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What would you do in this situation?

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ThisArtfulOP · 27/03/2026 18:55

I have a mum friend and children go to same nursery. Meet up a few times outside, always chatting on what's app.

I messaged to say HB to her child and was told that she's having a birthday party with X,y and z. So I asked if my child was invited - and it was no.

I was also told that Ive got an invite to a whole nursery party so I've got that instead.

Ainu?

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ThisArtfulOP · 27/03/2026 19:17

TMFF · 27/03/2026 19:16

Well since when is it supposed to be classified information?

Surely to goodness you're not so entitled that you think your child should be invited to everything?

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I think it's weird.

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TMFF · 27/03/2026 19:16

ThisArtfulOP · 27/03/2026 19:14

But it's just weird?

Since when do we go around and have parties, and tell people who aren't invited about those parties?

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Well since when is it supposed to be classified information?

Surely to goodness you're not so entitled that you think your child should be invited to everything?

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ThisArtfulOP · 27/03/2026 19:14

TMFF · 27/03/2026 19:13

It's precisely because she is a grown adult that she told you.

How could she have known you couldn't handle that info??

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But it's just weird?

Since when do we go around and have parties, and tell people who aren't invited about those parties?

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TMFF · 27/03/2026 19:13

ThisArtfulOP · 27/03/2026 19:10

I kinda feel it weird a grown adult tells you they are having a party and you aren't invited. I didn't ask for that information. Just wished him happy birthday based on a status.

So I feel it a bit of a weird conversation.

To then say "well you are going to another party" kinda also weird.

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It's precisely because she is a grown adult that she told you.

How could she have known you couldn't handle that info??

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ThisArtfulOP · 27/03/2026 19:10

Somedreamer · 27/03/2026 18:59

I don’t understand the issue / problem?

Take your child to the party she is invited to. say thank you, the end?

I kinda feel it weird a grown adult tells you they are having a party and you aren't invited. I didn't ask for that information. Just wished him happy birthday based on a status.

So I feel it a bit of a weird conversation.

To then say "well you are going to another party" kinda also weird.

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TonTonMacoute · 27/03/2026 19:01

Go to the party you haven't been invited to, throw in a grenade and shoot the first person who runs out.

MyNextDoorNeighbourVotesReform · 27/03/2026 18:59

Go to the party your child has been invited to 🙄

Somedreamer · 27/03/2026 18:59

I don’t understand the issue / problem?

Take your child to the party she is invited to. say thank you, the end?

newornotnew · 27/03/2026 18:59

What do you mean?
If your child would enjoy the party, accept politely.

RhaenysRocks · 27/03/2026 18:59

Why would you need to do anything? It doesnt sound like your life long friends or anything. What's the issue?

Toottooot · 27/03/2026 18:57

Nothing. Attend the party your child is invited to? 🤷🏻‍♀️