AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

It's bad that you do this at all in from of your child so soon, doubly bad thet you do it on the school run and really grim for her that it's with another school run parent. Mortifying. You must be stupidly wrapped up in him not to realise that and prioritise your children's feelings.

Blimey.
Surely you aren’t actually that lacking in self awareness?
Embarrassed for your daughter reading this.

You don’t sound like an adult.
your daughter should not be involved in your very new relationship at all.
nor should his kids.
You are behaving like teenagers.

I get you’ve been single for years, so imagine how hard of an adjustment this is for your daughter.

I hope this is a wind-up as you sound very insensitive to your child’s completely normal feelings. The school gates are not the place for PDAs. In several years spent at school gates, i literally never saw any parents or couples canoodling. This is not about whether or not you can date (why would you make that strange leap?), it’s about smooching with your boyfriend at the school gates. That’s just oddly performative and so uncool. I doubt any of the kids want to see it and those who know your DD will likely take the piss and not necessarily in a kind way. How is this not obvious to you? Just go smooch somewhere else.

Oh no, i just read about the jumping hug/kiss - even worse! Cringe! Soooo inappropriate! To be honest I am a teacher and I think if my colleagues and I saw that happening between two parents on the school run... Lets just say, it would be gossiped about 😂 Please save PDAs for a place that isnt filled with children? Its just weird

Kissing on the school run is a bit much to be honest. You should save it for alone time maybe.

Yes I think that would be cringe for a child at any age.

Sort of got you to jump up…..?

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No to public displays of affection near kid's school, friends etc

That is too hard for them to cope with.

Fine in public places where you are anonymous.

The way you are both feeling and acting about this situation is entirely normal and understandable, but you need to reign in the PDAs at the school gate. Your poor daughter.

That's totally out of order. If I saw someone do this I'd assume they were a bit thick, and shit parents, and I'd feel really sorry for the child.

You've asked out opinion, over 90% of us have said you're wrong, and yet you seem determined to keep defending yourself rather than accept that maybe it's not a great thing to do.

I could not imagine seeing another parent at the school gate jumping into their partners’s arms, and being kissed as they were held.

Honestly OP, if you think that’s acceptable behaviour I don’t think anyone here can help you.

Why would you choose to have your reunion at school gates? Bizarre

Stop being so dramatic and manipulative. She's not asking you to stay single forever, she's just asking you not to act like a hormonal teenager in the playground. Hardly a big ask. Stop embarrassing her.

It isn’t just about OP’s DD. The stuff OP describes is inappropriate near a school. The “random man” is also a dad of a child at the school really should be more responsible in his behaviour and may well be upsetting his own son equally (though a boy is less likely to say, as is any child to their dad).

The op is the one on the thread and the one who should be considerate of her child. Thats part of the point, this near stranger random man who’s been in a relationship with the op for about 10 minutes has no responsibility towards her daughter. Behaving suitably as a parent is all on the op. Who claims to be an adult although nothing she’s said sounds like it.

Oh no op. This is so inappropriate. How many other adults do you see kissing and fondling at school? I have never seen any. I would never do it because it would mortifying my dc. I suspect everyone else is the same, which is why we are not all getting it on at the school gate. Harmless fondling? No such thing to a child experiencing this from a parent. She is asking you to stop, it is a negative experience for her. That is not Harmless!

Then act like adults fgs.

Agree, agree, agree.

What must make 100 times worse for your daughter is the fact that you are screwing a fellow school parent! Bad enough that you are unable to keep your hands and tongues off each other for a few minutes - I imagine everyone witnessing that feels the get a room ick at your inappropriate playground pda - but she is having to deal with the fact that every single child in her class, every single child in his class and every single teacher and TA in the whole school knows the story behind your big romance .

It would be quite impressive, though.

No child of any age wants to see its mother running up to a bloke at the school gate, leaping into his arms for an open gob pash, with her legs wrapped around him and steam coming out of her arse.

What's wrong with a quick smile and a wave?

Oh gawd the dramatics are killing me. 🤣🤣🤣

Fascinating- so many questions that I usually ask on politics threads! (edited to add - not these specific questions on the political threads!)

Where is your partner’s ex, his child’s mum, and how do you get on when she does school runs?

Does your child’s Dad ever do the run? If so how does that pan out with your new man, or his ex?

Is this before/after school - or both?

Is it on the way or at the gates, or in the playground? Last time I did a pick up we were herded at a gate then allowed to outsideish the classroom as they came out. Similar going in so do you get there nice and early for ‘couple time’? And/or are you still dirty dancing in front of the teachers when the kids are lining up?

Can you not even have 10 minutes after drop off/before pick up to perform or can you just not keep your hands off each other ever?

Do you actually only see him at school?

I think maybe you’re the kid whose mum kicked off at you getting it on with your boyfriend in the playground- he wasn’t there last week as he was suspended for gross behaviour and your mum doesn’t want you to be next.

I have seen many things in the school playground- and seen affairs play out - but never this - I feel like it’s something the school will be writing to you about whether as the miscreant yourself, or as the Mum of the miscreant, but do keep us updated on that.

It is though. 6 months isn’t that long when it comes to having someone around your children. It’s not long enough to fully assess any potential red flags. That’s why responsible parents wait considerably longer.

Urgh this is awful, your poor daughter. Even if it was her father you were kissing it would still be highly embarrassing for a young child to witness at the school gates!! Please do grow up.