Page 5 | AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

Werze · 2026-03-26T17:49:34+00:00

DD has had yet another massive go at me after school today. I broke up from her father when she was v young. Didn’t date for ages. Met a school run dad (now DP) in September, knew each other for a while then dated and went from there. Obviously we can’t see loads of each other so school run is one of only opportunities in week. Naturally happy to see each other and embrace/kiss as any normal couple would. DD kicking off saying she doesn’t want to see this. AIBU? She can’t expect me to remain single for ever surely ?

InterestedDad37 · 27/03/2026 00:26

Wait till the kids have gone in, then do the "Dirty Dancing Lift" 💃 🕺

shhblackbag · 27/03/2026 00:25

XiCi · 27/03/2026 00:13

Fucking act like one then. Noone 'fondles' one of the other kids dads in the school playground in front of all the kids. Your dd is probably getting the piss taken out of her every day. She is repeatedly asking you to stop. You are embarrassing her and yourself.

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shhblackbag · 27/03/2026 00:24

Werze · 26/03/2026 22:54

Hiding round a corner for a harmless fondle would be well childish, we are adults fgs 😂

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It would be considerate of other people and your child, and it would be the adult way to behave.

CrazyGoatLady · 27/03/2026 00:20

Werze · 26/03/2026 22:54

Hiding round a corner for a harmless fondle would be well childish, we are adults fgs 😂

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Good Lord, grow up!

ShmurpleRain · 27/03/2026 00:16

Werze · 26/03/2026 22:54

Hiding round a corner for a harmless fondle would be well childish, we are adults fgs 😂

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Why would you want to “fondle” outside of a school infront of children you utter weirdo?

XiCi · 27/03/2026 00:13

Werze · 26/03/2026 22:54

Hiding round a corner for a harmless fondle would be well childish, we are adults fgs 😂

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Fucking act like one then. Noone 'fondles' one of the other kids dads in the school playground in front of all the kids. Your dd is probably getting the piss taken out of her every day. She is repeatedly asking you to stop. You are embarrassing her and yourself.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 26/03/2026 23:59

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:51

OP hasn't said if dd has met her bf yet or not, has she? Just that she was update with the OTT PDA. My point, in all my posts, is that kids will always be embarrassed by their parents and despite it being a bit movie-ish, it was just a kiss. Rather that than misery, no?

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Well I’m guessing she knows who he is anyway. Movie-ish implies something romantic - this sounds anything but

wfhwfh · 26/03/2026 23:55

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 22:54

Another interesting observation is that practically every post is blaming the OP alone. 🤦‍♀️
MN posts truly keep on giving. 🤣

Now normally I am 100% behind the theory that men get an easier ride and they are usually the most to blame.

However here it is the OP’s daughter who is distressed by the “displays” and the OP is the only parent responsible.

I’m not doubting the “partner” is a prize bellend though….

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:55

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:51

OP hasn't said if dd has met her bf yet or not, has she? Just that she was update with the OTT PDA. My point, in all my posts, is that kids will always be embarrassed by their parents and despite it being a bit movie-ish, it was just a kiss. Rather that than misery, no?

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Obviously the daughter has met the new man if she’s with her when they’re kissing in the playground.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:51

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:38

What’s your point? 6 months IS early to introduce your new relationship to your kids.

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OP hasn't said if dd has met her bf yet or not, has she? Just that she was update with the OTT PDA. My point, in all my posts, is that kids will always be embarrassed by their parents and despite it being a bit movie-ish, it was just a kiss. Rather that than misery, no?

UpTheWomen · 26/03/2026 23:45

Werze · 26/03/2026 20:57

Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

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This is pretty hideous behaviour from adults around their own and other children. No problems seeing adults in their household being affectionate to each other, but this sort of performative bollocks at a very early stage in a new relationship, which will be a difficult time for the children anyway, is awful.

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:41

Werze · 26/03/2026 22:54

Hiding round a corner for a harmless fondle would be well childish, we are adults fgs 😂

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Well if you’re adults you should be able to control yourselves around children at the school gates, especially your child who has asked you not to because it makes her feel uncomfortable.

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:38

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:35

In all fairness, it doesn't sound like OP introduced him at the gate. 😁

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What’s your point? 6 months IS early to introduce your new relationship to your kids.

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:37

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 26/03/2026 23:33

And OP who asked the question.

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Yes so it is only op to blame for not taking her daughter’s wishes into account and still choosing to have a snog at the school gates.

