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Six year old trans girl ‘tries to cut off her penis’ after Guide ban

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JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:14

Quite a disturbing article in this morning’s Observer regarding the impact of the Guides’ ban on trans girls following the Supreme Court ruling.

It reports on the experience of one six year old trans girl named Emily after hearing she could no longer attend Rainbows:

Emily’s parents decided to be honest with their daughter about the situation, and explained that she was no longer able to take part in Rainbows because she was trans. A few hours later Curt said they found her “sobbing in her room” and were “shocked” to find her holding a pair of plastic scissors to her penis.

AIBU to find this a distressing consequence of campaign by anti-trans activists or is it a natural result of allowing such young children to change their gender identity?

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

Girlguiding facing mass exodus after setting deadline for...

The organisation is battling a backlash over new rules that will exclude trans girls from the organisation

https://observer.co.uk/news/national/article/girlguiding-facing-mass-exodus-after-setting-deadline-for-trans-girls-to-quit

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NotAtMyAge · 29/03/2026 20:58

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 14:07

The Green Party position is that trans women are women, and should have access to female spaces alongside non-binary people.

Until we reach a position where all facilities are multi-gender, the Greens’ position would avoid trans people being so distressed that a six year old girl tries to cut her penis off.

The Green Party is so incompetent it couldn't even run its spring conference on Zoom properly this weekend. Why on earth should anyone pay any attention to a supposedly environmentalist party that thinks people can change sex? Trans-identifying men aren't any kind of woman and non-binary is just narcissism on steroids. Look at meeee!

As for the poor little boy in the article, what he needs is very much better parenting.

Bollihobs · 29/03/2026 20:57

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 13:48

They identify as women though, and should be treated as such from the perspective of sport categorisation.

Trans women happen to have been assigned male at birth. That should not prevent them participating in the sport grouping that feels most appropriate to them.

Have you been out of the loop for a bit? We've moved on from "peak trans" and back to a point of common sense that men cannot be women. Even if they, and you, insist they can.

DramaAndBullshit · 29/03/2026 20:55

sunshine244 · 29/03/2026 20:37

How would failure to use chosen pronouns be judged?

If someone changed their pronouns and people forget?

Or if someone invented new strange pronouns and people don't want to use them?

What about if its someone with a disability that struggles with change. Or has black and white thinking and can't understand/accept using a pronoun that doesn't match what they see?

What age would it become illegal to make mistakes?

Exactly, it’s completely ridiculous to suggest this.

NotAtMyAge · 29/03/2026 20:48

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:51

Should we move towards a situation like the Greens and Zack Polanski are advocating where trans women are legally recognised as women, and have access to all ‘female’ spaces?

Alternatively, all spaces could simply be made mixed gender.

This would blunt the impact of transphobia.

Now you're talking even more nonsense. The Supreme Court judgment confirmed that single-sex spaces, services and sports are based on biological sex at birth, not any unprovable inner gender feelings. Why on earth should unchangeably male people be allowed access to female spaces just because they want it? Zack is transparently fishing for the ultra-lefties in Labour who are dissatisfied with their party's reaction to the Supreme Court judgment. However the mess the Greens are currently making when they actually hold power - hello Bristol Council - should mean they never get a chance to form a government which could actually make this scenario happen. All the movement legally is in the other direction.

sunshine244 · 29/03/2026 20:37

DramaAndBullshit · 29/03/2026 20:16

Are you going to try to prosecute the Supreme Court? Because they have stated that our biological sex is the defining factor in being male or female. How is “failure to uphold or recognise their chosen gender and pronouns” in anyway “abuse, disrespect or hatred” when it’s simply a statement of biological fact?

I’m genuinely concerned for your mental health, you are deeply delusional.

How would failure to use chosen pronouns be judged?

If someone changed their pronouns and people forget?

Or if someone invented new strange pronouns and people don't want to use them?

What about if its someone with a disability that struggles with change. Or has black and white thinking and can't understand/accept using a pronoun that doesn't match what they see?

What age would it become illegal to make mistakes?

ThatCyanCat · 29/03/2026 20:28

Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 20:24

That's some wilful misunderstanding of what HJ actually says isn't it!

It's just a lie, like all of it.

Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 20:24

Triskellion75 · 29/03/2026 20:20

I don't know if this this Daddy dearest answering this comment but it's a bold claim, accusing Helen Joyce of seeking the literal erasure of trans men/women.

That's some wilful misunderstanding of what HJ actually says isn't it!

