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AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

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Werze · 26/03/2026 17:49

DD has had yet another massive go at me after school today. I broke up from her father when she was v young. Didn’t date for ages. Met a school run dad (now DP) in September, knew each other for a while then dated and went from there. Obviously we can’t see loads of each other so school run is one of only opportunities in week. Naturally happy to see each other and embrace/kiss as any normal couple would. DD kicking off saying she doesn’t want to see this.

AIBU? She can’t expect me to remain single for ever surely ?

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the7Vabo · 26/03/2026 20:50

PlumBear · 26/03/2026 20:32

It never ceases to amaze me how many parents seem to think the school run is about them and their own social (or your case, love) life. I’ve lost count of how many parents I’ve seen ignore their kids over the years while they play playground politics, engage in gossip etc.

My opinion is that the focus of the school run should be your kids - getting them in whatever way is most calming, familiar and helpful for them. Your needs are secondary.

This. You have a parental responsibility which you are neglecting. It’s her school run, it’s about her not you, make it about her.

I can’t believe either of you thought this was appropriate in front of a school.

Loloblue · 26/03/2026 20:48

You're not being very emotionally intelligent here. Sorry. YABU.

thestudio · 26/03/2026 20:43

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

This is making me gag before you even get to the child.

Per-form-a-tive

BeaPerry · 26/03/2026 20:42

bigboykitty · 26/03/2026 18:01

I'm cringing for you. Poor child. How embarrassing.

Don’t be SO performative -

it is CRINGE 😬

poor kid

you are on the school run, not a shampoo advert !!!

FlapperFlamingo · 26/03/2026 20:39

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

OP I’m not surprised she is embarrassed,, you have to stop that. She’ll be aware of the gossiping about you and your DP. That’s inappropriate.

canuckup · 26/03/2026 20:38

It's pretty cringe let's face it

New dp picked you up? He's pushing it lol

😆

PlumBear · 26/03/2026 20:32

It never ceases to amaze me how many parents seem to think the school run is about them and their own social (or your case, love) life. I’ve lost count of how many parents I’ve seen ignore their kids over the years while they play playground politics, engage in gossip etc.

My opinion is that the focus of the school run should be your kids - getting them in whatever way is most calming, familiar and helpful for them. Your needs are secondary.

S251 · 26/03/2026 20:32

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

No there’s a time and place. Completely inappropriate. Your poor dd.

NoSoupForU · 26/03/2026 20:31

I think you sound incredibly selfish.

Don't prioritise your boyfriend or you wanting to behave like a child over your actual child. She doesn't like you doing something in front of her that you don't have to do in front of her, so why the fuck do you insist on doing it?

Not sure I'd be so quick to introduce a partner to your child either, never mind be all over each other in front of her.

99bottlesofkombucha · 26/03/2026 20:30

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

Seriously? Are you two both 12? Or do you think you’re the stars of your own Disney movie? The school run is not the place for that, especially when it’s a fairly new partner not your dds dad.

S251 · 26/03/2026 20:30

Completely with your daughter on this, the school run is not the place for you to get your fix from your new partner. Not to mention only knowing him for 6 months. There’s no way I’d have introduced a new partner to my child that quickly.

Bumply · 26/03/2026 20:29

This sounds like the PDA my ex would indulge in with his new partner in front of his family (told to me by his sister who found it cringeworthy)

At least it wasn’t in front of my kids at the school gate.

Cakewon · 26/03/2026 20:27

Just no. Think of how this is for her. “ Millies mum is kissing Harry’s dad” you will be the talk of the playground amongst the kids. I remember 2 teachers dated at my primary children’s school and all the kids were fascinated!

Villanousvillans · 26/03/2026 20:26

Definitely not. Your DD obviously feels uncomfortable witnessing it, have some consideration.

Whatsappweirdo · 26/03/2026 20:26

for your daughters sake I hope this isn’t true 🤢

SeenYourArse · 26/03/2026 20:23

You’ve been with the guy since September? He’s your boyfriend not your DP!

pinkyredrose · 26/03/2026 20:22

When you say kiss do you mean a peck or a full on snog?

Either way you should probably reign it in, an 11yr old is going to be mortified with her mates seeing her mum n her fella all over each other.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 26/03/2026 20:19

Wouldn’t even kiss my husband on the school run. Loads of other times for that

Idontjetwashthefucker · 26/03/2026 20:14

Is this the National Trust snuggling poster?

SchoolDilemma17 · 26/03/2026 20:10

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

i’m embarrassed for you. Are you 16?
your poor daughter

ACynicalDad · 26/03/2026 20:10

100% team daughter, head for a coffee after or a short walk. Sad for you but daughter's feelings must be priority over new man. Don't even do it once she's walked in until the gate is locked or you are a couple of streets away and unlikely that anyone she knows will walk past.

PretendHedgehog · 26/03/2026 20:08

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:54

She was extra annoyed today because DP lifted me up ,got a bit carried away we haven’t seen each other since last week due to his work. We won’t repeat that but it’s just natural to be excited to see someone surely

He.....lifted you up? Dear god, I'M embarrassed and I didn't even see it!

I don't care whether you haven't seen each other for 3 months, you don't stand whirling about and snogging like you're auditioning for a remake of Dirty Dancing, in public, in front of a school, in front of your daughter and her peers.

Keep the prancing, leaping, twirling, gazing into each other's eyes, kissing etc for in PRIVATE.

You need to pack it in and grow up, I'm sorry.

CharlotteByrde · 26/03/2026 20:06

I would hate to see that carry on at the school gate and I'm not even related to you. Grim.

Theamaryllis · 26/03/2026 20:06

Werze · 26/03/2026 17:50

11 sorry

yes my youngest is 12 and his normal run and give mummy a hug is gone until he gets in the car and we get home. Yes do it elsewhere

user1476613140 · 26/03/2026 20:03

HappyToSmile · 26/03/2026 17:55

Must be a bit awkward for her with everyone watching? She is only 11. Can you not just wait another 5 minutes until the kids have all been dropped off /gone into school?

Most obvious solution. A little bit self control for 5 minutes until bell rings...