Obviously the man is a participant but it is indeed op who’s to blame in terms of upsetting her daughter.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:35

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:34

It’s still new in terms of introducing them to your kids.

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In all fairness, it doesn't sound like OP introduced him at the gate. 😁

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:34

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:24

Met last weekend at the pub: new shag
dating SIX MONTHS: not new shag
🤦‍♀️

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It’s still new in terms of introducing them to your kids.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 26/03/2026 23:33

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:32

It’s op’s daughter that objects to her mother’s behaviour.

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And OP who asked the question.

HisNotHes · 26/03/2026 23:32

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 22:54

Another interesting observation is that practically every post is blaming the OP alone. 🤦‍♀️
MN posts truly keep on giving. 🤣

It’s op’s daughter that objects to her mother’s behaviour.

Bestfootforward11 · 26/03/2026 23:32

Also describing your DD as “kicking off” is just so dismissive. She has legitimate feelings here and I’m surprised your focus is on how it’s impacting you rather than her.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:31

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 26/03/2026 23:28

Yes SIX MONTHS - that’s fuck all in the general scheme of things. So still in the dribbling over each other honeymoon phase.

You can’t know whether someone is likely to be long term by then especially as apparently they only really see each other at the school gate.

Of course, bringing new men into your child’s life is apparently okay if you are Katie Price but most normal people put their children first 🤷‍♀️

Perhaps the DD is uncomfortable with her mum acting like at 16 yo at the school gate and also perhaps she is concerned that he will move in? Or perhaps she’s getting a lot of shit at school for it.

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Perhaps. 🤷‍♀️

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:29

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 26/03/2026 23:28

While I always appreciate a gratuitous Keanu gif, OP said she MET him 6 months ago. THEN dated, THEN went from there. So the relationship is not 6 months old.

Even it was 6 years old, snogging at school would be gross.

And if it makes any difference to OP, yes I've been a single mum who has re-partnered. And I met my new DP through mutual kid stuff. Still think it's gross.

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So. Gorgeous.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 26/03/2026 23:28

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:24

Met last weekend at the pub: new shag
dating SIX MONTHS: not new shag
🤦‍♀️

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Yes SIX MONTHS - that’s fuck all in the general scheme of things. So still in the dribbling over each other honeymoon phase.

You can’t know whether someone is likely to be long term by then especially as apparently they only really see each other at the school gate.

Of course, bringing new men into your child’s life is apparently okay if you are Katie Price but most normal people put their children first 🤷‍♀️

Perhaps the DD is uncomfortable with her mum acting like at 16 yo at the school gate and also perhaps she is concerned that he will move in? Or perhaps she’s getting a lot of shit at school for it.

Bestfootforward11 · 26/03/2026 23:28

i find this all a bit odd to be honest. I understand you may be excited to see your DP but you really sound like you don’t understand the impact on your DD who is only 11. My DD is 12 and I can see what a difficult age this is as they are so much more self aware and are full of angst and worry about who they are and how to be. The fact you have a DP at all after so long must be terribly hard for your DD who has had you to herself for so long. She must undoubtedly be worried about what this all might mean for her. School is her place, it’s not like being in a restaurant or something. I wish you every happiness but performing your romance in this way at the school gates when you’ve been together such a short time time is really not ok to me. Yes you may both be excited but you have to put your DD first here. Surely you can wait so it’s not all in front of her. I find it strange that this is even a question. It’s not to say don’t enjoy your new relationship, but things need to be centred on limiting negative impact on your DD.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 26/03/2026 23:28

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2026 23:18

You’ve been dating for 6 months - DC shouldn’t even be meeting boyfriends/girlfriends until minimum 6 months

Wait...what? So, OP has met the 6 month threshold, no? And, could you link the rules, please?

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While I always appreciate a gratuitous Keanu gif, OP said she MET him 6 months ago. THEN dated, THEN went from there. So the relationship is not 6 months old.

Even it was 6 years old, snogging at school would be gross.

And if it makes any difference to OP, yes I've been a single mum who has re-partnered. And I met my new DP through mutual kid stuff. Still think it's gross.

CassandraCan · 26/03/2026 23:25

BlueMum16 · 26/03/2026 17:51

I'm not sure my DC would meet a new partner after only 6 months.

I think you need to reign it in.

Also he’s hardly a partner after 6 months. Get a grip OP and think of your daughter. Can’t actually believe how selfish you’re being.