AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

HNRTFT but cannot understand the mentality of someone moaning about a person having a piss in any loo anywhere !

This seems such a ridiculous objection to me but I see there are plenty of people on the thread who agree.

To me, I understand that IBS means you need immediate access to the en suite at 2am but at 3 in the afternoon you are just a normal member of the group and can use whichever loo is nearest.

However, when we went in holiday with MIL (who has IBS) and she had the en suite bedroom, she was very clear she would only use that en suite loo and no other. We didn't argue.

I wonder if there's a correlation between the people who care who shares the communal bathroom in a holiday house and the insane people who hover above public toilets if they have to have a wee away from home because to them it's really important to know and control whose thighs have touched a surface that your own thighs might touch.

You also need to factor in that they're probably not loving the fact that you will have bagged the master bedroom in order to get the en suite. If you're paying equally, they will already have the less good room and the lesser convenience of not having an en suite. To then argue with them when they ask you to stick to your own bathroom is unlikely to have landed well.

This.

I can't believe you even have to ask @AliceNotInChains You demanded your own bathroom (en suite) which is fair enough as IBS is pretty unpleasant, but then go and use the main bathroom, when it suits YOU. Bit cheeky and entitled. (Even if it is only for a wee!) And as this poster says 'how would you feel if your relatives wanted to come and use YOUR en suite?!

YABU. 100%. As for 'oooh I can't use my en suite in the day, because it's at the end of a spooky corridor!' Come on! 😂 That is the worst defence/excuse I have ever heard - for ANYthing!

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Neither you nor your husband should be using the other bathroom. You should be leaving that for your Dsis & Bil to have exclusive use if.

I find an adult saying a hallway is creep/spooky ridiculous. I'd tell you to get a grip.

but why have you booked it again if you won't go along the corridor to 'your' bathroom?

Oh God, why are people so weird? People need to go to the toilet and it really shouldn't be a big deal. If I was SiL I wouldn't use the ensuite because it would involve going through someone's private bedroom to get to it. But if the main bathroom was in use and I needed the loo then I'd ask the occupant if I could use their en suite.

Why use the main bathroom when you have an en suite? If the ensuite was in use and you were crossing your legs, fair enough, but otherwise I see no point.

You’ve been given your own toilet, use it. I have my own en suite toilet and when my kids are back home I never use the other ones.

Presumably they know that as you have IBS a wee is likely to turn into a poo and then they'll all have to wait until the stench has gone. You are hugely unreasonable. And this is why if I go on holiday with anyone else in the family we stay in hotels with separate rooms and private bathrooms.

It's pretty tragic that so much conversation and attention is focussed on who uses which toilet 🙄.

I honestly couldn't give a shit (😁) provided no one leaves a mess!

Take a torch and some big girl pants. Put them on and use the bloody loo you've been allocated after making a big fuss already. I feel sorry for the poor sods having to put up with your childish antics.

Agree. You're unreasonable.

Pack a torch in your holiday bag - and maybe some garlic, a crucifix and a bottle of holy water and an aspergil. Problem sorted. 😉

YABU. It’s fair enough that you should have the en-suite given your medical issues, but the main bathroom then becomes the other couple’s bathroom.

You can’t stake a claim on all the toilets at once.

I think they are fair enough. You claimed the room with the en suite room, so use it. Unless there is a communal bathroom as well as your bathroom and theirs, then you each stick to your own bathroom. They could have had dirty underpants on the floor and sex toys in the sink of theirs, and not be expecting anyone else to go in there because it was THEIR bathroom and you had yours!

I think if you have your own bathroom in a shared property you use that one bathroom unless your partner is already in there.

Especially if you’ve demanded that you need your own private toilet.

I find that odd. A toilet is a toilet. I don't see why anyone would care if you are just having a quick wee. I presume if someone was in the main bathroom and someone else needed the loo you'd let them use your ensuite. This sort of pettiness would make me less keen to go on holiday with them.

This is not about any practicality or logic. They are annoyed that you have taken the ensuite and they are resentful and childishly making a point.

Is it their turn to get the en-suite this time?

That's you, though; not everybody will avoid snooping around and not everybody will be blase about their own toiletries and any other personal items being visible.

I don't know about this case in particular, but in similar circumstances, the couple could be TTC and DSis could be tracking her cycle and/or have pregnancy tests in there.

Even if it's 'just somebody having a wee', it can be very unwelcome and feel like them encroaching on your privacy, when they have their own designated personal toilet but still expect to use yours instead.

Two couples, two bathrooms, each couple sticks to their own.

And do you think it should be up to OP to announce that she's definitely only going to have a wee (and fight any urge if her bowels suddenly suggest different intentions); or are they allowed to freely ask her when they see her heading there and get her to promise it won't be anything more than a wee? Bearing in mind that they're all adults?

Personally I don't help myself to people's toiletries unless I've asked or they've offered, even close friends and family. I'm not convinced that the OP was interested in availing herself of someone's moisturiser either.
I am not particularly unnerved at the idea of someone possibly looking through my toiletries either
I also wouldn't spend long enough in there when having a quick wee, or pay enough attention, to clock Canesten or whatever, although I wouldn't think anything of it if I did happen to clock something like that.
And whatever they've 'understood', I don't think it is 'their own private bathroom' in any meaningful way. I read the situation as everyone has a bathroom, and then the OP gets an ensuite because she may need it because of her health issues.

Does he have free use of the en-suite as well? As in full agency on an equal first-come-first-served basis without you trying to dissuade him from using it, so as to leave it free for you?

I'm guessing that the same nervousness you have about walking down a corridor might also present with you banning/dissuading him from occupying the en-suite at all... I may well be wrong there, though?

I agree too. I can’t imagine someone having the time and mental capacity to get upset over what bathroom someone does a wee in