AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

If you’re happy for other people to use your en suite for a wee at any time when it suits them, then I don’t see the problem. But if you’re claiming the en suite for your private use then of course you’re being very unreasonable.

2 couples two bathrooms = one each. Nicer that way

Agreed. Especially if the person ‘insisted’ on having the en-suite

Dont be ridiculous, how are you going to go to bed then if you're worried about walking down that corridor

Also having had experience of IBS, you might go for a wee but end up doing more, thats what happens sometimes, unpredictability

Use the ensuite.

I actually don’t think that is an exception- that person would have to make do with a shower!

Yes give sister and BIL the en-suite and you and your husband can have the main bathroom and use it all the time. Your sister and BIL won’t use it at all even for a quick wee during a movie will they? And would you mind if they did? Sounds like you would mind as you want a bathroom for your exclusive use but don’t allow other people the same privilege.

I think if there are 2 couples on a holiday and there is a bathroom and an ensuite - then there is an unwritten rule that they have one each for their sole use, in the same way that they have a bedroom each for their sole use. Would you have gone into their bedroom to use the mirror rather than going into your own?

The only exception would be if there was not a bath in the ensuite and someone wanted a bath.

So you demanded you had the sole use of a bathroom everyone agreed so now you also use whatever one you feel like?

I think if you have two couples and two bathrooms, you split them. You insisted on the en suite, so that’s yours. The other couple has the main bathroom.

ETA - If I was in the other couple, I wouldn’t have made a thing of it though.

I've always thought an ensuite is for morning/evening ablutions and night time loo trips. During the day I'd use whichever bathroom is closest, as long as it didn't mean going through someone else's bedroom.

I don't really see how OP is inconveniencing anyone. Presumably they don't have a queuing situation.

This is a bit of a difficult one.

I mean the first question is, why rebook an apartment that you find spooky? Seems daft to me!

I think the issue with you then using the main bathroom is that could then mean that one of them has to wait to use that loo. Which is annoying for them unless you are happy for them to go into your en suite for a wee? Otherwise you’re tying up both bathrooms at once.

Also, the en suite in these places normally comes with the best bedroom. That means that you’ve bagsied the best bedroom already by “insisting” (your word, which suggests they weren’t mad keen) on the en suite. Not surprised they might have their backs up before you started in these circumstances esp if there’s an older generation involved.

Edit - I can see there’s no older generation- sorry, I read BIL as MIL somehow.

I can understand that they want to think of it as “one bathroom per couple” now, for equal privacy etc

That said, they do sound unkind to all be ganging up and having a laugh at your expense- I’m sure IBS is horrible. They should have discussed any unhappiness before you went.

But most adults find it undignified to have to think about, announce to others or guess what others may need when they go to the toilet.

It's different if you're 4 and you might need a bit of help or supervision from your mummy or daddy.

So there are two couples and two bathrooms?

I understand why they would like to think about them as yours and theirs designated bathrooms - store toiletries, enforce your habits like making sure the toilet is closed before flushing.

You have the ensuite so you have it close at night, so you probably can manage the corridor (how far it can be) when awake?

If you’re too scared to go to your own bathroom, the answer is to let your sister have the room with its own en suite and you can use the main bathroom.

Also, you want to en-suite for the safety of knowing you can do whatever you need to in there, without worrying about others. Why can’t the others have the same with their bathroom?

We stay with family on holiday regular and my parents get the en suite if there is only one. I’ve never even thought of banning them from the other bathrooms, a quick wee is never a bother.

It wouldn't bother me but you know it bothers them and have actively chosen to join them in the same place and are aggravated before even setting off. It's become a flashpoint and as the majority are in agreement and you've 'won the en-suite' pick your battles and use it

How far away is the en suite from the living room 🤔 … if it was several flights of stairs then crack on … a few steps then use your own loo.

I think if you 'insist' on having your own bathroom, you use your own bathroom.

Well, why are you going back to the same place if it creeps you out so much you don't want to use the toilet you specifically requested? Can't you see how annoying it is to bag the room with the en-suite then not bothering to use it, even sometimes?

I assume if the corridor is spooky, you're not going to ask for the bedroom with the en-suite again, are you..?

I don’t get why you kept wanting to use the main toilet throughout the holiday, despite your need for your own private toilet that dictated where everyone else had to stay. Doesn’t matter what you were depositing there.

I’m not surprised it pissed people off - particularly if your excuse was that the corridor was too spooky for you to use your own toilet 🙄.

Are you and DH paying more for the use of the en-suite? Does seem like you want everything your way.

Spooky corridors are a pathetic excuse.

It doesn’t sound like there are any stairs

What a storm in a tea cup! Unless you’re making other people wait ages for a wee and won’t let anyone use your en-suite, I can’t see the issue.

Yeah that would annoy me. By taking a bathroom for yourself, the other bathroom has been designated as the bathroom for the others. You can’t just hog one and then take over the other one.