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The anti-snack brigade are self-righteous, moralising nonsense-merchants.

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SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 09:59

My mate's very austere mother is like this. She goes on and on all the time about how people "never used to snack" and basically seems to believe that it is the sole reason why people are overweight and obese. It's also an angle people take on Mumsnet all the time and it is really bringing the eye-rolls from me.

Personally, I couldn't do without my snacks. All these people saying they don't need a snack must be sitting on their bottoms all day.

I do an active job (I don't sit down all day and I also run, walk, lift at work). I need my big bowl of porridge and banana for breakfast, my morning fruit snack at about 10 am (usually another banana) my work lunch (yesterday leftover chilli, salad, apple and orange). I get back at 4 or 5 depending, yesterday had 4 oat cakes and cheddar with chutney, then went to the pool with the kids to swim until 6, then I made our dinner which was white fish and bean stew, new potatoes, broccoli. I had a small piece of a cake I made at about 10pm. FYI I am also LOSING weight (6.5 stone so far, over 3 years), I write down everything I eat. Yesterday's calorie count was 1800, with 2 snacks.

The anti snack thing is just self righteous twaddle, you can spread your food out how you want, I find if I listen to my body and eat when I am hungry I am less likely to over eat, and if I hadn't had my oatcakes there is no way I would have managed taking the kid's swimming (they had a snack too, peanut butter on toast and bananas)

It's not about how often you eat, it's about how much you eat, how much exercise you get, and obviously what you're snacking on. But that said- I have gone through periods of time where those snacks were small bags of crisps/KitKat's etc and still lost weight as calories were equivalent.

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PullyDog · 28/03/2026 11:49

Whats this anti water bottle stuff about ?

People don't believe in drinking water?

I have water with me 24/7, am I being judged

Melancholyflower · 28/03/2026 11:48

But how many people with an opinion on snacks (and voicing them) is anyone, including the OP, meeting? I just can't imagine how this is even a thing that registers with anyone. For example, there may be cake or biscuits at work and someone might say they're not having any, because they're trying not to eat so much sugar or snack less generally, but I've never heard anyone say that they don't think anyone should eat between meals.

BauhausOfEliott · 28/03/2026 11:47

Also, as my late dad always used to point out when anyone said this - people absolutely did used to snack. ‘Elevenses’ was always a thing, and stopping for tea and biscuits mid-afternoon. My parents started working in offices in London c. 1960 when a tea lady used to come round with a trolley twice a day with tea, buns, biscuits etc.

SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 11:47

Asenseofcalm · 28/03/2026 11:41

How did you manage to have 6.5 stone to lose?

  1. immobility due to injury for around 9 months, 1 stone weight gain
  2. birthed two babies, didn't lose all the weight each time, 1.5 stone weight gain
  3. COVID meant I didn't do my usually active job, or walk 4 miles a day to work and back any more, for around a year. I also stopped going to the gym for 2 years... I also found myself really anxious and ate a lot of my anxiety. This accounted for 4 stone!!
  4. genetics
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tnorfotkcab · 28/03/2026 11:45

hahabahbag · 28/03/2026 11:12

If I ate what you do op I’d be the size of a house. That’s a huge amount of food for my lifestyle. I do not snack, I didn’t as a kid either, no one did, at most you got 1-2 plain biscuits coming in from school but my mum rationed those to 1 on special occasions! My own dc were not given snacks routinely and as adults do not snack, it’s a habit thing. A piece of fruit mid morning is absolutely fine, but for those of us who are above ideal weight, it is not advisable to eat more

It's just not true that kids never snacked. Humans have snacked for centuries.

You've said it yourself that you and your friends had biscuits coming in from school... That's snacking...

usedtobeaylis · 28/03/2026 11:42

The mindset of trying to force your eating into three set meals and that those meals need to meet all your requirements and you shouldn't eat in between them if probably pretty damaging. The poster who mention she and her husband eating when they're hungry throughout the day and feeling better for it sounds much more intuitive.

