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A genuine or accidentally-on-purpose email sent by mistake?

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roses19837 · 25/03/2026 19:50

Yesterday I saw that DH received a what appears to be obviously an accidental email from a former, younger female employee. The email was addressed to a group, staring 'hi all,' and from what I could see, was all about writing content for a website. Nothing to do with what DH does. DH just left the email, didn't reply, and went back to his inbox. He never mentioned it to me, but why would he? A silly accidental email is no piece of news really...

This employee left the company after an internship with my DH's business last summer.

As a bit of background, most of DH's work was from home, so he didn't see this woman in person all that often.

I used to suspect that DH was a bit too chatty and familiar with this young woman, although he never contacted her inappropriately outside of work. I met her several times when I went with DH to the office, and he always seemed smily and enthralled with her and what she was saying, which I did have words with him about, and he did later tone this down.

I wonder whether this girl 'accidentally on purpose' sent this email, in an attempt to strike up a conversation with DH? If so, would it be worth me telling DH to block her? I did used to wonder whether she liked the attention he gave her before I had words with him (she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc). I could of course just be overthinking this

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Namechangenoidea · 25/03/2026 20:16

I agree with the unhinged. You need help. Your thought process is not normal.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/03/2026 20:14

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 19:50

Yesterday I saw that DH received a what appears to be obviously an accidental email from a former, younger female employee. The email was addressed to a group, staring 'hi all,' and from what I could see, was all about writing content for a website. Nothing to do with what DH does. DH just left the email, didn't reply, and went back to his inbox. He never mentioned it to me, but why would he? A silly accidental email is no piece of news really...

This employee left the company after an internship with my DH's business last summer.

As a bit of background, most of DH's work was from home, so he didn't see this woman in person all that often.

I used to suspect that DH was a bit too chatty and familiar with this young woman, although he never contacted her inappropriately outside of work. I met her several times when I went with DH to the office, and he always seemed smily and enthralled with her and what she was saying, which I did have words with him about, and he did later tone this down.

I wonder whether this girl 'accidentally on purpose' sent this email, in an attempt to strike up a conversation with DH? If so, would it be worth me telling DH to block her? I did used to wonder whether she liked the attention he gave her before I had words with him (she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc). I could of course just be overthinking this

You are overthinking however as you don’t trust him or her, it doesn’t matter what people say.

Do you normally poke through his work emails? Given it was a group email, it would have been a mistake. If she wanted to contact your husband, do you not think she would have been far more subtle?

Have you ever sent an email to the wrong person. I have (as have pretty much everyone I know!).

Your comments about her wanting attention because she was well groomed are hideously misogynistic.

If you tell him to block her, you will look unhinged.

Hollowvoice · 25/03/2026 20:08

She sent a group email. To a lot of people. About something your DH doesn't know about.
And you think that was her attempt to start a conversation with your DH?

Crunchymum · 25/03/2026 20:00

Your thought process on this is bonkers.

Please tell us the massive back story as to why you think / react this way?

Janesput · 25/03/2026 19:58

Isn't it all a bit weird that you "saw" this email at all?

I think you have issues OP. I doubt this woman is one of them.

Batties · 25/03/2026 19:57

You can’t actually be serious? Is there some background information you are leaving out?

thirtyfourpercent · 25/03/2026 19:56

He ignored it so I’d follow his lead if I were you.

Evaka · 25/03/2026 19:56

Fucking hell OP, this is a lot. No, don't tell your husband to block an ex colleague because he found them charming and interesting.

MasterBeth · 25/03/2026 19:55

Unless the content this woman is asking for is erotic poetry, I think you can let this one go.

A group email about websites doesn't sound like the start of an illicit relationship.

Uptightmumma · 25/03/2026 19:54

No she has on purpose email every single person she knows hoping someone will use her, recommend etc. she’s done it to try and promote her business.

as a business owner I can not tell you the amount of emails I get from former work colleagues, people who had found me on LinkedIn etc who have special offers on or could really help boast my business profile!

she’s just changing her arm that someone needs her help. She won’t even know who see sent it too- it will have been a send to all thing

Janesput · 25/03/2026 19:53

I think you sound ever so slightly unhinged.

Would you really "tell" him to block someone? Would he do that to you?

PollyBell · 25/03/2026 19:52

He is an adult who can make his own decisions i would not tolerate being dictated to by my husband so wouldn't do it to him