sex means single sex. And this isn't new, the EQA2010 has been in place since, well, 2010.

If a boy of 6 is so distressed by his body that he attempts to remove his punishment, then he needs intensive mental help support and therapy. Not to be lied to by his parents and other adults that he is not a boy and should be allowed to invade women and girls single sex spaces and services.

(And I wouldn't be describing any suggestion made by Zoe as 'sensible'. And it's mixed sex, not mixed gender).

TMFF · 29/03/2026 12:27

This poor boy is going to grow up and realise his parents were so desperate for a girl, they tried to persuade him he is one.

And then splashed it across the media.

Hallamule · 29/03/2026 12:27

Lavender14 · 29/03/2026 12:19

I totally can see this and I do think it's hard to parents to navigate. But in this instance there was no reason for the parents to tell the child they were removed from a group due to being trans. That was unnecessarily cruel on the parents part and they really should have foreseen the impact on the child of giving too much upsetting information too early.

He wasn't removed from the group for being trans, he was removed from the group for being male - and yes his parents had every responsibility for being really clear from the get go that this was the case, because whatever his future holds, however he presents himself and his body to the world, that will never change.

UnimatrixZeroOne · 29/03/2026 12:27

LifeIsShambolic · 29/03/2026 11:22

I am quite happy to say that even if this little boy managed to cut off his penis with a pair of plastic scissors he would still be a little boy. It is a long time since I studied biology but I think chromosomes have something to do with gender....
He needs help with his mental health not convincing he is a little girl by taking him to brownies.

Chromosomes have nothing to do with gender.
They have everything to do with sex.

MoistVonL · 29/03/2026 12:27

crackofdoom · 29/03/2026 12:19

OK, well submit your complaint to IPSO and see what they say 🤷‍♀️

The Guardian isn't a member of IPSO, and since the separated I don't think the Observer had signed up to it.

You can't report a paper to an organisation they haven't signed up to. So it's not the gotcha you think it is.

It would be like referring a teacher to the OFCOM, not OFSTED.

ThatCyanCat · 29/03/2026 12:27

Snowingwinter · 29/03/2026 12:25

Scouts became mixed sex because of falling numbers and would have closed.

Yes. And Guiding continued to be viable as a single sex organisation because there was enough demand for it.

PostmanPatAlwaysRingsTwice · 29/03/2026 12:27

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:51

Should we move towards a situation like the Greens and Zack Polanski are advocating where trans women are legally recognised as women, and have access to all ‘female’ spaces?

Alternatively, all spaces could simply be made mixed gender.

This would blunt the impact of transphobia.

But it would reduce women's and girls' freedom and safety. Why have you decided that doesn't matter?

MrsMurphyIWish · 29/03/2026 12:26

ProtectAndTerf · 29/03/2026 12:21

No matter how tragic things are for one male, it doesn't mean women and girls should have to give up their rights, spaces, or identity.

(Or lie about reality - which is where things have gone wrong for this little boy.)

So many seem to think a male trumps all female needs.

This.

When DD was 12 she played a football match against a team with two trans-girls. She was hurt when one tackled her (she was under 5 ft and slight and “she” nearly a foot taller). Less so, but her team were also despondent as the two trans-girls kept scoring as they were faster and stronger.

I often thought how the parents felt of the trans girls on their team. They won the league but the other girls didn’t really get a look in … also they shared changing rooms.

BillieWiper · 29/03/2026 12:26

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

No because it's a boy. And why should a child that age even know being trans exists?!

If they are taught about it that young (which seems unnecessary) it should be framed as something some adults do. And that they are still the sex they were born with.

youbizarrehorse · 29/03/2026 12:26

Triskellion75 · 29/03/2026 12:23

Did anyone else read 'her penis' in Ricky Gervais's voice?

Yes, me! Quickly followed by HIS penis😂

Snowingwinter · 29/03/2026 12:25

AliceNotInChains · 29/03/2026 11:50

Girls should be banned from scouts. When I was a kid boys went to scouts and girls went to guides.

Scouts became mixed sex because of falling numbers and would have closed.

ProfessorSlocombe · 29/03/2026 12:25

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 12:18

The article is simply using the pronouns and identity that the girl and her parents wish to identify with.

I can]t help but remember that in the past when people said they were Napoleon, they were't made emperor of France

lcakethereforeIam · 29/03/2026 12:24

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 12:18

The article is simply using the pronouns and identity that the girl and her parents wish to identify with.

OP I share your apparent concern about inaccuracy in reporting of the news. I encourage you and other posters to read the following

https://www.womensrights.network/how-to-complain

If enough of us complain perhaps something will be done. If none of us complain nothing will change.