Asenseofcalm · 28/03/2026 11:41

SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 09:59

My mate's very austere mother is like this. She goes on and on all the time about how people "never used to snack" and basically seems to believe that it is the sole reason why people are overweight and obese. It's also an angle people take on Mumsnet all the time and it is really bringing the eye-rolls from me.

Personally, I couldn't do without my snacks. All these people saying they don't need a snack must be sitting on their bottoms all day.

I do an active job (I don't sit down all day and I also run, walk, lift at work). I need my big bowl of porridge and banana for breakfast, my morning fruit snack at about 10 am (usually another banana) my work lunch (yesterday leftover chilli, salad, apple and orange). I get back at 4 or 5 depending, yesterday had 4 oat cakes and cheddar with chutney, then went to the pool with the kids to swim until 6, then I made our dinner which was white fish and bean stew, new potatoes, broccoli. I had a small piece of a cake I made at about 10pm. FYI I am also LOSING weight (6.5 stone so far, over 3 years), I write down everything I eat. Yesterday's calorie count was 1800, with 2 snacks.

The anti snack thing is just self righteous twaddle, you can spread your food out how you want, I find if I listen to my body and eat when I am hungry I am less likely to over eat, and if I hadn't had my oatcakes there is no way I would have managed taking the kid's swimming (they had a snack too, peanut butter on toast and bananas)

It's not about how often you eat, it's about how much you eat, how much exercise you get, and obviously what you're snacking on. But that said- I have gone through periods of time where those snacks were small bags of crisps/KitKat's etc and still lost weight as calories were equivalent.

How did you manage to have 6.5 stone to lose?

tnorfotkcab · 28/03/2026 11:40

Tacohill · 28/03/2026 11:35

I don’t understand how people eat fruit if they don’t snack?

I sometimes have fruit with breakfast but usually I’ll have something like an apple mid morning and then an orange in the evening.

I don’t fancy them after I’ve eaten a meal and so unless I have them as a snack then I’d likely not eat them.

Obviously if you’re grazing on cakes and chocolate constantly throughout the day then you’re going to put on weight but a KitKat and apple a day isn’t going to make a massive difference.

You just have it with the meals 🤷‍♀️

Banana with your porridge

It's a pretty standard to have a sandwich, an appleand a yogurt or bit of cheese or whatever for your lunch.

Dessert is apple pie or something

LegoLivingRoom · 28/03/2026 11:37

I’ve considered posting about this exact thing. It’s interesting that when people talk about not snacking they combine it with ‘decent’ main meals. I’ve never been able to eat the amount of food I see many people have as a meal. When eating out I struggle with 2 courses, let alone three, and often just have the main meal with some left over. So I snack to ensure my body has the calories it needs across the day. And, shock horror, this will include cake, crisps, biscuits, etc., if I want them.

Recently I was in a situation where I couldn’t snack and the only thing available was the meals. This didn’t lead to me significantly increasing what I ate at meal time, so I lost several pounds over two weeks (not a good thing) and I spent a lot of time hungry.

Thepeopleversuswork · 28/03/2026 11:36

There are quite a lot of closet orthorexics on here who like nothing better than to tell people that anyone who eats over 1,000 calories a day is the reason for the obesity epidemic.

These are the same people who post in painful detail about their food intake and get a weird little smug buzz from telling other people that they’re eating too much.

Like most of these topics it should be based on common sense. Obviously healthy snacks (whole grain bread or fruit) are better than biscuits or crisps and obviously someone with an active lifestyle can afford to cut themselves more slack than someone who is desk bound or already overweight.

Any hard line restrictions on food, unless mandated by a doctor, are usually silly and self defeating.

SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 11:35

Anyway, I'm off for an ostentatiously healthy, humble braggy banana.

