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To take a job working with year 9s

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Surelyitstimenow · 26/03/2026 13:08

For secondary school teachers out there and parents of year 9s.
I'm interested in applying for a job working with year 9s to support teaching staff in the classroom. Some of it will be supporting behaviour management.
By this age, have the kids settled down in their behaviour and are more grown up and mature? Will they be a calm, well developed age group to work with?
I get that year 7 and even year 8 they are still young, but by year 9 has the immature behaviour all stopped? Has all the chattering in class, physical horseplay, silly behaviour and chat back stopped by the time they hey to year 9?
I'm thinking about the behaviour of year 9 boys more specifically, based on the assumption that girls have generally matured in their behaviour at a younger age than boys (stereotype I know)!

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Hatty65 · 27/03/2026 14:49

I've taught for more than 30 years and I love Y9, mostly because I enjoy the topics I do with this year. I am the only one in the school who does, but I quite like a gobby 14 year old. They make me laugh (though not often in front of them)

However, you have to be prepared for the fact that, as many others have said, this is a notoriously difficult year group to deal with. They aren't mature. The boys still find willies and poo hilarious, or farting in front of you. If we are going to generalise then the girls are 'mean' and divide into cliques who are appalling to anyone who isn't one of them, doesn't meet their beauty/fashion standards, is a 'geek' or a 'swot'. Snapchat bullying is at its worst. Anorexia and self harm is always a worry. Lots and lots of mental health anxieties and drama.

Boys jeer and punch at each other, but can be surprisingly sweet to old ladies (me) at times. I can remember one saying to me earnestly (I'm 60) "I'm sorry I punched him in front of you, Miss but he's just a cunt" and genuinely meaning this as an apology. In addition you can be really firm with a teenage boy and come down on them like a ton of bricks and then tend to grin and think, 'Huh, I got caught!'. They will cheerfully shout 'Awright Miss?' when they see you in a corridor later in the day, having forgotten all about the fact that you have issued them a detention. Girls on the other hand will remember it and give you the evil eye forever...

I'm generalising obviously, but this is pretty common. I still like Y9, but I've been dealing with them for a long, long time and have no concerns about my behaviour management skills.

Myswweetchild · 27/03/2026 14:32

@Surelyitstimenow why don't you apply, you could get it, see how you get on.
Schools are all very different - I still think it'd be a tough job, but who knows if it's for you or not ?
( is it an agency or applying directly to the school?)

EarthlyNightshade · 27/03/2026 11:27

MasterBeth · 26/03/2026 19:56

Most Mumsnet post ever.

"So many" start boarding school!? Do they?

(1% of UK kids go to boarding school. So many!)

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Sorry, forgot to write <lighthearted>

Thatcannotberight · 27/03/2026 11:23

A school actually employing someone to manage behaviour is likely to have significant behavioural issues to manage. There's no money to employ someone for the fun of it.

CrispySquid · 27/03/2026 11:14

Year 9's are the worst for behaviour, obnoxiousness and unpleasantness by a significant margin! Run for the hills!

Surelyitstimenow · 27/03/2026 10:45

Ok, thank you for all your replies.
I feel a very clear picture has been painted and I appreciate the actual specific examples of behaviour given, as this has helped clarify things for me more than people simply saying 'It's the worst year'.
Maybe I shan't pursue it then. It's a shame though. I like teenagers. I like their enthusiasm and energy, and I like to engage with young people.
No experience of actually working with this age group though.
I'm retired (early retirement, public sector), and fancied a job working with youngsters and this one appealed to me.
But examples provided here have made for an eyebrow raising read.

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Justbecauseyoucandoesntmeanyoushould · 27/03/2026 08:55

They are 13 and 14. Of course they haven't matured. Y9 is often the worst year.

Cosyblankets · 27/03/2026 08:55

Surelyitstimenow · 27/03/2026 03:38

Ok. Sounding like a bad idea.
To everyone saying "Worst year group" can you give me specific examples? Worst year group why? What are they specifically doing that makes them so bad?
Lots and lots of people saying worst year group, but could I have examples of actual behaviour?
Only 1 person has answered to say year 9 boys are mature and studious.
Damn. I really wanted to go for this job.

With the greatest of respect I'm not sure how you'd be qualified to support the teacher with the behaviour if you have no idea about teenagers.

JSMill · 27/03/2026 08:39

borntobequiet · 27/03/2026 08:16

YABVU to contemplate this job if you needed to ask the question.

Has all the chattering in class, physical horseplay, silly behaviour and chat back stopped by the time they hey to year 9?

No. It’s at its peak.

I totally agree.

Breadandblutter · 27/03/2026 08:26

One thing I remember being struck by in my early teaching years was the amount of manhandling the Year8/9 boys do. They grapple with each other in corridors, jump on each other in hallways, grab each others heads, smack each other with rulers, it’s like a wildlife documentary.

Once I said ‘Boys, boys, can you just keep your hands off each other for five minutes’ and they didn’t know how to take that - quite a few of them were like ‘euw’.

borntobequiet · 27/03/2026 08:16

YABVU to contemplate this job if you needed to ask the question.