Triskellion75 · 29/03/2026 20:20

I don't know if this this Daddy dearest answering this comment but it's a bold claim, accusing Helen Joyce of seeking the literal erasure of trans men/women.

Six year old trans girl ‘tries to cut off her penis’ after Guide ban
DramaAndBullshit · 29/03/2026 20:16

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 17:30

My definition would be abuse, disrespect or hatred directed at a trans person because of their gender identity.

That would include failure to uphold or recognise their chosen gender and pronouns.

Are you going to try to prosecute the Supreme Court? Because they have stated that our biological sex is the defining factor in being male or female. How is “failure to uphold or recognise their chosen gender and pronouns” in anyway “abuse, disrespect or hatred” when it’s simply a statement of biological fact?

I’m genuinely concerned for your mental health, you are deeply delusional.

Tallpink · 29/03/2026 20:12

Late to the thread but I find it extremely hard to believe that a 6 year old would try to cut off body parts because they weren’t allowed to do something.

If they did then it’s a serious failing on behalf of the parents who are putting ideas into the child’s head.

Ive got two children (boys) at 6 they couldn’t have given less of a shit about their sex/gender, let alone associated their penises with their biological sex.

Both were completely free to wear and play with whatever they wanted. Eldest at nursery loved dressing up in princess dresses and later on loved dolls, ponies and Dora the explorer. I simply never batted an eyelid or made him feel that any of these things were wrong or gendered in any way.

I believe that sex is biological and that gender is a spectrum based on what society does and doesn’t accept.

I simply cannot fathom why at 6 years old a child is identifying as the opposite sex/gender unless an adult had planted the idea in their heads.

Boiledbeetle · 29/03/2026 20:05

TheKeatingFive · 29/03/2026 19:51

Well if it's the father I think it might be, that would explain a lot. Red flags everywhere with that one.

Yeah! We all know who it is in that family who is doing the transing! I have my suspicions about his motives.

Bushmillsbabe · 29/03/2026 20:02

And if they are just turned 6 (year 1), they would have known about the change of policy before signing up their child

Bushmillsbabe · 29/03/2026 19:55

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:32

The article is clear that this girl’s friends are all now boycotting Rainbows due to how she has been treated.

The friends can chose to support however they wish. Most Rainbows units are massively oversubscribed (we could fill ours 3 times over) so those places will be filled easily if the girls chose to stop going.
Also depending when his birthday is, he would potentially have had to leave in the summer anyway - they leave when turn 7. So his parents could have easily said - you are getting too old for Rainbows, let's look at Beavers instead.

NotAtMyAge · 29/03/2026 19:53

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:36

The girl clearly wants to identify as female, and I think it’s only right that we respect her wishes in how we refer to her.

There is absolutely no obligation on anyone to refer to a male person as she/her just because he wants it, especially a six-year-old who shouldn't even be thinking in those terms. For me third-person pronouns are sex-based as they always were in the past.

ThatCyanCat · 29/03/2026 19:52

StillWeRise · 29/03/2026 19:24

I don't know if this has already been mentioned but I am certain this is the same family that was discussed on here some time ago, which was eventually pulled because (I assume) there were links to his blog featuring very identifiable photos of his son.
I am not at all surprised he is now weaponising the confusion and disappointment he has caused for his son.
I do wonder what Freud would make of all this. IIRC a big part of his theory was that little girls were terribly disappointed when they realised that little boys had penises and they didn't. And little boys feared castration by their fathers as punishment for their incestuous desires towards their mothers.

I think that's going in the next Green Party manifesto.

TheKeatingFive · 29/03/2026 19:51

Well if it's the father I think it might be, that would explain a lot. Red flags everywhere with that one.

WilfredsPies · 29/03/2026 19:50

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

Irrespective of their ages, girls don’t have penises.

Wouldn’t it be more sensible for women and girls to just shut up and let men and boys take our rights to single sex spaces? No, Jones, it wouldn’t be more sensible. What would be more sensible would be for the parents of this poor little darling to get him the care he needs to understand that he is male. And that there is absolutely nothing wrong with him or his body, and he can present himself however he likes, and play with whoever he likes, but he will always be male. And there is nothing wrong with that.

To quote Janet Murray, “Girlguiding isn’t just a brand. It’s a charity with a defined purpose: for girls. You can’t simply rename it and carry on as before. Changing that purpose would require formal processes, consultation, and potentially regulatory approval”.