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Tacohill · 28/03/2026 11:35

I don’t understand how people eat fruit if they don’t snack?

I sometimes have fruit with breakfast but usually I’ll have something like an apple mid morning and then an orange in the evening.

I don’t fancy them after I’ve eaten a meal and so unless I have them as a snack then I’d likely not eat them.

Obviously if you’re grazing on cakes and chocolate constantly throughout the day then you’re going to put on weight but a KitKat and apple a day isn’t going to make a massive difference.

SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 11:34

I'm only assuming this because this is how people behave. Saying "snacking is the problem" "lack of movement is the problem" "processed food is the problem"... All of these things are problematically simplistic really and sweeping statements. The problem(s)" are different for each person... Calories in and out obviously but that varies from person to person too (as I know all too well)

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SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 11:28

Tekknonan · 28/03/2026 11:18

Your original post reads a bit like a humblebrag about how healthy your diet is - which it is, as you know.

It's snacking on sweets, over-sweet chocolate, sugary or over-sweetened drinks, super-moreish salted snacks high in unhealthy fats etc that makes people overweight.

But once someone is an adult, it's up to them what they eat. I wish they wouldn't market these things to kids and teens though.

Sorry if it sounded braggy, it was just my actual day. The anti-snackers however do not seem to give much weight to the kind of snack, they are against ALL SNACKS and there are a couple of those posters on here. My point is that snacks can work for a healthy diet, but my further point is that you can STILL have a healthy diet and even lose weight with some occasional treats... You can even have no snacks. Health has some general rules and looks different for different people and snacking is not evil.

It's been on a long journey, my diet, and it only looks this healthy now because I've had to give up biscuits, butter, white carbs, sugar, for serious medical reasons. I don't brag about that but I kind of wish I'd known I was going to end up having to be so careful as I might have resigned it in a bit earlier... One year ago (I can look this up as I've logged everything forEVER it would seem) I was still losing weight but my snacks were as below.

Breakfast- banana seeded chocolate flapjack (home made with ALL the butter), sugared coffee 231 calories
Morning snack- mini KitKat, banana 180 calories
Lunch- Leftover teriyaki salmon, king prawns, veg 279 calories
Afternoon snack white toast x2 and butter 313 calories
Dinner- Daal, Okra Masala, rice 419 calories

Still snacking, still healthy, and still actually losing weight at that point in my life...

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Melancholyflower · 28/03/2026 11:24

TryUmph · 28/03/2026 10:30

There is a faintly judgemental and critical tone to your posts. It’s often people who were overweight and then become slim, that become almost evangelical about food/diet and condemn other people’s food choices and eating patterns.

Totally agree with this. it comes across as patronising too, assuming other people don't know that eating more than your body needs makes you fat, no matter when you eat.

Sartre · 28/03/2026 11:22

usedtobeaylis · 28/03/2026 10:06

She didn't read any Orwell then?

If this is a reference to Wigan Pier, he made the point that the working class are more inclined towards junk food because their lives are shit basically and if you feel like shit, are you more likely to go home and eat a carrot or cake? He was right, as with many things.

I’m half French, that side of the family hates snacking. It’s very much engrained in their culture to eat humongous meals but no snacks. I have said similar on other threads and had people who are not French tell me this is inaccurate but it’s definitely the case in my family… They possibly incidentally don’t have weight issues whereas my British side do, and they do snack.

That is not to say I agree with the link between snacks and obesity, just that the French side have a completely different attitude towards the act of eating. I’m always busy so I eat on the go constantly, I rarely sit down to cherish my food and usually wolf it down between other tasks. My French Grandma would seethe at me if she knew. They like to sit and have a full three course meal as a family but like every meal, not just dinner.

That said, I’m not obese and I do snack. I need to snack. My Dad would say this is because I don’t eat adequate meals and he’s probably right but I’m time poor! If I don’t snack between breakfast and lunch, my stomach starts growling loudly and it’s super embarrassing. If I don’t eat between lunch and dinner, I get lightheaded and dizzy.

SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 11:19

Melancholyflower · 28/03/2026 11:17

Yeah, they're more my idea of a snack than a couple of oatcakes.

God I miss chocolate hobnobs, there is absolutely nothing wrong with them, and I'd eat them if it is wasn't now medically necessary for me to avoid saturated fat and sugar.

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Whosthetabbynow · 28/03/2026 11:18

There’s snacking and then there’s snacking. A few rice/oat cakes are one thing. A box of Maltesers would be quite another

Tekknonan · 28/03/2026 11:18

Your original post reads a bit like a humblebrag about how healthy your diet is - which it is, as you know.

It's snacking on sweets, over-sweet chocolate, sugary or over-sweetened drinks, super-moreish salted snacks high in unhealthy fats etc that makes people overweight.

But once someone is an adult, it's up to them what they eat. I wish they wouldn't market these things to kids and teens though.

Melancholyflower · 28/03/2026 11:17

TryUmph · 28/03/2026 10:13

Your snacks and diet seem much healthier than most, though! You aren’t ploughing your way through a pack of chocolate hobnobs and a six-pack of crisps.

Yeah, they're more my idea of a snack than a couple of oatcakes.

OooPourUsACupLove · 28/03/2026 11:15

A long time ago I worked on a well known snack brand.

Their internal (ie for local distributors not for the public) brand promotional literature was very clear that they saw the big advantage of food and especially snacks over products like toothpaste or washing powder was that there wasn't a natural limit on consumption - people only need to wash clothes when they are dirty but they can aways be persuaded to eat just a little bit more. And they were open that their strategy was to encourage more snacking habits.

ginasevern · 28/03/2026 11:13

I grew up in the 60's and didn't have "snacks", neither did my friends. We'd have a bag of crisps or a penguin biscuit occasionally as a treat but eating between meals wasn't a thing for most kids. But then, we always had breakfast (porridge, a boiled egg or poached eggs on toast for example), lunch would be a cooked school meal or a packed lunch and then always a substantial home cooked evening meal eaten together around the table. My mum always did a homemade pudding after dinner too. Some kids might have a mug of horlicks before bedtime but that was about it. There was no obesity and I don't remember anyone talking about snacks. But then, there weren't any "manufactured" snacks anyway and we were always out and about playing, so not at home thinking about food. Also, people generally had less money then, so if there were biscuits and cake etc in the house they had to last.

SpangleTwangle · 28/03/2026 11:13

ArtAngel · 28/03/2026 11:08

I imagine you burned about 900 Cals getting worked up about the anti-snack ‘brigade’, aka your friend’s Mum

Do what works for you.

Haha I bloody wish. I find her amusing, she's old so gets a pass, it was actually the "don't give them any snacks, my children have never had a snack in their lives" replies on a thread here about saving money on food shops that had me write this... I've even raised my heartrate, I'm just bored and it seems to be something that some people are incredibly opinionated about, so I knew I'd get an entertaining number of replies.

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hahabahbag · 28/03/2026 11:12

If I ate what you do op I’d be the size of a house. That’s a huge amount of food for my lifestyle. I do not snack, I didn’t as a kid either, no one did, at most you got 1-2 plain biscuits coming in from school but my mum rationed those to 1 on special occasions! My own dc were not given snacks routinely and as adults do not snack, it’s a habit thing. A piece of fruit mid morning is absolutely fine, but for those of us who are above ideal weight, it is not advisable to eat more

Buntycat · 28/03/2026 11:09

It’s wrong to generalise either way. It all depends on level of activity and content of meals. Your way works for you - bully for you!

However, I agree with the poster who said the problem is that many children seem to expect to eat something every couple of hours as a matter of course because they fancy it, rather than wait until they’re hungry, so they get into the habit of eating snacks even when their body doesn’t need them.

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