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AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

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Werze · 26/03/2026 17:49

DD has had yet another massive go at me after school today. I broke up from her father when she was v young. Didn’t date for ages. Met a school run dad (now DP) in September, knew each other for a while then dated and went from there. Obviously we can’t see loads of each other so school run is one of only opportunities in week. Naturally happy to see each other and embrace/kiss as any normal couple would. DD kicking off saying she doesn’t want to see this.

AIBU? She can’t expect me to remain single for ever surely ?

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TheJoyousHiker · 26/03/2026 21:29

You jumped up and he held you for a bit and kissed. Outside the school gates in front of your children and the rest other school. Talk about being performative.

Didimum · 26/03/2026 21:28

I’m with your daughter on this. You are adults and can control yourselves. Please do for the sake of your daughter.

Lmnop22 · 26/03/2026 21:26

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

But you’re a grown woman and he’s a grown man and part of adulthood is controlling your impulses when it’s inappropriate to express them!

If you know it upsets DD and it’s something as simple as just making her feel comfortable by not pecking your boyfriend on the lips when you see him, then just bloody well don’t and save it for when you see him privately!

Have you stopped to consider how it affects her to suddenly be all lovey dovey with a man that’s not her father after a few months only?

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 26/03/2026 21:26

Werze · 26/03/2026 20:57

Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

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Honestly read what you are writing and look at the vote.
It's giving Amanda and johannes vibe 🤢pack it in...

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RandomUserName96 · 26/03/2026 21:25

Werze · 26/03/2026 20:57

Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

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Was this in the playground/at the gates?

Eww

XiCi · 26/03/2026 21:24

BuryAllYourSecretsInMySkin · 26/03/2026 17:56

Do you know what's natural?

Putting your kids feelings above your own in situations like this.

Wait 5 minutes until she's in school ffs.

Exactly this. How old are you, 15? Youre an embarrassment.

Thisismynewname23 · 26/03/2026 21:24

Completely agree mortifying the poor girl, imagine the other kids and parents

NormasArse · 26/03/2026 21:23

Ewww! Save the PDAs until they’ve gone in!

Delphiniumandlupins · 26/03/2026 21:22

You're prioritising your desire to flaunt your new relationship over your DD's embarrassment. I don't think you have to remain single until your DD leaves home but if you only got together 6 months ago she doesn't even need to know you are a couple yet. There are plenty of situations where you wouldn't leap on your boyfriend (presumably) - at work, in a supermarket, in a church - so act like adults and listen to your poor DD.

Tiswa · 26/03/2026 21:17

Werze · 26/03/2026 20:57

Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

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Still no normal couple is going to do that on the school run and I can guarantee you were judged for that by parents. Such a PDA is inappropriate during the school run

she will be teased for this of course she will (and do you have other children because she is a 11 is a year 6 school run needed)

and other parents will talk about it too

tara66 · 26/03/2026 21:17

Oh no! Cringe, cringe, cringe. Get a room.

MatronPomfrey · 26/03/2026 21:15

I’m embarrassed and I wasn’t even there. Nobody is saying you can’t date, just don’t PDA in front of your embarrassed child.

PurpleThistle7 · 26/03/2026 21:14

My children would not want to see my husband and I doing this and we are both their parents. So I think you are being massively unreasonable to use the school run for a dating opportunity. Just walk back together and do whatever you like after the kids go in.

FunMustard · 26/03/2026 21:10

I was all ready to be on your side OP, as I used to cringe myself inside out at my parents kissing. Even with no witnesses!

But after six months, he's lifting you up and kissing you?! Ew. No. She may well be unreasonable and hormonal about a lot of things but this is beyond cringey.

CharityShopMensGlasses · 26/03/2026 21:09

This has to be a reverse surely?
In my experience the couple that did this and grossed out their kids, the kids still really dont get on with the step parents as adults. Its grossing her out and devaluing her feelings. Really unkind and will damage her relationship and trust in you. Gross.

Balloonhearts · 26/03/2026 21:09

HeartyViper · 26/03/2026 21:02

I have second hand embarrassment for your daughter. On what planet do you think this is appropriate at the school gate? Surely, SURELY, you can find a more appropriate place to jump up and be held?! Jesus wept.

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This. Jesus Christ, your poor kids.

VivienneDelacroix · 26/03/2026 21:05

Werze · 26/03/2026 20:57

Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

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As my kids would say: "cringe, cringe".

shuggles · 26/03/2026 21:04

@Werze I wouldn't want to see my biological parents kiss, let alone a step parent.

Theappren · 26/03/2026 21:03

You’re definitely being unreasonable. He’s been on the scene for 5 minutes but you’re prioritising your own need for intimacy, over her needs. Why embarrass her in front of her peers with your PDA? You can shag him when she’s completely out of sight & in the classroom surely, but until then it’s fairly chavvy to be all over your new boyfriend during the school run. It’s just attention seeking.

Good parents would just tunnel
focus on their kids during the school run, instead you’re here making things all about you, and just expecting her to be uncomfortable and put up and shut up.

Most married couples in established relationships aren’t lifting each other in the air & kissing on the school run, let alone people in new relationships who barely know each other/the child involved.

HeartyViper · 26/03/2026 21:02

Werze · 26/03/2026 20:57

Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

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I have second hand embarrassment for your daughter. On what planet do you think this is appropriate at the school gate? Surely, SURELY, you can find a more appropriate place to jump up and be held?! Jesus wept.

Tableforjoan · 26/03/2026 21:01

I did not picture dirty dancing and it’s still too much for the school drop off.

The hugging and kissing was too much for the drop off let alone the jump up and held for a bit.

You’re adults not teens.

Applesonthelawn · 26/03/2026 21:00

Good God no. At the school? What made you think that wouldn't be hugely embarrassing? I'm embarrassed just thinking about it. She would probably care much less if it wasn't in plain sight of other parents and school friends.

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Werze · 26/03/2026 20:57

SemiSober · 26/03/2026 20:52

Now I’m picturing the famous scene from Dirty Dancing lol but that’s probably less cringe!

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Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

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SemiSober · 26/03/2026 20:52

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

Now I’m picturing the famous scene from Dirty Dancing lol but that’s probably less cringe!

Mumandcarer80 · 26/03/2026 20:52

BlueMum16 · 26/03/2026 17:51

I'm not sure my DC would meet a new partner after only 6 months.

I think you need to reign it in.

He’s on the school run how can they avoid them meeting each other?