AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

This is ridiculously inappropriate. Your poor daughter.

Poor you: it's about time DD realised your needs come first.

I can just imagine what the other Mums are saying about this carry on.

No wonder OP name changed and has disappeared. Hopefully she has realised how her d must feel now, motified. It's not just m though, why does her p think it's okay to behave like that in public especially around kids?

Dating another parent at your child's school is supremely selfish. This happened at our school the poor child was so embarrassed and it was a huge source of gossip etc. If you must date another school parent at least have the decency to keep it secret to spare your children.

Yes YABU- completely inappropriate. Go for a coffee after drop off or something.

No I'm not jealous before any one pushes that boat out and it's nice to see happy couples but FFS, you sound like a couple of teens, can't you not get carried away until your d /kids go into school? A few minutes? No doubt there is some bitchy eye rolling from other parents. It's similar to the NT snuggling couple, a bit bleurgh. Your d probably gets teased about it too.

Your DD will be mocked by her classmates. 100%. It's no wonder she's embarrassed.

As school staff, I'd genuinely discreetly tell you to stop. I'd say it's because it's not appropriate in a school yard (which it's not) but it would actually be to protect the DD from the guaranteed piss taking.

Poor DD.

Omg your poor daughter. Have you considered the other children are seeing this as well and will be teasing her about it? Rein it in ffs

It sounds like you’re looking at this from the POV of an adult, not trying to understand how an 11-year-old might understand it and feel about it. If you think your dd is being unreasonable for not understanding that “it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely” when he lifts you up, then you don’t know much about 11-year-olds. (Which you really should because you have one). She’s not your adult mate who’s going to be happy for you and ‘get it’, she’s your child. To her, her mother being lifted up and kissed by a man outside her school, like something out of a cringey 1950s rom com, will be absolutely mortifying! She also probably thinks it’s super cringe and gross (cos who wants to see that OTT display of affection from their parent 🤮). She also may be feeling uneasy, jealous, confused - if you haven’t dated since you left her dad, this is going to be a massive thing for her. Sounds like you’re minimising it, making it all about you, and not trying to understand from your daughter’s POV at all. You can’t expect her to just ‘be happy’ for you before she feels safe & secure and gets to know him properly (which imo she shouldn’t be doing after 6 mths. I’d date for a year personally, before introducing anyone to my kids). It sounds like you need to try to understand your daughter better

Me too. Get a room.

how embarrassing - with your DD on this one

i’m 99% convinced this is a wind up now but imagine what any teachers looking out of the window think 😂

Sounds inappropriate at a school anyway, but I’m with your daughter. Wait till she goes in school and a quick peck goodbye at your cars should tide you over?

@Werze yes you are two adults so start acting like it and both respect the fact that your daughter finds your behaviour (rightly uncomfortable) and that such PDA during the school run is inappropriate.

So inappropriate that she could both be teased for it and your behaviour judged as being entirely inappropriate by fellow parents

Exactly...so behave like adults and stop embarrassing your 11 year old daughter at the school gate. It is cringe just reading about it. Poor child.

What they all said ⬆️

I don't understand your thinking here. How on earth is it childish to NOT want to 'fondle' in front of kids/parents/teachers? & Of course your poor daughter who has told you that she doesn't like this?

I think it's childish to WANT to behave like this, there.

I once dated a man who lived near my children's school. We met for our dates just after drop off, at the park that's 3 mins walk from the school. Inside, the park, so away from the main road where the school is. He offered to meet me at the school after drop-off & I said no, as my early dating (& id call 6 months early dating, especially as you don't seem to see each other much) is nothing to do with my children & there's no need to make it obvious to the other parents either.

It was a risk, for me, that other parents could be walking through this park to go home, of course. & This happened once & I waved hello...

But I just genuinely don't understand your thinking here! & You seem to think it's funny, instead of being remorseful or even considering your DDs feelings a smidgen.

i agree with your daughter.

The "DP" isn't posting though. If it helps,
both their behaviors sound immature and insensitive.

OP, your daughter deserves to have her feelings taken into consideration on this.

Maybe you've prioritised her for a long time OP, maybe things have been hard and you are in need of this relationship?

It's not that you can't have it, but would it really kill you to hold back from the kisses til she's through the school door?

Exactly, you are adults. So why do you need to leap into each others arms and smooch like long lost lovers in a Barbara Cartland novel??
Weird 😂

YABU for calling someone you’ve been dating for 6 months your partner.

Ab sorry OP, it all sounds very lovely for you but also pretty immature. You’re a parent first and foremost.
also..
if she’s 11 she will be in secondary school soon, surely you can hold out for a few months
you’ve only met this guys 6 months ago and you’re kissing in front of your 11 year old daughter, yak
you could split with this guy at any point and how awkward will that then feel after your public shows up affection
jusg generally, be more of a grown up, that doesn’t mean having no fun, go and suck him off in the alleyway for all anyone cares just be a parent on the school run

How is he a partner if you only met him in September and don't see him very often.. surely that's still just dating
Anyway ,your DD is clearly not happy ,so pull things back

While it's natural to want to kiss your new boyfriend, it's better not to do it in ways that embarrass your daughter or make her uncomfortable, and at the school gate in front of her classmates definitely falls in that category. If you think the relationship could get serious, you're potentially setting up a really bad dynamic between your partner and his potential step-daughter if she associates him with public embarrassment and negativity.