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Six year old trans girl ‘tries to cut off her penis’ after Guide ban

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JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:14

Quite a disturbing article in this morning’s Observer regarding the impact of the Guides’ ban on trans girls following the Supreme Court ruling.

It reports on the experience of one six year old trans girl named Emily after hearing she could no longer attend Rainbows:

Emily’s parents decided to be honest with their daughter about the situation, and explained that she was no longer able to take part in Rainbows because she was trans. A few hours later Curt said they found her “sobbing in her room” and were “shocked” to find her holding a pair of plastic scissors to her penis.

AIBU to find this a distressing consequence of campaign by anti-trans activists or is it a natural result of allowing such young children to change their gender identity?

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

The organisation is battling a backlash over new rules that will exclude trans girls from the organisation

https://observer.co.uk/news/national/article/girlguiding-facing-mass-exodus-after-setting-deadline-for-trans-girls-to-quit

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 29/03/2026 14:04

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

There’s no dignity in defending cheating men.

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/03/2026 14:03

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

It's always because of Trump or JKR, isn't it with you sex deniers? Nobody else with any relevant interest in it at all, apparently.

My niece is a middle distance athlete. She wrote a dissertation on the issue for her EPQ (got the A* in it) and has written at length about it through her science degrees. She knows full well how much faster even mediocre men can run than she can.

You see, the statistics tell the story - no amount of "ooh, but you should be KIND to the trans-identifying men" will change the plain fact that we play sport and compete with our sexed bodies, not our imaginations.

Ved · 29/03/2026 14:03

MrsMurphyIWish · 29/03/2026 13:59

In the last decade all I have seen is biological women comprising more and more.

I know right. All these years and years - decades and decades - of women fighting to be heard, to be respected, to have the vote, to be able to have financial independence, to be able to have a job, to be recognised at work, to be thought of as a human being with rights; and it's nigh on gone to shit in less than a decade because of TRAs. Even actresses are ACTORS now. Just take away everything about women. Let's just call us all non-men like The Green party want. Hmm

FML!

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HRTQueen · 29/03/2026 14:03

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/03/2026 13:54

You certainly do them no favours if the answer is to just agree with them, affirm and over time, organise for them to take life-altering drugs and have irreversible surgeries.

Have I said agree with them

no but many people believe they live in the wrong body the constant trans debate of course raises anxiety for them I do not feel this should be ignored

TheBafflingIsGenerallyComplete · 29/03/2026 14:02

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

No. hth.

PoliteSquid · 29/03/2026 14:01

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

6 year old girls don’t have penises. 6 year old boys do.

scoobydeedoo · 29/03/2026 14:01

That child needs serious mental health parents, not parents who go along with the lie that he can change sex.

ThatCyanCat · 29/03/2026 14:00

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

I wish someone had told me recognising sex in humans was a central tenet of far right ideology sooner. I'd have done better in my Politics A level. Especially if they'd also told me it was far right to cave to pressure from objective fact. Would have given me grounds to name my own grade.

MrsMurphyIWish · 29/03/2026 13:59

HRTQueen · 29/03/2026 13:52

This is really sad to read

just how do we move forward supporting children who are feeling confused who do believe they are born in the wrong body

I feel both sides have become so entrenched in their views that we have lost the ability to have sensible conversations

In the last decade all I have seen is biological women comprising more and more.

Thelnebriati · 29/03/2026 13:59

Those who campaign against women having rights should be ashamed of themselves.

murasaki · 29/03/2026 13:59

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

On this particular issue, yes I am. As he's not wrong, for once.

Also, the IOC didn't cave into him, Kirsty Coventry just did the right thing.

Men, whether they wear a frock or not, cam compete with other men. No one is banned from sports, just from stealing places from women. And that's great.

Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 13:59

HRTQueen · 29/03/2026 13:52

This is really sad to read

just how do we move forward supporting children who are feeling confused who do believe they are born in the wrong body

I feel both sides have become so entrenched in their views that we have lost the ability to have sensible conversations

Their parents tell them the truth. That they aren't born in the wrong body, they can't change sex and they never will be able to. That's how. Then they support them to come to terms with reality.

lcakethereforeIam · 29/03/2026 13:59

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:21

There was an interesting letter to The Guardian a few months ago where a women described how she regularly uses male toilets as the queues are shorter. She has done this for decades without issue.

I think we all need to be more understanding and see each other as individuals rather than simply members of a specific identity group.

That is an interesting letter. I suspect it was read with relief by all the trans identifying men who claimed that the men's was so dangerous. Now they know, what they always knew, they can safely use the blokes with the other men.

TheKeatingFive · 29/03/2026 13:58

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

The extraordinary thing is not that Trump believes humans can't change sex.

The extraordinary thing is that some people on the left think they can.

I'm perfectly content to be on the side of reality, not delusion. You should try it.

