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To want one more child?

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Whatnow777 · 28/03/2026 15:44

I'm 44, AMH 0.5. One biological child 2.5 years old through IVF. 4 miscarriages in my past. We are not in a great position financially but both want to complete family with a second child. Wae have been trying naturally but not had success yet. 3 of the 4 miscarriages were naturally conceived.
Options:

  1. We have one mosaic -15 embryo in storage from 2023.
  2. Donor egg. I would only feel comfortable having donor egg if the child is able to contact the donor at some point. I am not too keen on idea of donor as it seems so complicated and I worry about child feeling different to our other.
  3. Try IVF again
Financially we are not in a great place at the moment as I have been scammed out of some money recently. We would have to get a loan to cover any option. What would you do?
OP posts:
lisa7843 · 28/03/2026 15:55

No honestly I wouldn’t, I think you will spend a lot of precious time of your child’s early years distracted by the huge emotional upheaval of trying for a baby. I think that’s the biggest risk but the financial impact is not insignificant either.

Catza · 28/03/2026 15:50

What I would do is to sit down and think very carefully what I think the second child will add to my world that the first one doesn't. The result would probably be "nothing" and I would rather pour my limited resources into making my existing child's life as good as it can be.

sittingonabeach · 28/03/2026 15:50

Enjoy the child you have

ToKittyornottoKitty · 28/03/2026 15:49

Honestly it sounds really unlikely to work and you will loose enjoying one of the best toddler years with your child to hormonal injections and disappointment. Your child will grow very quickly and you won’t get to raise them twice, embrace it