AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

She thinks her IBS entitles her to complete privacy and sole occupation and anyone else should shut the fuck up and know their place.

Over simplified perhaps but that seems to be the gist of it.

I think it more as you insisted to have the en-suite, so the other family have the main bathroom as theirs, you then use the main bathroom also.

it probably wouldn’t bother me in the shared family hygiene aspect or if your en-suite was on a higher floor, but the entitlement yes it would especially if on the same floor so hardly any extra effort.

Why would you prefer your own DH not to use your en-suite?

I remember once as a child, when my DM gave my DSis and I a lovely big cake to share. Even at that young age, I realised that it was just easier for it to be a one-person cake, so I ate it all myself - but my selfish, immature, stupid DSis was so unreasonable and simply could not grasp this obvious plain fact at all...

Her poor husband doesn't really have a bathroom of his own at all - he either has to borrow the other couple's or use the one attached to his own bedroom whilst knowing that his wife is annoyed and resenting him for doing so throughout.

This has to be a wind up surely

I don't understand why you kick up a fuss about having the ensuite then use the other bathroom

You and your husband have one bathroom and your sister and bil the other

You sound a bit odd

Yes of course you are wrong. It’s beyond entitled. You’ve requested an en-suite for a valid reason, so use it. There’s no need for you to use the other toilet.

Usually the room with an ensuite is the nicest, biggest bedroom, so by wanting the en suite you have effectively nabbed the best bedroom, probably paying the same as everyone else. Therefore I can see the annoyance.

Why not just use the toilet you asked for? It seems bizarre of you and as thought you’re trying to cause arguments?

You sound a bit precious. The first time everyone else mentioned it, I’d just stick to the en-suite. They’ve let you have an en-suite but the ‘jokes’ were a sign it was a bit of an annoyance for them so you should have just stuck to it to respect the fact they have made allowances for you. Spooky corridor is a crap excuse, up the lighting levels and be an adult.

And your OH was a knob to say that comment about how you do the same at home 🙄. In a house you presumably also pay for?

Maybe it wasn't intended to humiliate her, but rather borne of his frustration over however long in a house that he also pays for - where there are some things that are exclusively hers and everything else is shared?

Phew. That's a weight off my mind.

Then what does her DH do if she has one of the two en-suites and DSis & BIL have the other?! Bucket at the bottom of the garden?!

It’s vaguely annoying that you made a fuss about an en-suite only to continually use the main bathroom.
But I’m not sure I could get as worked up about it as that lot seem to be! It’s a toilet. Who cares? And if you are watching a movie that presumably has to be paused when you go I would prefer it took as little time as possible if I were your family members, so better to use the one that’s the nearest surely? The only real objection I’d have would be if you’d taken ages and prevented someone else from using it when they needed it.
And your OH was a knob to say that comment about how you do the same at home 🙄. In a house you presumably also pay for?

I have ibs and in your position I’d use the toilet id requested sole use of.

If DH can use it why don’t they want you using it? Are you likely to get it dirty or smelly?

I used to work for a company that was expanding, which moved some departments into a second building across the road. Our boss’s daughter was married to a guy who’d claimed the whole gent’s toilets (2 cubicles etc.) on our floor as “his bathroom”, which nobody else was allowed to use. Initially, there were about 6 of us there - all women, so it was no big deal. (The building was new, there wasn’t any signage on the bathrooms and both were identical - just mirrored lay-outs). Eyebrows were raised when we were told not to use “Mr. so and so’s Bathroom”, but we just used the ladies’ 2 cubicle facility that was opposite “his bathroom”!
Fast forward a few years, there were about 45 mixed sex employees on that floor, sharing a two cubicle ladies’ bathroom, while boss’s SIL still had exclusive access to the Gents’ !

I hope you’ll agree that he was being COMPLETELY UNREASONABLE…

Ring any bells? 😂

Yabu. You requested the ensuite so use it. You assume you're the only one who may have toileting issues, the others may want to use a clean loo but you're causing a queue and stink.

If you have use of a “one person toilet” then you should also be a “one toilet person”.

Given your lack of answer to the many times it had been asked, I assume you aren’t paying extra for the better room that you insist on having.

This can’t be real.

What age are you? Three?

This is holiday accommodation, not your own home.

You have an en-suite for your personal use, and therefore privacy and a personal space for using the toilet, personal care items etc. Your sister and BIL are on holiday too, and it’s perfectly reasonable they might want their space as well. What’s wrong with that? Just because you have IBS, doesn’t mean you are the only one who wants privacy.

It wouldn’t bother me if I were in their place, but if I were in your place, given I had claimed the en-suite, I would be respecting their feelings on wanting the bathroom for themselves.

How about next time you find accommodation that has 2 en-suites?

I'm definitely in the group of people who love old castles and ancient buildings, with all of their atmosphere and history... but I can't for the life of me understand why people who don't like them and find them too spooky to reside in would nevertheless choose to stay in one over all of the other accommodation options once, let alone twice.

It's quite ironic really, considering that the original toilet facilities at the castle would most likely have involved sticking your arse out of an open window, giving the public outside a full-length Dagenham smile and watering and fertilising the ground directly below - now it's been modernised and has two present-day plumbed-in flushing toilets, OP still isn't content with one of those.

If you’ve got the en-suite room does that mean you’ve got a proper double bed and they’ve got a very uncomfortable zip link bed that’s 2 singles zipped together?

that would annoy me as well