KillTheTurkey · 29/03/2026 13:58

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

False moral equivalence. Think harder.

Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 13:57

JLou08 · 29/03/2026 13:52

A lot a primary school teachers would say otherwise, they change together for PE at that age.

And I for one hated it when I was 6.

HermioneWeasley · 29/03/2026 13:57

Dr Nic Williams of FairPlay for women, volunteer fire fighter and lesbian will be surprised to learn she’s “far right” and on the same side as Trump.

be gone with your nonsense. You have no power here.

Taztoy · 29/03/2026 13:56

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

I’m not campaigning against trans identifying males. I am campaigning for biological women.

why does my consent not matter?

why do my feelings not matter?

I am also not in any way a trump supporter.

HermioneWeasley · 29/03/2026 13:56

HRTQueen · 29/03/2026 13:52

This is really sad to read

just how do we move forward supporting children who are feeling confused who do believe they are born in the wrong body

I feel both sides have become so entrenched in their views that we have lost the ability to have sensible conversations

No child thinks they’re “born in the wrong body” until an adult puts the idea in their heads.

we should let children have any toys, hobbies, haircuts and clothes they like. We let them go through a normal puberty and make no issue if they are same sex attracted. That would resolve 90% of cases.

have you ever read a description of a “trans child” which wasn’t purely about stereotypes?

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:55

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/03/2026 13:49

You'd best have a word with the IOC, then, as they seem to think that the differences between males and females necessitate single sex events.

The trans-identifying males can still play or compete in their sex category, by the way.

The IOC have caved into pressure from Trump and the far-right gender critical activists.

Those who are campaigning against dignity for trans women should be asking themselves if they’re really happy to be on the same side as Trump 🙄

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Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 13:55

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:48

They identify as women though, and should be treated as such from the perspective of sport categorisation.

Trans women happen to have been assigned male at birth. That should not prevent them participating in the sport grouping that feels most appropriate to them.

So, fuck what that means to all the actual women?

Why should Dave get to compete with the sex he feels most appropriate? He can call himself Davina all day long but it is not appropriate for a man to compete in women's sport.

Why does the wants and feelings of a man trump all the women's actual rights?

MrsOvertonsWindow · 29/03/2026 13:55

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:48

They identify as women though, and should be treated as such from the perspective of sport categorisation.

Trans women happen to have been assigned male at birth. That should not prevent them participating in the sport grouping that feels most appropriate to them.

Nope. Women aren't support humans for unhappy men.
Women fought hard for access to certain sports and shouldn't have to hand them over to mediocre male sportsmen cheating their way into women's sport.
Nor should women and girls be required to undress in changing rooms etc to satisfy the demands of men. Women are over 50% of the population and the law is clear - we're entitled to privacy, dignity and safety from them.

Anyway - back to your subject. I hope by now all the parents on here have given you an insight into how abusive it is to pretend to little children that they're the opposite sex.

I posted this upthread but suspect you missed it - it might give you an insight into the psychological damage these inappropriate adult demands are doing to young children:

https://www.transgendertrend.com/childhood-social-transition/

Crwysmam · 29/03/2026 13:54

Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 13:32

His parents appear to be people without a basic grasp of reality.

His parents allowed him, and encouraged him, to think he could actually change sex and be a little girl.

His parents set this boy up to suffer later.

His parents then drove this boy to a point where, if their story is to be believed, he got so distressed because of the lies he'd been told by them that when reality collided with the delusional little bubble they'd constructed for him he wanted to cut his penis off.

What his parents should have been doing is explaining to him that he could wear what he wants and play with what he wants and that for a lot of things in life it doesn't matter if someone is a boy or a girl. But that sometimes it really matters what sex you ACTUALLY are, and because he's a boy he's not allowed into spaces and events that are for girls only.

People who understand reality are not the extremists in this argument. If anyone is extremist it's the boys deluded parents.

Would love to be a fly on the wall when he reaches puberty and his biological body takes over. When he realises what his penis is for and how much fun he can have with it he may well be horrified that his parents mislead him. My son would disown us if we had been so coercive.
He was pretty upset that we didn’t encourage him to learn to ride a bike. At the time he had been diagnosed with a childhood form of epilepsy and along with rock climbing was on the prohibited list of activities. I can’t imagine his reaction if we’d convinced him he was a girl.

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/03/2026 13:54

HRTQueen · 29/03/2026 13:52

This is really sad to read

just how do we move forward supporting children who are feeling confused who do believe they are born in the wrong body

I feel both sides have become so entrenched in their views that we have lost the ability to have sensible conversations

You certainly do them no favours if the answer is to just agree with them, affirm and over time, organise for them to take life-altering drugs and have irreversible surgeries.

HRTQueen · 29/03/2026 13:52

This is really sad to read

just how do we move forward supporting children who are feeling confused who do believe they are born in the wrong body

I feel both sides have become so entrenched in their views that we have lost the ability to have sensible conversations