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AIBU to resent friend on UC living better than us?

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Sunshineandrainbows123 · 28/03/2026 16:54

I know I am being unreasonable but just need to rant and I’m aware that perception is different to reality. I’ve worked hard all my life, since I was 14, paid my way through uni to get a decent qualification and job at the end of it all. I bought a house with my partner but as with so many of us I feel like I can’t rub 2 pennies together. Meanwhile a close friend claims universal benefits, has minimum 4 holidays a year, 2-3 abroad, gets regular beauty treatments, a new car and is able to regularly take her children to the cinema, days out and buy them new clothes, trainers and toys. I feel like I took the wrong path sometimes - she doesn’t have to pay rent for the home they live in, or school lunches for her kids, there are so many discounts and opportunities afforded to those on UC that working families don’t get. I don’t know if it’s better to distance myself. I know I need to probably give my head a wobble.

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shellyleppard · 28/03/2026 16:57

I'm on universal credit and I don't have anywhere near those things you describe. Is she telling you the truth, exaggerating or bending the truth somewhere?

CurlewKate · 28/03/2026 16:56

you do know you’re talking crap, don’t you?