Frankly I have my doubts about the entire article, but here we are.

How To Complain | Women's Rights Network | UK

If you come across a TV Program or Newspaper Article that is inaccurate, misleading or wrong you might want to complain. Here's more information about how to be successful...

https://www.womensrights.network/how-to-complain

teawamutu · 29/03/2026 12:23

The story is mawkish bullshit. Suggesting Zoe Williams makes sensible suggestions about anything is also bullshit.

Emotive crap doesn't make lies true, and if this little boy exists, which I very much doubt, the fault lies with the foolish adults around him who propped up a fantasy and encouraged him to think that anyone who won't play along hates him and wants him dead. These contemptible wankers make me SO angry. Warping a child for ideological brownie points.

Ducktop · 29/03/2026 12:23

Triskellion75 · 29/03/2026 12:23

Did anyone else read 'her penis' in Ricky Gervais's voice?

Jeremy Vine for me.

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 29/03/2026 12:23

Foreverautumnagain · 29/03/2026 12:01

Having seen a very young child being adamant they are the opposite sex I sympathise fully with this family. They have a terrible situation to deal with every single day and it doesn't help at all having judgemental ignoramuses suggesting they are bad parents. The majority of the world is already against them, why make it harder by levelling uneducated criticism at them when they are trying to do their best for their child?

The child I knew was stating they were the opposite sex from as soon as they were able to speak. They are now late teens and it's quite clear it wasn't a fad or a protest of some sort. They have had a terrible time through no fault of their own. Their parents and wider family have been extremely strong and faced the opposition, the backlash and immense pressure from every quarter with dignity and love for their child.

Some children might be very persistent in their self perception. That still doesn’t make it reality though. Or helpful for adults to affirm.

I hope the child you know has parents strong enough to resist the push to medicalise him or her and remove all possibility of resolving those feelings as he or she matures fully.

I also hope they have instigated investigations into possible autism and endured that there is no history of abuse or trauma that has triggered these feelings, as the majority of kids have one or more of these factors in play.

Elizabethandfour · 29/03/2026 12:23

I really hope SS look into this little boy’s family life. So many red flags if true.

Scripturient · 29/03/2026 12:23

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 12:18

The article is simply using the pronouns and identity that the girl and her parents wish to identify with.

But which bears no relationship whatsoever to reality, as demonstrated by references to a ‘her penis’.

Triskellion75 · 29/03/2026 12:23

Did anyone else read 'her penis' in Ricky Gervais's voice?

Xanadu78 · 29/03/2026 12:22

I do strongly believe that this story has been fabricated as the child "started Rainbows" a week before the ruling came into place.

Veilsofmorning · 29/03/2026 12:22

ProtectAndTerf · 29/03/2026 12:21

No matter how tragic things are for one male, it doesn't mean women and girls should have to give up their rights, spaces, or identity.

(Or lie about reality - which is where things have gone wrong for this little boy.)

So many seem to think a male trumps all female needs.

Agree with this!

PostmanPatAlwaysRingsTwice · 29/03/2026 12:22

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:38

The article is clear that it’s the girl’s friends themselves who have left in solidarity.

Do you uncritically believe everything you read? Do you know any six year olds? This decision is entirely down to the parents of the children. The parents who are mostly interested in virtue signalling to their friends that they are not 'transphobic'.

The13thFairy · 29/03/2026 12:22

It's not because the child is 'trans', it's because the child is a boy. His parents have lied to him, waved goodbye to reality.

Or it didn't happen - which gets my vote.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 29/03/2026 12:21

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ at the poster's request.

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 29/03/2026 12:21

@JonesTown- I think you’ve made the same mistake that lead to Girl Guides initially allowing this male child into their Rainbows to start with - you describe Zoe Williams’ suggested change to girl guiding to be “mixed gender” - but it already is and will be after the change in September. You can be any gender, but you must be female (and the right age) to go to Rainbows, Brownies and Guides.

What Zoe Williams was arguing for was for Girl Guiding to be mixed sex.

This trans girl should have been always told they are male, and some things and spaces are for everyone and some things and spaces are for people who are female and some things and spaces are for people who are male.

The 6 year olds parents should have signed them up for Beavers - the youngest you can be to join Rainbows is 4, for the last 2 years it has been clear the tide had turned on the trans debate and self ID wouldn’t be allowed for much longer. These are terrible parents who set their child up to fail. That they ran to the press about their parenting failure and how they put their child in a terrible position, reinforces the fact they aren’t good parents.

I hope this whole family is getting some help.