AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

It would annoy me too. I'd then make a point of using YOUR bathroom. (I'm petty).

If you don't want to only use yours, then swap with someone who will.

If there was a separate loo, that would be fine but 2 bathrooms and 2 couples I would expect exclusive use of the main bathroom. We do this with DS we use the ensuite he gets the bathroom to himself, at home and on holiday.

So long as you’re fine with them coming in your en suite for a shit I think it’s fine OP @AliceNotInChains

no one owns a bog

YABU you have demanded your own bathroom but using the one you insisted the other couple have. You are coming across as someone who enjoys winding other people up, if they have asked you to stick to your own bathroom why would you insist on using theirs. Would you be happy for them to use the en suite? Also if the place has such a spooky corridor which freaks everyone out why are you going back and why would anyone insist on that room?

Yabu. Now the word wee is stuck in my head.

you claim a bathroom due to illness so use it. Sharing a bathroom would be upsetting to you so your family has agreed you have the en-suite. It’s important to you.

your SIL has claimed the other bathroom so you agree to use only the ensuite. Its important to her

the hallway is irrelevant. It may be scary but its irrelevant

If you want to shit in peace and have the privacy of not having anyone share your bathroom and potentially smelling what you’ve done (and I have IBS so I know what it’s like), why would you not allow the other couple the same privacy and let them have their own bathroom? Your sister might want to relax and have a nice poo without having to worry about you waltzing in afterwards for a quick wee.

Each couple should have the same amount of private space. You are wanting your own private space and a share of the other space too.

Two couples, two bathrooms. Each couple uses one bathroom. If you want the ensuite, you use the ensuite.

How would you have felt about them using the ensuite?

Apparently she’s scared of rhe corridor, so assume she needs an en-suite as she’d be too scared to do it at night, and needs the other bathroom as she’s too scared to do it during the day,

however her husband says she does the same at home. So maybe she’s scared at home too.

Not that it makes it much better, but could OP's DH not use the en-suite (and only the other two be without a toilet) - or I wonder if OP has claimed it as exclusively hers, because of her medical issues, and he's already expected to go and use DSis & BIL's bathroom every time he needs to go?

I don't think you using the bathroom is unreasonable in itself. Where I think you are unreasonable is continuing to use it when they have asked you not to.

Get a grip OP. This is a ridiculous excuse. If the accommodation "freaks you out" why are you returning?

I say this as someone who mostly lives alone, in the middle of nowhere, in a hundreds of years old cottage, with some paranormal activity!

I actually agree with both the first and second replies, even though they seems to be a bit opposing.

YABU to make a fuss about insisting you have the en-suite but then not using it, but equally, if I were with someone I knew well enough to go away on holiday with, I really can't see myself getting worked up about which bathroom anyone in the party used.

As for booking a holiday let you are afraid to walk to another room in..... words fail me.

What a weird take, they can live with the consequences, wtaf,

Nobody is begrudging her having a wee in the slightest. If she needs a wee, she has her own (shared with her DH) designated toilet specifically to do it in.

Is she begrudging her DSis and BIL having a wee by expecting them to use their own bathroom to do it in?

It's like me wailing that my neighbour wants me to starve and is begrudging me basic food, by not allowing me to freely go and help myself out of their fridge; when I have a well-stocked fridge of my own that is clearly and purposefully for my use (and which I also don't let my neighbour come and use).

I'd tell them you don't want the en-suite so will use the main bathroom. They can live with the consequences of any flare up.
Sounds like you were being thoughtful to use a toilet out of the way. Can't see the harm in using any toilet available. Your family are weird and dh is a bit of a twat.

I can see their point.

You made a big point about having your own toilet, so I get why they found it a bit annoying when you used theirs..

So if they need to look and you’re in it, they have to wait even though you demanded your own.
you sound ridiculous about the corridor too.

This. I honestly cannot believe people are supporting the op here. If op is on the main toilet 3 other people cannot use any.

If op and her husband are in the main bedroom because she has to have an en suite, the brother and his wife have take a lesser bedroom. If it is a twin bedroom, and OP is using both bathrooms but nobody else can, I would not expect to pay the same.

If op wants the bathroom nearest the living accommodation because she is scares of ghosts, her and her husband can take the lesser bedroom. Or pay more.

Or stay someone where you don't think you will be accosted on the corridor by a headless Elizabethan or dead MP missing his trousers.

I think the major problem here is with the terminology being used. If you're a family - particularly with young children - then you will indeed often have an en-suite for the parents to use and a 'main' family bathroom that everybody uses. After all, little ones probably don't use it without adult assistance and couldn't care less about privacy, skidders or bad smells; and they won't be the ones cleaning it.

When it's two adult couples, in OP's scenario, there is no 'main' bathroom. Each couple have their own bathroom, but it just so happens that one of them is attached to their own bedroom whilst the other comes off the main living area.

You are scared to use the en-suite that you insisted on claiming? Honestly OP you sound hard work. Hope you can laugh with your family when they tease you about it.

I like my own bathroom. If DH and I went away with another couple and they took the en-suite then I'd expect them to leave the main bathroom for me.

I’m You don’t want to use the en-suite due to Ghost / Spookiness… I suggest you have a word with yourself

No. Use your own designated one. I don't use the main bathroom in my own house. I just use the en suite as that is mine ... I hate the thought of other people's bums and odours.

FFS use the main bathroom if it's closer and the ensuite if you have IBS.

My lovely sister in law asks for the same accommodation. I have never thought or kept track of which bathroom they actually use.

I think your DH sister and BIL are being super petty! These are people who are supposed to love you ffs! I can't imagine begrudging my DH or sister having a wee!