A genuine or accidentally-on-purpose email sent by mistake?

Bloody hell. No wonder years ago wives of bosses were against women being hired in offices in case they tempted the men 🙄 I thought that we were past this and women could talk to men professionally? You are hindering women professionally with this attitude.

Sorry for butting in.. but imo, she's got trust and perhaps jealousy issues because of the personal comments towards this poor lady.. but mainly she doesn't trust him.

Maybe he saw some (work) potential in her and felt like a mentor/responsible manager as business owner or even father figure and wanted to support her career?

Why do you imagine there was inappropriate attraction from him?

Why do you imagine she was interested in him other than a boss/employer?

And she has left.the business. Get over it

She might or might not have fancied him and enjoyed the attention and flirty back and forth. We can't know. She was an intern at work, dressed smartly at work and responded with seeming interest to the much older far more powerful boss and owner when he engaged her in lengthy conversations. For all we know she was internally screaming "if i weren't entirely dependent on you for this job I would tell you 'shut the fuck up you old creep and stop eying me over with that pervy look on your face. Your poor wife saw you, she knows you're pathetic, just grow up and let me get on with my work.' God I wish I worked somewhere where the boss wasn't also the owner and a middle aged letch."

We don't know do we. Meanwhile it certainly sounds as though he fancied her, or did a very good impression of fancying her. That is his fault not hers. If the only thing stopping him returning to being a middle aged letch - which is what you are worried about - is never having anything do with her again, then that is not her fault now is it.

In that case, you have zero right to police his 'gawping' and 'stupid chit chat'. Do you also choose his clothes for fear that left to his own preferences he might wear outfits that you consider gormless?

So what's prompting you to check his emails and WhatsApp messages?

I agree.

@roses19837 just give a rest and move on. Nothing to see here.

It sounds like you don't. If you trust him, 100 women could send him naked pics and it shouldn't bother you!!

Why do you think an email addressed to a group is to get your husband's attention? If that was the case im sure she would have solely emailed him.

Christ is there some massive drip feed that it turns out your DH is a serial cheater? If not you need help OP.

You sound nice.

@roses19837 mumsnet has gone weirder than weird with comments going completely one way or the other with nothing in between , you've explained why your anxious and don't blame her but still the negative comments are coming, another day answers would be the complete opposite 🧐🤦‍♀️

I can’t believe you’ve put this on mumsnet. It is such a non-issue.

I am very hard line about appropriate behaviour with the opposite gender (no flirting or excessive gazing or attention- both me and DH choose to adhere to this), but this really sounds like it’s not worth a whole mumsnet discussion.

You didn’t like the way DH noticed her, fair enough. You also say there were no hints or efforts to cheat. She is also out of his life. It’s one random email sent to many. Honestly if she was trying to initiate something with him I’m pretty sure she would’ve just emailed him with a ‘hi how are you’ type email. What a long convoluted way to try to get attention from someone!

Either you let this go or you tell him that if she tries to get friendly with him he should block her. But this on its own? No, you would be unhinged to act on it.

Yabu. You have got yourself wound up over nothing.

How did you even know your DH received such an email?! I have literally no clue what emails my partner receives at work!

Honestly, you sound completely unhinged. This is clearly a husband issue either way, he’s married and you said he was eying her up and starting conversations whilst grinning like a cat? Well of course she is going to continue a conversation with the person who employed her?! So let’s not blame the young attractive female purely for being a young attractive female, thank you.

If he hasn’t done anything then why the venom towards the woman?

Don't trust your hubby then?

Also are you this misogynistic to all women?

Ok so it’s your husband you don’t trust.

That’s why you want him to block her.

I think you need to sit him down and have a serious talk. You need to tell him exactly how you’re feeling and why you don’t trust him.

If he’s got nothing to hide and has absolutely no interest in this ex-colleague then surely he’s going to say that and will reassure you.

I'm sorry OP but this has turned you loopy. You either need to decide to trust him or leave him because you don't. It's no life obsessing over boring emails from someone he's never even been alone with.

Well aren't you a delightful little red flag 🤣🤣🤣

What's going on @roses19837? You're clearly checking his messages and emails, no way did you see what an email was about just by glancing when you walked by. What's happened to make you feel you need to do this?

I've been you and it was because I had been cheated on and I needed constant proof that it wasn't happening again. I was so unhappy, and I'm getting the same vibe from you.