A genuine or accidentally-on-purpose email sent by mistake?

Yes, but I think the issue is the op didn’t say this and came up with the “just passing by but read a whole email” story

If you trust your husband then I don’t see the problem. He hasn’t replied to the email, I assume isn’t going to, and probably now thinks this woman is a bit incompetent because she’s CC’ing random people into what should be confidential emails. If she likes attention I’m sure she is getting plenty where she now works. Is your issue that DH didn’t immediately delete the email and block his former colleague/intern, or that he didn’t mention the email to you - as you said, why would he? I think this is a non issue

Do you think he'll fuck her because she sent a round robin email about writing web content

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This!!!

Somewhere, this poor woman is probably thinking "shit! I accidentally copied in creepy Colin instead of nice Colin. I hope the staring perv doesn't use it as an excuse to try talking to me again."

Do you think he'll fuck her because she sent a round robin email about writing web content that clearly was aimed at someone else?

You have a husband problem in that case. But no you can't demand he blocks people just because they are younger than you and female.

Are you usually this insecure?

Not just the boss, the owner of the business. after an internship with my DH's business last summer. She probably thought she couldn't tell him to back off without causing problems for herself. I do think that her no longer working there despite doing an internship there speaks volumes.

The male in question being your actual boss too. Imagine going to work and not speaking to your boss 😂

I think it’s a bit of a shock when you’re in a long term, steady relationship when you realise the other partner might be attracted to someone else and perhaps enjoy the attention or difference of them. It’s new and flattering. The best thing to do is to talk about it together, tell him you feel a bit threatened still and see what he can do to make you feel more secure (this might be blocking contact or more reassurance). It’s one of the tests of marriage, I think, to see how you negotiate these blips.

Maybe also you need to reassess your relationship? Has it become complacent, does it need more excitement, more connection?

I think this may be more about how you’re feeling than anything else. If you’re not drip‑feeding information, and your husband has never given you a reason to feel paranoid, it may be that you’re overthinking the situation.

It’s also possible that she added him by mistake — that’s very easy to do, especially when platforms suggest people you’ve previously emailed or interacted with.

The comment about her appearance (“she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention…”) comes across as insecurity rather than evidence. Taking care of how you look doesn’t mean someone is seeking attention, and that assumption feels unfair..... quite weird actually!!

@roses19837

How do you feel about yourself?

Do you feel attractive?

Would you like DH to “moon” about you a bit more?

There is a reason the intern is still getting under your skin.

OP equates turning up to work looking presentable and decent, and not immediately closing down any conversation a male might start with "wanting attention". Based on that, and the rest of her posts, I'm minded to think that her husband isn't actually leering, staring and lapping up everything this Woman says, and his interactions are just actually.....normal.

The story about happening to see the Google photo doesn’t really sound likely unless it was blown up to full screen. You admit you have been through his WhatsApp before, if you do say anything to him, at least admit to him you were snooping through his emails.

If she has any worries, they should be in respect of her husband.... not a random intern whi happened to brush her hair 🙄

There's nothing really in the OPs story that I'd be concerned about her husband having an affair. On the other hand I think she is completely unhinged... like who follows their husband around his workplace and interjects into his conversation with his staff and then tells him how he is allowed speak to said staff? A loon... thats who.

This is interesting. I style my hair every morning, put on makeup and try to look smart/nice everyday. I had no idea I was trying to have an affair! What should I do? Stop washing? Stop talking to the opposite sex at work? Tell HR immediately?

OP this is crazy. And your constant need to justify your behaviour and justify your feelings all amounts to you seeming unhinged.

Let it go FFS.

Another one saying this is crackers. Apparently you trust your DH and this woman has done absolutely nothing wrong - it's the most innocuous group email ever - and yet you're scratching around overreacting to some heinous and entirely imagined crime of her 'wanting attention', when you're the one who's so needy of attention that other women need to be blocked in case your DH likes them in any way, benign, leering or entirely in his/your head. You need help - and to stop policing his email however 'accidentally'. I get plenty of group emails from people I used to work with and its no one's business to fantasise relationship dramas from them. I'd think my DH was unhinged if he told me to block someone on that basis.

Why are you in his inbox? If you were a man I’d be telling your wife to leave you.

But that’s the fault of the husband, not the woman who was on the receiving end of him being a creep.

No one’s disputing that the OP has a right to be concerned. Its the emphasis which is wrong and the unpleasant sexist attitude that its her fault.

OP you sound really insecure, jealous and immature. I doubt she did it to get his attention. Maybe she did do it because she values his professional input though.

I was always dressed immaculate at work, long hair done perfectly, make up done, nicely dressed, nails done because it made me feel better and in certain professions means you get more respect to. It didnt mean I was after anyone's husband. I wasn't although I may have liked some of the men I worked with because they were decent people. Maybe she was just being pleasant? I always was because I was professional.

If your feeling insecure tackle that.

Her behaviour is unhinged - snooping through emails and WhatsApp, knowing how much he chatted to each employee, blaming the woman for daring to be well groomed. None of this is normal.

Then what the helm is your problem?!
You don’t blame her.
You don’t suspect him.
Wind your neck in and stop trying to control your husband’s interactions with your inane insecurities.

She's a worried woman, rightly so based on past experience of this pairing in a work situation and in that context her behaviour is far from unhinged.

Have you seen how many threads on MN start this way then the OP wakes up to the fact that they are in denial about their partner? The signs are all there in this one.

Oh dear OP, you are saying that because someone takes pride in their appearance they are looking for attention. I do my hair and a bit of make up daily to make me feel good about me, not for anyone else's benefit or as attention seeking. Has it ever crossed your mind that she is doing the same and not to attract your DH or attention.

Anyone should be able to look how they like, dress how they like without being accused of attention seeking!!!!

She is doing nothing wrong here, your DH from what I understand was being kind to someone when they worked together and have had no contact apart from this one email since she left the company. An email which he hasn't responded to, just skipped past it.

You need to get over your insecurities.

Because that ISN'T what the OP is saying.
She is saying that she knows her husband was never inappropriate (although on the other hand mentions his leery behaviour she out a stop to)... and instead is blaming a young professional women for speaking to her husband and getting dressed up for work.

She's trying to say her absolutely unhinged behaviour reading her husbands email and WhatsApp messages, telling him who he can and cannot speak to etc is all warranted because a 20 something year old intern cared about her appearance 🙄