A genuine or accidentally-on-purpose email sent by mistake?

You have tickets on your husband that's for sure! 🤣

She getting stick because she’s looking at this the wrong way around.

She’s not wrong to suspect her husband of inappropriate behaviour but she’s assuming its the fault of the target of the inappropriate behaviour. Based on how she dresses etc.

There’s every reason to think her husband was flirting with this young woman. Very little evidence that she initiated it.

It’s victim blaming.

Well your husband is the problem then isn’t he? I wouldn’t stand for my DH eyeing up, ogling, becoming a silly school boy etc around a young intern. And yes, it’s plausible she was trying to get his attention with the email but only because he encouraged her when she worked with him and perhaps she misses the connection he brought about.

I haven't made any comment about the young woman, what about her? My comment was solely that I don't understand why this poster is getting so much stick for suspecting her husband of inappropriate behaviour.

she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc

This is classic deflection.

The bottom line is that you suspect that your husband fancied this woman (and it sounds like he did), so you are making unpleasant assumptions about her motives based on the way she presents herself.

I strongly suspect that it was driven by him more than her. She very likely just wanted to dress professionally for work or, God forbid, because she’s an attractive young woman.

Your problem is with your husband. If you don’t trust him, you need to be looking at the root cause and working out if you can stay in your marriage, rather than trying to police his contact (which never works).

And stop judging other women because you don’t trust him. This is your problem, not theirs.

And if my husband does that then he can eff off with her.

What about the ‘young woman who is just trying to do her job while being perved on by older man whose wife keeps a tight leash on him’?

It's very clear that his behaviour in the past with this woman has given you some justification for being concerned about his interaction with her. It's not surprising that you are now cautious of her interaction with him.

You are definitely snooping on him, you couldn't possibly know what the email was about and that he didn't reply if not, but given what you report I'm not surprised you are wary.

I don't know why you're getting quite so much stick from people, the "older husband falls for younger woman who's nice to him at the office" is a well worn story.

You sound quite unhinged.

And you didn't read that level of detail just walking by, you clearly snooped in his email.

With the mooning and the mentionitis, it’s obvious you suspected an affair, maybe not unreasonably.

It’s also obvious you didn’t read an email by chance as you walked past.

You don’t trust him. That’s the issue

I’m finding it hard to see how you could possibly have a good marriage. But that wasn’t your question and it’s none of my business.

Unless you have a history of irrational jealousy and this is not the first time you’ve got wound up by your husband talking to women then I’d say your spidey senses are telling you that your husband cannot be trusted with this woman.
Despite you saying you trust your husband, you obviously don’t otherwise you wouldn’t be wanting him to block her.As you say he has been very attentive to her in the past.
You cannot control him and how he behaves and it’s unfair to make her the villain of the piece. Stop trying to control him - if anything is going to happen between them then it will whether she is blocked or not. You’ll know if it does.

This girl is not the problem. Your DH is, surely.

Why tolerate him “leering”? You talk like your DH is a victim here suggesting that this girl is “sneakily” trying to lure him in (Actually, your misogyny is also a big part of the problem)

When in reality if the emailed was sent to a load of people it was probably just an accident. I’ve done it, it happens all the time.

Either this woman added your husband in error or she's sent the email to every contact she has, regardless if the content is relevant to them or not. If she's promoting a business, then she's liking sent the email to all her contacts...no your husband might not be in the industry she's promoting, but someone he knows might be!

I certainly don't see her sending the email to your husband deliberately, in the hope of starting a conversation with him! I'm not really sure how your thought process has arrived at this.

No, you can't ask your husband to 'block' her. For what reason? Your reason isn't logical. Your husband hasn't replied to this woman, by your own admission.

You either trust your husband or you don't. There's no in-between.

I don’t know if I’d like it tbh.
Sounds like dh had a crush on her while they were working together, op had to speak to her dh about being inappropriate and overstepping. Once she left the business it obviously fizzled out. Now she’s popped back up on his e mail.
Dh May have ignored the e mail at the time, but he can always reply later.
We are always being told to trust our gut and nip this in the bud on here.

Your poor DH. Stop this, think about what you’re saying and what you’re asking your DH to do, based on nothing.

@roses19837 I don’t think you are understanding what people are saying. If you are worried about this woman contacting your husband, something is making you feel insecure about the friendship that was developing between them. Therefore you either don’t trust your husband, or you feel this woman is after him.
If you think this was just a friendship, why can’t they be friends, maybe your husband just found her interesting and they connected in a way that he hasn’t with other employees. As she is not working for him anymore, what is the worry about them being in contact?

Why would she enjoy attention from someone 20 years her senior who was (to use your words) leering, staring at her, gawping, was fascinated by her, giving her "special treatment", mooning over her.

As someone who's been in that position before, she didn't enjoy the attention. She realised she was on an internship and didn't feel able to tell him to piss off and stop being a creepy old man because he was the business owner. That she left the business after the internship says a lot.

This woman is innocent and your DH is the office creep.

Or she was using him to get ahead,
probably way more likely.

He probably did find her a breath of fresh air, attractive and if she was a good worker simply wanted to help her.
If she wanted to get in contact she could’ve just emailed him directly.

You seem very controlling, unless your work place is the same workplace why on earth were you taking your dogs in there and hanging around. His work emails should be confidential too strictly speaking. If there was a full on affair suspected, yes I’d snoop. But you have zero evidence of that.
Doesn’t everyone have a certain amount of ‘chit chat’. It just reads very OTT considering he’s done as you asked and she’s left! Sounds embarrassing.

Unbelievable! If my dh imtimated that there was a level at which I was able to laugh & joke to another male colleague he'd be out on his ear!
And how insulting to the young lady that she dresses well & is well groomed just for men. It's not the 1950's you know!

I read ‘the bit of background information’ and I’m afraid it just made you sound weirder and madder.

i feel sorry for your DH

youre crazy

You sound like the poster upset at a woman for talking to her DH on a plane. Utterly batshit crazy.

This woman has given you no indication whatsoever that she’s after your husband or that she’s even after attention.

Women can make an effort with hair and make up and not do it to get attention from men.

Women can be chatty and friendly without trying to be flirty or get something more.

The issue here is your insecurities, and not this lady who has done nothing wrong at all.

I actually don't think it's controlling to tell your DH that his leering at a much younger, much junior employee is inappropriate. I'm glad he modified his behaviour. I think you are unreasonable to blame her and claim she enjoyed his attention. It was probably difficult for her to tell him to fuck off when she's an intern and he is the boss.