Has all the chattering in class, physical horseplay, silly behaviour and chat back stopped by the time they hey to year 9?

No. It’s at its peak.

Thatcannotberight · 27/03/2026 08:15

Asked my yr 9 DS. When he got up off the floor from laughing, he said no. The girls talk more than the boys, they just don't get told off for it. There is a boy in his non sets who throws his bag and chairs, swears at everyone and storms out of classes crying. There is also some horrendous bullying by mean girls.

CosySeal · 27/03/2026 08:02

I am going to go against the grain here. I'm a secondary school teacher and would choose to work with y9 over 7/8s everytime. Yes they are more hormonal than the y7/8 but I find them better to chat with, i find them funny, i actually enjoy my lessons with them.

Nosejobnelly · 27/03/2026 07:58

Year 9 was awful for DS - all the boys are in various stages of puberty and trying to vie for top dog!

Breadandblutter · 27/03/2026 07:49

Mintchocs · 27/03/2026 07:03

"Has all the chattering in class, physical horseplay, silly behaviour and chat back stopped by the time they hey to year 9?"

Your Enid Blyton view of year 9s makes me fear for you 😄

IME horseplay is at its pinnacle in Year 9 kids

Breadandblutter · 27/03/2026 07:48

Year 9 girls: rampant hormones, sensitive to criticism, loads and loads of peer bullying and you will be forever sorting out rifts in friendship groups and group chat issues.

Year 9 boys: still very much children emotionally but starting to resemble overgrown puppies, lots of physical contact between them and peers as they try to assert their dominance, also they start to stink really badly in this year, though by year 11 that starts to even out.

I am still haunted by a Year 9 class I had back in 2009, it was like fucking Whack A Mole every lesson with them all popping up to disrupt.

MamaMumMama · 27/03/2026 07:47

My current year 9’s are a dream. Last years were a nightmare. It depends on the kids themselves not simply their age. Year 9 can be a transitional year friendship wise. It’s also an age where the hormones are definitely kicking in. I would go for it 💜

user1492757084 · 27/03/2026 07:41

This is why schools that can, send all of their Year 9s off to their Forest School Campus in remote places void of phone coverage.

Year 9s gathering wood, learning to survive on their own cooking, washing their own clothes and safely traversing long trecks in the wilderness promotes them taking directions, working in teams and becoming independent.

It removes them far from sight while at their worst.

MrsM2025 · 27/03/2026 07:37

From experience as a secondary school teacher Year 9 is the worst year group (this is in any school) - hormones flying about combined with GCSE courses not quite started in all subjects
Stay away if possible!

StasisMom · 27/03/2026 07:37

They are the worst honestly - they’ve got past being the youngest and everything being a novelty but aren’t at the stage of doing exams, so are a bit like a problem middle child, so to speak. Probably as well a higher proportion have hormones racing around, so I guess that won’t help.

There are of course lovely kids in year 9 but I’m generalising.

CaptainMyCaptain · 27/03/2026 07:34

All secondary teachers say Year 9s are the worst.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 27/03/2026 07:34

DD is Y9
She is sensible and studious and not badly behaved. She loves watching the drama, but is very seldom involved. The girls seem to be more mature than the boys, apart from the Mean Girls, who are just horrid.
On the other hand, there still seems to be a fair amount of horseplay and backchat. DD is full of daily tales of who got sent out of their classes, and the events leading up to that. (DD is in top set for everything streamed; this is the first destination for people bring sent out of class, before the HoY office).

ScreamingInfidelities · 27/03/2026 07:31

I get that year 7 and even year 8 they are still young, but by year 9 has the immature behaviour all stopped? Has all the chattering in class, physical horseplay, silly behaviour and chat back stopped by the time they hey to year 9?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA god, no.

neverbeenskiing · 27/03/2026 07:29

Has all the chattering in class, physical horseplay, silly behaviour and chat back stopped by the time they hey to year 9?

OP, I'm guessing you haven't worked with teenagers before 😂

Kindly, if you're worried about "silly behaviour, chat back and physical horseplay" this job is not for you, because those things are not only par for the course, they are very much at the lower end of behaviour issues you will encounter.

You've asked for specific examples so here is an incomplete list of behaviour issues I dealt with from (but not limited to) Y9 when I worked in secondary

  • Swearing (at each other and staff)
  • Racist, homophobic and misogynist language
  • Total refusal to complete work or follow instructions
  • Refusing to attend lessons
  • Absconding
  • Vandalising school property
  • Fighting, not "horseplay" kids actually properly hurting each other resulting in injury
  • Threats of violence against teachers
  • Filming/recording Teachers on phones
  • Constant social media related nonsense
  • Vaping and smoking on school site
  • Cannabis and alcohol related incidents
  • Sexual harassment, cat-calling, upskirting, sexualised comments and a couple of incidents of indecent exposure
itsgettingweird · 27/03/2026 07:28

DitzyDerbyBabe86 · 26/03/2026 13:12

Sorry to be the one to say it, but from experience, y9’s are the worst!

Exactly what I was going to say!!!!

It’s the year we ignore who they were and by year 10 and 11 enjoy who they’ve become!