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To not understand why people recommend Pregnant Then Screwed?

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firsttimepregnanthelp · 27/03/2026 12:56

I believe I am experiencing unfair treatment at work due to pregnancy related sickness so called PTS as people are always recommending it but they were useless?! A very short phone call with generic, vague advice. Is it just me? Same with ACAS - all very vague. There seems to be no support.

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TheSquashyHatofMrGnosspelius · 27/03/2026 14:44

Wheelchairbarbie · 27/03/2026 13:01

I've never heard of them - I thought this was going to be about some awful reality series or something. Can't say I'm loving the name for a professional organisation.

I know if doesn't help you now but I agree - join a union. I'm a disabled woman and the daughter of a miner from Durham. I wouldn't work without being a union member. Mine costs about £6pm I think and comes straight from my paycheck so I don't even think about it.

This. Not a chance would I work without union. I have never regretted it. It really concentrates your employers mind when they are trying to fuck you over and the rep has a word.

PangaBanga · 27/03/2026 14:14

I've been in a few unions and did not find them very helpful, at all. I've also sat on the other side of the table from union reps and quality varied wildly. They can be quite expensive for what you get.

Vinvertebrate · 27/03/2026 14:10

Mithral · 27/03/2026 14:04

Yeah they really don't - they'd much rather deal with ACAS than a lawyer. My interactions with ACAS have all been fine, they seem to give reasonable basic advice and sort out the conciliation certificate.

Exactly, I’ve never heard this - if it’s capable of resolving on a reasonable basis, a decent HRBP will do it. If not, then ACAS is just a necessary step on the road to Tribunal, about which HR and Legal is largely ambivalent. It’s actually quite rare that employees put their own skin in the game by instructing a solicitor, at which point I will prick my ears up.

PTS has always struck me as a gobby version of MA without the rigour or experience.

Mithral · 27/03/2026 14:04

catgirl1976 · 27/03/2026 14:02

HR departments do not hate ACAS.

Yeah they really don't - they'd much rather deal with ACAS than a lawyer. My interactions with ACAS have all been fine, they seem to give reasonable basic advice and sort out the conciliation certificate.

catgirl1976 · 27/03/2026 14:02

BIossomtoes · 27/03/2026 13:44

ACAS were fantastic for me. I took a previous employer to an employment tribunal and they basically told them they hadn’t got a hope in hell of success in court and advised them to pay up. I got the money inside a week. HR departments hate them.

HR departments do not hate ACAS.

catgirl1976 · 27/03/2026 14:00

firsttimepregnanthelp · 27/03/2026 13:51

Those of you who are asking what I was expecting- i was hoping for someone to take time to understand my situation and advice accordingly rather than just giving general information that I could have googled.

@catgirl1976thanks so much, I will message you later if that's ok.

I hadn't heard of Maternity Action, I will give them a try

Of course - ping me a message later.

SockPlant · 27/03/2026 13:59

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 27/03/2026 12:58

Another reason why everyone should pay the few quid it costs per month to join a Union.

This. Everyone should be joining a union and using them.

The only time they really seem to fail is to represent anyone with GC views who is, say, complaining about a unisex toilet or something.

Otherwise they are good at giving solid legal advice and help. For those not in the know: you don't have to tell your employer you are in a union (unless you are in a workplace with a recognised union etc - but then you would know if you were working in a place like that)

Mithral · 27/03/2026 13:58

BIossomtoes · 27/03/2026 13:44

ACAS were fantastic for me. I took a previous employer to an employment tribunal and they basically told them they hadn’t got a hope in hell of success in court and advised them to pay up. I got the money inside a week. HR departments hate them.

I'm an in house lawyer and support HR with employee issues if needed.

This rings true to me in that ACAS are good if the case is very clear. I've also found them useful from the employer side in this way - they will give employees a pretty robust "no chance" advice but again only if very slam dunk.

I think unions can be a force for good in terms of collective bargaining but I've never found one to be useful to an employee in a disciplinary or similar.

