AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

It sounds as though OP has a special toilet at home just for her own use where husband is not allowed to go but still uses other bathrooms in the house.

Presumably it has a bath which is what the person who takes the en-suite should use.

Three bathrooms between two couples, so you can have a choice of main or en suite, are you paying the extra?

I suspect there is more background to this than you are letting on. Have you somehow let toilet choices become part of your identity? Is your IBS so bad that it has really affected who you are? This feels like an odd situation just in isolation. Perhaps you should choose the accommodation next year and make sure there are enough toilets for your needs.

What does your DH do when he wants a wee - does he walk up to the en-suite?

This is insane. You're now more than unreasonable and need to get a massive grip. I'm surprised they're going away with you again. I have IBS, it's awful. But you're out of line.

This is where I'm at.

This type of thread makes me realise how bloody weird other people are (and I get irritated by plenty of 'small' things)!

Even more unreasonable if you want a whole bathroom to yourself and yet expect to share the other toilets.

If you want a private toilet then only use that toilet. If you want to share then share all toilets.

This has to be a piss take, pun intended. 😂 “Spooky corridor” isn’t a justification for anything, past age 7.

This is about privacy and respect. You have a private bathroom en suite to your bedroom. They too should have a private bathroom in that case. The fact that it isn't attached to their room is neither here nor there. Stick to your space, they stick to theirs.

What does your DH mean about you doing this at home?

I think they are probably resentful about you insisting on an en suite for some reason, like it limits the options of where to stay, bumps the cost up but you don't pay more, means you always get the best room.

The fact you don't want your husband to use the en suite is a bit much OP. Is that because you are embarrassed about how it ends up after you use it, due to your gut problems? Or because you might need it short notice and worry it won't be free?

That would be why DH is using their toilet then, if you're going to monopolise a toilet, actually use it, you can't dissuade everyone from using yours, then want to use theirs, just because you're being a wimp about a corridor.

Or to put it another way, you've now claimed 1.25 bathrooms, where everyone else has 0.25. Very unreasonable.

Would you like them to wee in your ensuite if it happened to be nearer...I doubt it.

So, in a house with 2 toilets, you want to reserve one for your sole use whilst insisting that the 3 other people share the other toilet, that you are also free to use whenever you feel like it? You can't see how that would annoy the others?

So you are hugging two bathrooms! You clearly won't let the other couple use the en-suite. I can't believe you don't see how you're being unreasonable.

The accommodation is not set up for you to have your own private toilet. You would need at least three bathrooms for that to work. Your understandable need for privacy does not trump everyone else’s. If I was your sister I would not want to be sharing a bathroom with your husband when there’s a perfectly good en suite that both you and DH can use.

Oh and OP as you are going back there tomorrow- you need to tell your SIL and BIL that as you had the better bedroom last time, it’s their turn to have the nice room.

You wanted your own bathroom, use it.

Spooky? 🤡 You're an adult.

OP - so two couples went away and there were two bathrooms. You and your dh had exclusive use of one bathroom as it was en suite to your bedroom, you are surprised the other couple would expect to have exclusive use of the other bathroom?

Particularly when you’d insisted on having the en suite room because you have gut issues?

YABU.

I would say on next trip, you let SIL and BIL have the room down the spooky corridor with the en suite and you and dh have the main bathroom.

Wow, so you secretly don't even want your husband using YOUR toilet?

But you are still using the one that is meant for everyone else?

Baffled!

Yes exactly. They are probably feeling resentful and annoyed.

And I would be too.

The resentment won't end at the end of the holiday either. They will never let the OP forget it. And I am willing to bet that they won't go on holiday with her again!

No, you have made it clear you want your own toilet - let them have theirs.
They don't want you using their clean hand towel or cleaning their toilet seat after your using it.
You're being really rude.
Your update is ridiculous - you don't really even want your own husband to use your personal toilet, but you should be free to use theirs? What if they've just pooped and they're worried about you going in.
Your husband is not banned from using it, because where should he go otherwise?