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AIBU to feel no attraction to men after dating at 50?

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Telephonelightflashing · 26/03/2026 14:55

I'm single no kids, ltr split up amicably 4 years ago. I've been on and off online dating but I really don't fancy anyone at all. Nothing bad about the guys I've met, they've been generally nice but I literally feel like I cannot be bothered. I don't want to be alone forever or think that's it for love (I'm 50) and I'm hoping that bit of me hasn't died , but I can rustle up no excitement or attraction for any bloke at all. Help! Is this normal at this age?

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jojojoeyjojo · 26/03/2026 18:26

Same! I am 56 and would quite like a relationship… not interested in getting married again though. I never, ever fancy anyone .. younger or my age…and my libido is non-existent. I am increasingly resigning myself to just becoming an eccentric dog lady and living with my adult son who has MH difficulties and looks like he is never going to move out…so i guess i wont be entirely on my own.

TwistedWonder · 26/03/2026 18:26

KitsyWitsy · 26/03/2026 18:02

I don't blame you. They're all bitter, wizened and impotent.

And mostly looking for a nurse with a purse

Luckyingame · 26/03/2026 18:21

Absolutely YANBU.
Enjoy your freedom.

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Telephonelightflashing · 26/03/2026 18:12

I've had 3 long relationships and they were all people I met in real life so I'm hoping it happens naturally for me as I can't get any interest in online dating at all.

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KitsyWitsy · 26/03/2026 18:02

I don't blame you. They're all bitter, wizened and impotent.

Catcatcatcatcat · 26/03/2026 18:02

YANBU.

I haven’t bothered since my last relationship ended in October 2012! I was 47 then.

I just can’t be arsed and enjoy my single life so much.

ginasevern · 26/03/2026 18:00

You definitely aren't alone OP. I was widowed 10 years ago at 57 (so older than you) but still .... I certainly didn't want to look after some old bloke that I hadn't grown old with, if that makes sense. And whilst I can appreciate a nice looking man, I just don't fancy them (even if they fancied me!). Anyway, from what I've seen there's something "wrong" with all of them and do I really want to put all that effort into getting to know someone all over again. Nope, can't be arsed.

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Telephonelightflashing · 26/03/2026 17:50

My ltr was younger than me. We had become friends by the end.
I sort of fancy this guy at work in that I can see he is good looking l, but the frisson of fancying has gone. Maybe it's a libido thing

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Wordless · 26/03/2026 15:49

What do you think the reason might be?

(I mean, I can think of at least two other possibilities …)

TwistedWonder · 26/03/2026 15:48

I’m with you. I’m 60 tried OLD and decided of rather stay singje than go near any of the specimens on there.

Slowdives · 26/03/2026 15:43

Do you fancy younger men?