BernardButlersBra · 27/03/2026 13:53

Same they were useless when l contacted them. I gave up in the end as they weren’t listening, their communication was terrible and they didn’t seem to know what they were doing

firsttimepregnanthelp · 27/03/2026 13:51

Those of you who are asking what I was expecting- i was hoping for someone to take time to understand my situation and advice accordingly rather than just giving general information that I could have googled.

@catgirl1976thanks so much, I will message you later if that's ok.

I hadn't heard of Maternity Action, I will give them a try

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BIossomtoes · 27/03/2026 13:44

ACAS were fantastic for me. I took a previous employer to an employment tribunal and they basically told them they hadn’t got a hope in hell of success in court and advised them to pay up. I got the money inside a week. HR departments hate them.

Motnight · 27/03/2026 13:43

I have had good experiences with ACAS (twice) which fitted in exactly with the legal advice that I received via my insurance.

Spirallingdownwards · 27/03/2026 13:40

plims · 27/03/2026 13:24

Yep. My former colleague was able to take our employer to an employment tribunal because the advice given by the HR department was not compatible with the law.

Obviously because the HR department work for the employer not the employee. It always mystifies me that people don't understand this.

They may help when it's an employee v employee dispute but when it's the employee v employer they work for the employer (even if they know the employer is on dodgy grounds legally) and it is for the employee to seek their own advice elsewhere whether union/ACAS/employment lawyers.

StationJack · 27/03/2026 13:37

Home - Maternity Action
Home - Pregnant Then Screwed

ClairDeLaLune · 27/03/2026 13:33

Our union (Accord) was rubbish too ☹️

WhereAreWeNow · 27/03/2026 13:24

I had similar experience. Totally opposite experience with Maternity Action. Brilliant legal advice.

plims · 27/03/2026 13:24

Bearbookagainandagain · 27/03/2026 13:10

sites like PTS and the majority (not all) of trade unions reps are utterly useless

So are a lot of HR professionals...

Yep. My former colleague was able to take our employer to an employment tribunal because the advice given by the HR department was not compatible with the law.

Cosleepingadvice · 27/03/2026 13:21

Do you have legal cover with your home insurance? If so, some insurers have a free advice line you can ring in the first instance to understand if its something they can help with.

But also agree with everyone to join the union!

decorationday · 27/03/2026 13:21

What is it that you wanted from them?

plims · 27/03/2026 13:16

My understanding is that they are an advice line, rather than a support service. I think your expectations are unrealistic. If you want someone to actively advocate for you, you need to speak to your union

Abd80 · 27/03/2026 13:15

contact your union !
they can advocate for you.
as I understand it Pregnant then Screwed are a charity/campaign group

5128gap · 27/03/2026 13:14

LondonPapa · 27/03/2026 13:02

They advised you seek legal advice because your situation was beyond them. I wouldn’t call that good.

No, they advise legal advice because they are a free service staffed by volunteers who make it clear they don't offer legal advice.
You can't say an organisation is no good just because it doesn't do something outside of its stated remit. Just like you wouldn't say your GP is no good because she has to refer to to a surgeon to have your gall bladder removed.
Different agencies have different remits. PTS is clearly predominantly a campaigning organisation that works to collect evidence to bring about change, while also offering a first tier advice and information service, but not legal casework. Just because some people need more than that doesn't discredit what they can do.

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 27/03/2026 13:12

suburberphobe · 27/03/2026 13:06

Oops.... it actually mentions the meaning in the title.

Senior moment maybe....

I was just thinking "Why would everyone recommend that?" 🤣🤣

Bearbookagainandagain · 27/03/2026 13:10

catgirl1976 · 27/03/2026 13:07

I work in HR. ACAS,, sites like PTS and the majority (not all) of trade unions reps are utterly useless. But employees will always say “I’m going to ACAS / my trade unions” like it’s some sort of threat. And then they just get either wrong or very generic advice.

If you want to DM me OP I don’t mind giving you some hopefully less generic advice from HRD perspective.

sites like PTS and the majority (not all) of trade unions reps are utterly useless

So are a lot of HR professionals...

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 27/03/2026 13:09

I don't think they advertise themselves as doing casework, do they? So probably just initial advice only?

I think you probably need a solicitor for more in-depth advice and support.

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