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Six year old trans girl ‘tries to cut off her penis’ after Guide ban

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JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:14

Quite a disturbing article in this morning’s Observer regarding the impact of the Guides’ ban on trans girls following the Supreme Court ruling.

It reports on the experience of one six year old trans girl named Emily after hearing she could no longer attend Rainbows:

Emily’s parents decided to be honest with their daughter about the situation, and explained that she was no longer able to take part in Rainbows because she was trans. A few hours later Curt said they found her “sobbing in her room” and were “shocked” to find her holding a pair of plastic scissors to her penis.

AIBU to find this a distressing consequence of campaign by anti-trans activists or is it a natural result of allowing such young children to change their gender identity?

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

The organisation is battling a backlash over new rules that will exclude trans girls from the organisation

https://observer.co.uk/news/national/article/girlguiding-facing-mass-exodus-after-setting-deadline-for-trans-girls-to-quit

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GlomOfNit · 29/03/2026 12:34

Deeply troubled 6 year olds with obvious mental health issues need appropriate care and parenting and that doesn't include affirming their gender confusion. Not at that age. FFS

That child (if this really happened as reported) has been let down by so many people and agencies. Assuming this is true, in any part, I'm furious that his story is all over the press. What a shitty thing to allow to happen to your child.

Sirzy · 29/03/2026 12:34

We had a family friend growing up who at the age of 5 (until about 10) was adamant he was a girl. He only played with “girly” toys and loved playing dress up and with his mums make up.

His parents allowed him to play with what he wanted of course but the didn’t let him believe he was a girl. He was a boy. By the age of 15 he was a happy young man.

parents are the issue in cases like the boy in the article. They need to realise that a boy wanting to play with a doll doesn’t mean they are a girl!

Wishing14 · 29/03/2026 12:34

Poor little lad. Making it clear cut now will hopefully stop and more children being lied to in this way.

5MinuteArgument · 29/03/2026 12:34

This is what I don't like about the whole trans thing. They enter a female only organisation / space, and division and disagreement and sometimes collapse, ensues.

Makes me wonder if that was the objective all along.

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 29/03/2026 12:34

Actually @JonesTown- if you are in good faith on this, what do you think about the parents signing their male child up for Rainbows after the Supreme Court judgement?

From where I’m sitting, that looks like they set their child up to fail /to upset and disappointed in order for the parents to make a political point.

What possible excuse could there be for this choice? It doesn’t really matter if you agree with the decision or not, the fact was it was clear that single sex meant single sex not single gender and as such, Girl Guiding would either have to go mixed sex (allowing in all boys regardless of gender identity) or single sex, banning trans girls.

Why would anyone who loves their child put them in a situation at such a young age where they could be disappointed like this? It’s really horrible when you stop to think about it.

ThatCyanCat · 29/03/2026 12:32

I suppose it's a sign of just how insane things were that I'm actually preferring this OP, who wants to just outright ban any single sex spaces and label them all as unisex, to the usual barmy army that wants single sex spaces to remain as designated single sex spaces so that those of the opposite sex can use them.

At least this one admits they wouldn't be single sex.

AyeDeadOn · 29/03/2026 12:32

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 12:18

The article is simply using the pronouns and identity that the girl and her parents wish to identify with.

And if the parents had not affirmed this boy's delusions then he wouldnt be in this psychological mess. Why would parents have sent him to single sex guides rather than mixed sex scouts? Where is the room for desistance? For the child to change his mind? There is no world in which these parents have not contributed to this child's delusions, and, given they chose to put him into a female only club when an equivalent mixed sex one is available, given they have done everything possible to entrench him in this harmful delusion that apparently makes him want to cut his penis off at 6-fucking-years-of-age then i fail to believe that the whole bloody delusion didnt originate with the parents.

moderate · 29/03/2026 12:32

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:14

Quite a disturbing article in this morning’s Observer regarding the impact of the Guides’ ban on trans girls following the Supreme Court ruling.

It reports on the experience of one six year old trans girl named Emily after hearing she could no longer attend Rainbows:

Emily’s parents decided to be honest with their daughter about the situation, and explained that she was no longer able to take part in Rainbows because she was trans. A few hours later Curt said they found her “sobbing in her room” and were “shocked” to find her holding a pair of plastic scissors to her penis.

