Last night my DSS had a sleepover for his 13th birthday. There were a group of boys staying over and, unbeknownst to me, they were in and out of the house most of the night playing football on the green outside.
I was asleep on the third floor and had no idea this was going on. My DH was downstairs in the lounge, knew about it, and just let them carry on.
This morning there’s a post on the estate Facebook page saying a group of kids were making noise late into the night and disturbing people.
I’ve gone mad at my husband for not telling them to come in and settle down, but my mum says I’m just as much to blame because I’m also the responsible adult and should “know what DH is like” when it comes to discipline, ie he cannot do it.
I think that’s bullshit.. I was asleep and he was the one who knew what was happening. He's his dad fgs. So as not to drip feed I also have a SD who is now almost 18 and he hasn't seen her for 7 years, entirely her choice after her mum turned her against him. His sons, DSS16 and DSS13 still come here a lot but DH doesn't say boo to a goose when they are here cos he's worried they'll just go back to their mums if he does. He wasn't like this before what happened with SD.
AIBU to think this is on him? Also I've apologised to the neighbours concerned and that's fine now I'm just annoyed at being told I'm to blame for not being downstairs too and telling them off in DH place.