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To get DH to go and pick DD up?

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Danceinthenightskytonight · 26/03/2026 19:21

DD (15) told me and DH that she was going to her friends house but I can see on life360 that for the past 2 hours she has just been wandering around a dodgy part of our town which is over 2 miles from her friends house and she hasn’t been to her friends house at all. She isn’t answering her phone or messages because both me and DH have tried to call and message her and she hasn’t answered our calls or replied to our messages. DH wants to use life360 to drive to where DD is and insist she comes home now because she isn’t at her friends house like she said and is instead in the dodgy part of the town. Are we being unreasonable?

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Balloonhearts · 28/03/2026 10:41

I'd go get her and she wouldn't be going out again. I'd be delivering her directly to her friends parents in future, like a 5 year old on a playdate. Embarrassed? Good. You can't be trusted to be where you say you are, you get used to being in my line of sight at all times

MyballsareSandy2015 · 28/03/2026 10:33

I’m so glad there were no phones/tracking when I was a teen.

Hope she’s ok OP.

Shinyandnew1 · 28/03/2026 09:54

This was Thursday evening-what happened, @Danceinthenightskytonight?

bigsoftcocks · 28/03/2026 09:50

Do it yourself !

Itsyourcircussodontusemyclowns · 27/03/2026 21:25

Is she okay?

Nearly50omg · 27/03/2026 01:30

I’d message her and tell her to get her arse to where her dad has gone to pick her up or you will be contacting the police and they will bring her home!

Endofyear · 27/03/2026 01:01

I had a deal with my kids - I pay for the phone and in return they ALWAYS answer my texts or the phone will be removed. As long as you're prepared to stick to your guns, this works, but they have to know that you will follow through.

And yes I would go and get her - if she doesn't answer calls or texts, she doesn't get to stay out with her friends!

donotmissyourchancetoblow · 26/03/2026 21:44

It’s the right thing to do but I can almost guarantee that next time she goes out and plans to do the same, she’ll turn off her location services.
she’ll probably be full of excuses why she wasn’t where she said she was and will likely blame her friend.
she’s brought it on herself not replying to messages/calls but be prepared for a tantrum when she’s home.

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 26/03/2026 21:42

Yes. She is a child, has lied and is avoiding you. Definitely get her.

B1anche · 26/03/2026 21:39

Definitely the right thing to do given her age. I hope all is ok.

ColdAsAWitches · 26/03/2026 21:35

Just keep in mind that from now on when she gets up to anything she'll leave her phone behind so you can't track her. So you won't even know if she's in trouble.

Poetnojo · 26/03/2026 20:42

I hope she is home safe and well with you by now.

youalright · 26/03/2026 20:12

Shes lied and not answering her phone I would definitely be fetching her and she wouldn't be trusted to go out for a while after.

LessDramaMoreLiving · 26/03/2026 20:03

Danceinthenightskytonight · 26/03/2026 19:42

DH has gone out in his car to go and get her because DD still isn’t answering her phone or messages.

Absolutely the right thing to do. If your DD doesn’t like it, it’ll teach her to pick up when you call and answer your texts. You shouldn’t be left concerned about her when she has a phone on her to keep in touch.

tnorfotkcab · 26/03/2026 19:50

Tell her the reason you came is because she wasn't answering messages and you thought she was in trouble and were ready to call the police!

YourJoyousDenimExpert · 26/03/2026 19:50

Yes I would. With privilege comes responsibility and she should have replied to a text or answered her phone - or better still call &
let you know her plans have changed.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/03/2026 19:47

She’s your kid, if you want to go get her then do it. I absolutely would

AnSpideog · 26/03/2026 19:45

Yeah I’d go get her. I’d try not to embarrass her. I’d probably try to drive by her and then send a message from nearby that you are there, because you are worried about her and you don’t want her to loose face with her mates so she needs to come over to the car now.

She’s only 15 so I think really you have a responsibility to pick her up.

Ninerainbows · 26/03/2026 19:44

I used to tell a half-truth as a teenager (going to see X friend but not exactly saying where we were going) but it seems if she has full-on lied then she loses the privilege of being trusted for the rest of this evening. Go pick her up!

Cece92 · 26/03/2026 19:43

I would be tempted to go look for her. I mean she may have dropped her phone but I’d still go out and have a look. Too many weirdos out there xxx

CinnamonBuns67 · 26/03/2026 19:43

Yanbu because she cannot be trusted to be honest about where she is, this puts her in potential danger. I'd go get her and she'd be having a very stern talk regarding the danger she could put herself in.

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Danceinthenightskytonight · 26/03/2026 19:42

DH has gone out in his car to go and get her because DD still isn’t answering her phone or messages.

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Poetnojo · 26/03/2026 19:39

I'd be out looking for her as soon as I saw she wasn't where she said she'd be.

BudgetBuster · 26/03/2026 19:37

I would be quite worried if a 15yo is wandering a dodgy area and not answering the phone. I'd definitely go get her! I don't care if it'd annoy her... she's still a kid.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 26/03/2026 19:26

Yes I think he should do exactly that. She’s only 15.