AIBU to find this a distressing consequence of campaign by anti-trans activists or is it a natural result of allowing such young children to change their gender identity?

A six-year-old boy who has been consistently lied to and told he can be whatever he wants to be, gets so distressed when he comes into contact with material reality that he tries to harm himself… and this is the fault of sex realists? Nah.

misscockerspaniel · 29/03/2026 12:31

If true, it has arisen due to lies being told to the child by parents/carers. Squirrel Scouts are open to boys and girls, as are other organisations. And restricting the various sections of Girl Guides (etc) to girls is putting girls/females first, not anti-trans.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 29/03/2026 12:31

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ChickenBananaBanana · 29/03/2026 12:31

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 her penis 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ZeldaFighter · 29/03/2026 12:31

I heard of a child at primary school who talked about killing himself. I believe he was taken out of class, parents called and and the senior teachers told the parents to take the kid to A&E for emergency mental health support.

I wonder what support this family will be offered.

EyeLevelStick · 29/03/2026 12:31

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

Why? The child is male, a boy. He is not and never can be a girl, because a girl is a female child.

Why should society encourage this delusion, rather than trying to fix the inequality that drives the desire (in children) to be the opposite sex?

TMFF · 29/03/2026 12:31

Hohumitsreallyallthereis · 29/03/2026 12:29

100%

and if it did this boy has the worst parents ever

Even if it didn't happen (it definitely didn't), he still has the worst parents for going to the newspaper with a pack of lies about him.

Just to push their own agenda.

ProfessorSlocombe · 29/03/2026 12:30

The whole story also has the same vibes about the couple who couldn't afford KitKat even though they earned £345,000 a year

Sirzy · 29/03/2026 12:30

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

Girls/women only spaces are important and it’s right they are being protected.

ChaToilLeam · 29/03/2026 12:30

That poor child, lied to by parents and others who should damn well know better. Trendy rainbow parenting, trying to be "inclusive" and in the process really messing up this little boy.

If the child has a penis then he's a boy and that's that. No amount of glitter washing and stupid tiptoeing around pronouns changes biological reality.

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 29/03/2026 12:29

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:38

The article is clear that it’s the girl’s friends themselves who have left in solidarity.

The article also uses ‘she’ to refer to a boy several times and includes the oxymoron ‘her penis’ so I think we can take these reports of ‘leaving in solidarity’ with a pinch of salt. Girls of that age don’t think like that.

Either they have activist parents who have cruelly taken them out of Rainbows in protest or they are a further figment of the ‘writers’ imagination.

PistachioTiramisu · 29/03/2026 12:29

Why do you keep referring to this child as a 'girl', OP? HE is a BOY!

Hohumitsreallyallthereis · 29/03/2026 12:29

murasaki · 29/03/2026 11:26

Of all the things that never happened, this didn't happen the most.

100%

and if it did this boy has the worst parents ever

lifeisgoodrightnow · 29/03/2026 12:28

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:51

Should we move towards a situation like the Greens and Zack Polanski are advocating where trans women are legally recognised as women, and have access to all ‘female’ spaces?

Alternatively, all spaces could simply be made mixed gender.

This would blunt the impact of transphobia.

lol - nice try at getting men to access women in vulnerable places. What could possibly go wrong ?

TriesNotToBeCynical · 29/03/2026 12:28

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 12:18

The article is simply using the pronouns and identity that the girl and her parents wish to identify with.

"Simply" is doing a lot of work there. Would they feel forced to go along with the plan if the child wanted to identify as a centipede? Would they be offered multiple leg transplants?

Cailin66 · 29/03/2026 12:28

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

No girl has a penis. This little boy who doesn’t exist would need help if parents were so abusive as to tell about he can be one a girl.

The13thFairy · 29/03/2026 12:28

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

It was a six year old boy.

Solutionssought2026 · 29/03/2026 12:28

I’ve only got one little boy but age 6 he would definitely not have wanted to cut off his penis. He was far too busy enjoying it.
This is very very bizarre