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Why the fuck do I bother?

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FedUpMessedAroundMum · 26/03/2026 20:43

So I did everything 'right' or so to speak. I gave up my career to be a stay at home mum until they went to school, I took a back seat to his career to ensure I was there for every playdate, every sports day.
Every. Fucking. Thing.

He was a complete shite, I've finally got free of him after 23 years, and I am still the total dogs body. He still does nothing, they still adore him, he can do no wrong.

I still run around doing all school /college arrangements, all doctors, dentists, friends stuff.
They act like I'm a mild irritant in their life that they have to put up with, but would rather be free of.
I'm done with it. I'm so ready to tell them to just fuck off, except I love them body and soul.

Do anyone else feel like his? Just me?

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44PumpLane · 26/03/2026 20:51

I've voted YABU because deciding to be a SAHM isn't the "right" thing, letting your career take a back seat isn't the "right" thing.....they are treating you the way you are allowing them to, don't put up with the shit anymore.

Why do you need to sort doctors stuff, dentist stuff for a college aged kid?

Also.....as they become actual grown ups they will see all that you have done for them, sometimes teens and older kids are just a bit self involved to really see what's going on.