AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

You insisted on your own bathroom, of course it is incredibly impolite to use the main bathroom.

I agree with you. If only a wee why would you walk to other end of the place when there's a main bathroom next to the living room. We go away with family and all have en suites but there's a loo downstairs next to lounge and we all use it for a wee in the evenings.

It can’t be that spooky if you have rebooked it. Just use your own bathroom and don’t act so silly.

Defo in the wrong

Yeah bit annoying considering you wanted the ensuite for your own .

You're the type that says they don't want chips, then continue to pick at someone else's.

It's the principle. YABU.

YANBU at all, my parents had an en suite the last time we went away but they just used the nearest loo when we were all in the living room. What a bizarre thread this is.

Unless you are the one cleaning all of the bathrooms, I think you should only use your reserved en-suite bathroom.

Presumably, you wash your hands after the wee? Who's towel are you using to dry them?

Are you then going to use the two main bathrooms while you have your own - and exclude even your husband from using yours??,

I think you should read your OP back and answer your own question!

I do think the others were being a bit OTT continuously harping on about it though, seems an overreaction from them. However the bit that got me…

I don't think it was them being mean and wanting to bully OP; it sounds to me like they're really angry at her entitled attitude.

Nobody wants to have an out and out blazing row on holiday, so this is the only alternative they can think of - passive aggressive as it may seem - to try to get the message across to her without it leading to a fight that ruins the rest of the holiday for all of them.

As I and several others have already surmised in this thread, I bet it isn't the only thing that she's 'insisted' on, just because it makes things nicer for her.

You’re being unreasonable OP and I’d be irritated if I were travelling with you. Get some plug in lights for the corridor.

I understand that you’re embarrassed about your husband also using the toilet after you, if you’ve left it smelly, but you seem to be forgetting that people without IBS also have poos, and that they can also on occasion be smelly. The other couple probably don’t want you (or husband but they understand that he’s been effectively banished by you from yours) to use their toilet as they will be embarrassed too. You announcing that you’re only having a wee doesn’t help, you wouldn’t want them ‘only having a wee’ in your toilet, because it’s not about what they do in there, it’s about following you in after what you did.

Go to the bathroom you claimed. If you claim one then that one is yours to use. If you don't like the corridor, change bedrooms. You are "it's all about me, me."

So you requested an accommodation on medical grounds, and they bullied you because you wanted to have a wee in the main bathroom? I don’t see the issue personally. I couldn’t berate someone over this unless they were constantly in the main bathroom hogging it. Just tell someone else they can have the en-suite and let them feel the full wrath of your IBS…they deserve it!

but that's the whole point - it DOESN'T go both ways.
If she allowed them to use her ensuite when she wasn't in it, they'd probably be fine with her using the main bathroom - but she made clear (her post at 14:15 yesterday) she doesn't even want her DH using "her" bathroom.

Given she would prefer the poor sod to leave his bedroom, go down the "spooky corridor" and use the main loo even if he needed a quick pee in the middle of the night, I can't blame him being pissed off.

It's a completely different scenario to your family. If anything OP is being the dick so the rest of them are just reacting in kind.

It depends… Did you make a massive fuss about having your own loo? Did you tell everyone about your IBS to gain sympathy and the en-suite, if so then yes you are the A-hole. Sorry OP!

I agree with the majority of people on here and also think it’s silly if you to demand the suite but then also want to use the main bathroom. The stuff about the spooky corridor to your bedroom is also very silly.

I do think the others were being a bit OTT continuously harping on about it though, seems an overreaction from them. However the bit that got me…

Anyway it went on and on, the whole 3 nights were spent with them trying to stop me using the main bathroom.

At any point during the “whole 3 nights” did you not think “ah maybe I should just…stop…using this bathroom?” They made it clear they weren’t happy with it (which is fair play seeing as you demanded the en suite) so why did you not just…stop? It’s like you were winding them up on purpose by continuing to use their bathroom. Sounds like a really crap holiday if this took over, when you could’ve just gone to your own damn toilet.

OMG, how bitter are your family. Whether there is some background to that I don’t know, however, I think it’s perfectly reasonable for you to use a shared toilet if it’s more convenient, and no one else is using it. As long as it’s quick. I also think it’s perfectly reasonable for someone else to use your en-suite if you’re not. Goes both ways.

My wider family regularly go away and rent a big house. There may be ten or more of us, varying ages. Some of us have en-suites, depends on the need of the person at the time, who is paying more etc, some don’t. We would all use any bathroom, as long as it’s convenient, if it was free and the main one wasn’t etc. No arguing, no passive aggressive comments. Your family are dicks. If you truly need an en suite that is. I think that’s the issue, they don’t believe you do, or begrudge it. Maybe next time pay a little more and that might stop them being miserable gets!

I’m sure it is easier for you! 😂

So you get the en suite for your personal use and you prefer the other three to use the other toilet?

Yes, YABU to use the main bathroom.

Yes it seems you’re being quite entitled. By claiming the en suite you have said that the other bathroom is theirs. If you want to use that one then give them the ensuite this time and they will only use that one so your gut issues won’t be a problem to them anyway.

yabu. It’s fine to want the en-suite given the circumstances. It’s not fine to be using the main bathroom when you have the en suite toilet. The spooky corridor excuse is pathetic.
you are sending mixed messages to those who don’t have IBS and don’t understand your condition. You just look selfish and entitled. It’s a good idea to not have that kind of accommodation again as you have identified yourself.
they have made their point so there’s no need for them ti keep going on about it though. Ignore them and hopefully they’ll stop banging on about it.

You’re taking the piss.