Clocks go back and as if by magic....

Kids are allowed to play in their gardens.
Move to the middle of nowhere in a detached house if you don’t want to be disturbed by other people just living their lives.

I love the sound of children playing , having fun outside .
The wee one next door to me on one side is wandering about playing, chatting to his mum , dad and the dog .
It is very cute .
Sometimes they have people over and I hear them chatting while the children play .
The other side ..seems they can’t play without screaming like bloody murder and kicking balls against the fence .
I often feel like the parents just can’t be bothered to go out and quieten them down AND it’s not just a couple of hours .
It goes on in the summer till late
And no , none of the kids are ND or have any learning disabilities.
She isn’t a poor frazzled mum , has loads of help , kids are all school age too .
Really annoys me .

lota of posts on this about children screaming - that’s not what the OP said. She said kicking a ball.

If you don’t want to hear children after school before dinner being outside on a sunny afternoon, move somewhere isolated or not family friendly (like a flat in a development aimed at professionals), or you know, don’t be at home in the afternoons. If you choose to WFH in a family friendly area having moved into a house with adjoining garden, you’ll probably hear kids from 3:30-5:30 playing.

It is perfectly possible to arrange your life in a way that you don’t have to be exposed to young family noise. You just have to be prepared to make an effort to think things through.

Children should not be stopped from playing with a ball in their own garden because another adult is too lazy or stupid to make changes to their own life.

They can scream inside around their parents-you know, the people who wanted kids. Why should parents get a break from screaming and everyone else has to put up with it instead?

Can't tell the time, but apparently you can time travel...

@Tarkadaaaahling

"A miser is a person who hoards money and is extremely reluctant to spend it"

Exactly. People are deliberately ignoring that part or are outright saying it’s okay to bounce a ball against someone’s wall/fence repeatedly.

Either they just want to pile on the Op or they are the kind of selfish adults who allow the kids in their care to be like that.

OP says they are repeatedly hitting her garden fence. Would you allow your own children to do that?
I have a very small garden. My children went to the park to kick their ball about.
Of course these days kids have to contend with dogs off the lead who 'just want to play' puncturing their ball, but that's a whole other thread.

I live in the row of terraced cottages in a cul-de-sac. There's a big grassy area in front of the houses, and the kids all come out in summer, with footballs and rugby balls (boys and girls, these days), and some little girls bring out a table and chairs and some have some kind of teddy-bears picnic, and I think that's lovely. Even when a boy broke my bedroom window with a ball a while back, but it all got sorted out amicably enough. It's great to see kids out in the open air, having fun.

What is not parenting about children playing in the garden with a ball?
It is much better for them than sitting on the sofa with a phone.
How do you see it as unacceptable?

Do you never mow the lawn? Use the strimmer? Have a barbecue?

That's very different than playing with balls in their gardens / with their friends. And that's not what the OP was about.

I'm not a pensioner but I don't want to listen to the constant thud of a fucking basketball every single day during summer. Nor do I want to listen to the people a few doors along shouting and swearing instead of talking like normal people.

Before I'm accused of wanting silence I don't. I live in a street with a mixture of ages and have many lovely neighbours, it's just unfortunate that some people don't consider others.

No it means that you teach them that when they are outside they don’t scream and disturb everyone else

Parenting doesnt mean ensuring children are silent and indoors at all times.

Yeah we have a large group if slightly older kuds whi hold 'scream offs' all the time 'loudest, longest etc group screams and 'wave' screams. Not outside their iwn bloody houses. & kuck a ball of the metal garage doors in the row of garages.

kids playing - lovely

kids doing this - NOT lovely

I used to look forward to sunny days and lighter nights but now dread it as my hideous neighbours will soon be flinging their doors and windows open from 11am til late at night treating me to their endless shouting, screaming, tinny music played via a phone and endless visitors hammering on the front door. I have gone from loving Summer to dreading it. They do not work in the mainstream economy so are at home practically all the time so there is no respite from the hell

Ah, but at one point there were two of them!

It was a work of art, allowing everyone to experience both the blissful moment when the whumping stops, and the crashing despair when it starts again....

❤️

Which hasn't even happened yet... you must be really angry

So we’re jumping from wildly over the hysteria around screen time to complaining kids playing in the garden, oh goody.

I often think it is 5pm when it is actually 4pm. Only so I can have a gin and tonic though. 🤣

A friend swears they've already gone forward. Not got to the bottom of why yet

Amen to that!

Because moving to a flat will result in WAAAAAAY less noise than living in a house. 🙄

How about people just parent their children properly, and spend time with them, instead of just shoving them outside to kick balls relentlessly against the garden fence, and shriek and scream blue murder?

There wouldn't be if there wasn't so much shit parenting around.