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AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

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AliceNotInChains · 28/03/2026 11:18

Last Easter I went away with DH, Sister and BIL. We stayed in an castle apartment.
As I have IBS and other gut issues I insisted on having a bedroom with an en suit for my benefit and everyone else’s. This was fine, DH and I got the room with the little en-suite. On the first night we were watching a film in the living room and I got up to pop to toilet, I went into the main bathroom and they all started shouting that I should use my own bathroom. I laughed and said I’m only going for a wee and this was met with more shouting of “you have your own toilet”, DH then said “she does this at home too, claims ownership on one toilet then uses everyone else’s”

Anyway it went on and on, the whole 3 nights were spent with them trying to stop me using the main bathroom. I think it started as a joke but they were 100% being serious by the end of it.

Anyway we’re due to go back tomorrow, same place and already sister is dropping hints about whoever gets the en suite uses that exclusively.

Am I the one in the wrong here?? I’m only using main bathroom for peeing btw

OP posts:
Janesput · 28/03/2026 11:26

I can't imagine going up to the bedroom to use the loo if we were sitting in the living room and there's a downstairs loo.

I think if it meant going upstairs and using someone else's bathroom (ie not just a loo), I'd use the ensuite.

DisappearingGirl · 28/03/2026 11:25

I reckon I'm going to be in the minority here but I agree with you OP that anyone can go for a wee in the main bathroom!

Having said that, if they are all making a fuss about it, I'd probably just use the en suite for a peaceful holiday even though they are wrong.

BennyHenny · 28/03/2026 11:25

Are they allowed to use the en-suite for “just a wee”? If so, no problem but if not, you’re trying to have your cake and eat it!

Runningismyhappyplace50 · 28/03/2026 11:25

I’m afraid I think you are wrong too.

If you were in your own home, of course you can use any toilet but in this situation when you have requested your own bathroom and you are sharing with others YABU.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 28/03/2026 11:24

If you are going to talk about your gut issues and insist on your own bathroom then yeah you should use it. If you no it’s bothering other people why wouldn’t you do it? Then you don’t have to keep announcing that you only need a wee etc. Nobody really wants to no if you are having a bad gut day or not

KimberleyClark · 28/03/2026 11:24

I really can’t see the issue if it was only a wee.

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AliceNotInChains · 28/03/2026 11:24

PeriPrime · 28/03/2026 11:21

Yes of course you are wrong. There are multiple people staying here and you have demanded your own toilet but are still using the one everyone else has to share?!

wrong and entitled.

I was only using it for weeing and the apartment is spooky, the main bathroom is next to the living room. The en-suite is in the bedroom at the far end of a dark spooky corridor. I know it sounds daft but I’m not the only one freaked out by that corridor

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Duckingpondlake · 28/03/2026 11:24

I think if the whole accommodation was set up around you having an en suite you should use it. The more people using yhe bathroom the more it wants cleaning etc, plus they've probably put all their toiletries in there.

Tygertiger · 28/03/2026 11:23

Yes, sorry. This would annoy me too. You wouldn’t like them coming into your en-suite for a wee if someone was in the main bathroom, I assume, you’d want them to wait. If you insist on the en-suite and not letting them have it this year then you have to respect their wish for them also to have their own bathroom.

Justcallmedaffodil · 28/03/2026 11:23

You can’t claim your own bathroom and then also expect to use the one you’ve designated for everyone else. Just use the en suite.

Cosyblankets · 28/03/2026 11:23

I would take it as ensuite = yours main bathroom = theirs.

SendTheNextOneIn · 28/03/2026 11:23

It’s a toilet. I can’t imagine being so precious about it. Your relatives are being somewhat over the top.

PeriPrime · 28/03/2026 11:21

Yes of course you are wrong. There are multiple people staying here and you have demanded your own toilet but are still using the one everyone else has to share?!

wrong and entitled.

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