Alternatively, all spaces could simply be made mixed gender Do you have no understanding of why single sex spaces were introduced in the first place? Why do you believe women shouldn’t have a right to single sex spaces anymore? Because to allow men in, removes those rights. You cannot have them. The answer is no. You might not want those rights for yourself, or for your daughters, but you’re not having my rights, or the rights of millions of other women. No.

NotAtMyAge · 29/03/2026 19:50

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:32

The article is clear that this girl’s friends are all now boycotting Rainbows due to how she has been treated.

Most Rainbows and Brownie groups have long waiting lists to join, so I'm guessing the flouncers were soon replaced.

DancingOctopus · 29/03/2026 19:49

JonesTown · 29/03/2026 11:27

Zoe Williams has argued that a sensible solution to all of this would be to make the Brownies mixed gender like the Scouts.

Wouldn't this be more sensible than making six year old girls so distressed that they attempt to cut off their penis?

Why should girls have to make their organisation mixed sex in order to allow confused little boys to join? Why don't the confused boys join Scouts?

NotAtMyAge · 29/03/2026 19:47

TigTails · 29/03/2026 11:30

This didn’t happen so much it went back in time and unhappened things that really did happen! 😂😂😂

Edited

The parent in question wrote about it months ago on Medium: https://medium.com/@ParentofaTransGirl/she-just-wanted-to-wear-the-uniform-how-a-six-year-old-trans-girl-was-left-behind-4d0411e9d59e

nauticant · 29/03/2026 19:40

I should have read to the end of the thread and the post by @MrsOvertonsWindow.

nauticant · 29/03/2026 19:39

StillWeRise · 29/03/2026 19:24

I don't know if this has already been mentioned but I am certain this is the same family that was discussed on here some time ago, which was eventually pulled because (I assume) there were links to his blog featuring very identifiable photos of his son.
I am not at all surprised he is now weaponising the confusion and disappointment he has caused for his son.
I do wonder what Freud would make of all this. IIRC a big part of his theory was that little girls were terribly disappointed when they realised that little boys had penises and they didn't. And little boys feared castration by their fathers as punishment for their incestuous desires towards their mothers.

I linked to the relevant article by the child's father upthread. See here:

https://medium.com/@ParentofaTransGirl/she-just-wanted-to-wear-the-uniform-how-a-six-year-old-trans-girl-was-left-behind-4d0411e9d59e

MrsOvertonsWindow · 29/03/2026 19:36

StillWeRise · 29/03/2026 19:24

I don't know if this has already been mentioned but I am certain this is the same family that was discussed on here some time ago, which was eventually pulled because (I assume) there were links to his blog featuring very identifiable photos of his son.
I am not at all surprised he is now weaponising the confusion and disappointment he has caused for his son.
I do wonder what Freud would make of all this. IIRC a big part of his theory was that little girls were terribly disappointed when they realised that little boys had penises and they didn't. And little boys feared castration by their fathers as punishment for their incestuous desires towards their mothers.

There was a link to this earlier (see below).
I also recall a previous thread be pulled. I hope this one remains as we're in this mess because parents have been repeatedly bullied out of safeguarding their children. Even on this thread there are accusations of transphobia and bigotry because posters are very clear that transactivism shouldn't be anywhere near vulnerable young children

This poor child has been weaponised by both their parent and transactivists. In this case in an attempt to argue that girls should have nothing for themselves without including boys.

nauticant · Today 15:22
This might well be the source of the story:
https://medium.com/@ParentofaTransGirl/she-just-wanted-to-wear-the-uniform-how-a-six-year-old-trans-girl-was-left-behind-4d0411e9d59e

StillWeRise · 29/03/2026 19:24

I don't know if this has already been mentioned but I am certain this is the same family that was discussed on here some time ago, which was eventually pulled because (I assume) there were links to his blog featuring very identifiable photos of his son.
I am not at all surprised he is now weaponising the confusion and disappointment he has caused for his son.
I do wonder what Freud would make of all this. IIRC a big part of his theory was that little girls were terribly disappointed when they realised that little boys had penises and they didn't. And little boys feared castration by their fathers as punishment for their incestuous desires towards their mothers.

Wheelchairbarbie · 29/03/2026 19:14

Catdoorman · 29/03/2026 18:55

This little boy, is the exception, not the rule, all of society should not have to bend and twist itself up into knots to accommodate a very poorly little boy, who so desperately needs appropriate mental health care support, colluding with a child, in his delusion is not kind. His parents should have told him that he is a boy, instead of indulging this nonsense. Know he has to deal with being confused and disappointed, because they could not be honest with him.

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